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Crooked Ex-Boss

Posted by: waterlily_07
Date: 1/20/2006 2:27:15 PM

I left my job of two years just yesterday. I worked @ at a residential setting for mentally handicapped adults. I had issues with the boss in concern with the way the residents were being treated several times. I never confronted the issues because I felt intimidated of her due to the fact that I am very young and I am a easy come easy go kind of girl. She has been seasoned over the years, she's rough around the edges, and non-emotional. In that two year period I never received a raise. Just days before I quit she sent out a memo stating that all staff were to get a twenty-cent rasie. I thought well, somethings better than nothing, but I knew I was worth more than that. I got along with almost all the staff, and I absolutely adored working with the residents. I showed up for work everyday on time, I was dependable productive staff. My boss has a bad habit of writing notes to everyone instead of talking to them personally. She complains that she has 3 jobs and dosen't have time to talk personally often. I was accused by a staff member of eating a bowl of beans before taking a resident out to go shopping? She told my boss that I had cheated a client out of 30min.shopping time.Instead of calling me, and telling me what the problem was, she writes a note. Stating it has come to her attention that I allegedly cheated client out of shopping time and that it may fall under medicare fraud charges. She told me to write an explanation on the back if the info was not accurate. I had a witness who was also a staff write a letter of clearance testifying that the other staff's accusations were false. I slip the letter under the door, along with a letter that I had wrote to her. I wrote the letter very carefully, making sure to not offend her.I even had another staff read before submitting. The letter said that my feeling were somewhat hurt that a staff would make false accustaions, and I asked nicely to please call me next time if something serious like false accusation happens again. I stated that there were a few issues regarding the mistreatment of clients that I wanted to address. Such as making clients go out in tornadic weather, making clients go out when they are ill, and not feeding clients enough food. I wrote this all in a professional manner, I never once blamed her for anything. There was no-name calling or anything to that degree in the note. She calls me two days later stating that she is very offended by the letter. I say, oh, well I apologize that was not my intent. She says I am not going to call you over pity issues like such. I refuse to waste my cell phone min. and roam to call you. Don't tell me how to do my job, she kept yelling @ me over the phone. I say I am not telling you how to do your job, I know you know your job. She was yelling @ me saying that she didn't need my input in the whole ordeal because she had other staff's note to testify on my behalf. I told her there were serious issues with the clients that needed to be addressed. She didn't want to hear them? She said she didn't know why I was still talking, because she wasn't going to listen to another word. She told me if I had a problem, I need to stop @ her office before 3pm. I told her I am not going to get down on her level and scream and rant and rave. I told her, I'll take my complaints to your employer. She said, yeah, you go ahead, call me boss. I asked for her employer's number, and then she hung up on me. Does her behavior sound approprite to you? She is always preaching be professional, but she flipped her lid. I called her employer. I am sure she contacted her employer before I did because I had to call information to get her employers number. I called her employer and she sounded as if she already knew the whole story before I could tell her the problem. She said well, "Patty" is an exceptional woman, she's a great teacher, and a mentor. Perhaps she is just having a bad day because she is overworked."Patty is a RN and I think Patty does a great job. I was stunned. First off Patty's employer has a office that is 100miles away. She's not there with those clients everyday to see how they are getting treated or feed. I am. Also Patty has made it a business to rent rentals to other handicapp clients in town. Her ex. husband owns the rentals and charges outlandish prices for the apartments. The jiff is her ex. husband is still living with her at home, she admits to that. I left my job to save my self-esteem and my health. That's said and done, I am fine with that. I am still new to the game, I will find something that fits me. I have been considering going to college. I want to know what I can do about these abused clients. They still have to live there and put up with that crap. Who do you contact above Patty's employer?

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