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What do do if ex boss bad mouthing you?
Posted by: hatlady
Date: 2/10/2006 7:56:15 PM
I worked for 7 years at a large software company. I left there for another job. Then I was laid off. It's been 6 months and I haven't found a job. I think my boss from the software company is badmouthing me. Is there anything I can do?
| Reply from: |
growasetof |
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2/10/2006 11:30:00 PM |
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why would you think this? Most bosses don't have much spare time on their hands to plan out the demise of thier ex-employees. |
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hatlady |
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2/11/2006 1:13:00 AM |
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Well, this boss was so bad, I talked to HR several times about certain instances. On the exit interview, I told how I felt and hard it was to work for that boss. |
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| Reply from: |
growasetof |
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2/11/2006 10:40:00 PM |
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My advice going forward...don't ever do that again. When you leave, leave gracefully, no matter how you feel about your boss/company. Never stir the s**t as you never know if it will come back to bite you. Having said all that, I still don't think your ex-boss is doing anything as negative comments about ex-employees can be dangerous from a legal standpoint. I rather doubt your ex-boss would risk his job over bad-mouthing you. |
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hatlady |
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2/12/2006 5:10:00 PM |
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You are right about not leaving on a bad note. I regret it now. So immature on my part. I wasn't thinking legally, I was thinking about my resume. I guess I shouldn't put that part of my job time on my resume. Unfortunately, it was 7 years, I was there and worked with that person. That's a long time. You would think that would say something about my character, don't you think? |
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hatlady |
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2/12/2006 5:35:00 PM |
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Should I pay someone $75 to do a reference ck and see what they are saying? There are companies that do that. At least they advertise they do, maybe it's a scam and they take your money and make up stuff.
It's tough getting a job. And several I should have had, the hiring person say I would get the job and then they come back after checking resumes and change their minds. I was afraid to ask why they changed their mind. I'm not a forceful or A type personality. So that's why I thought maybe something was being said.
I just don't know what to put on my resume. And I don't want to bring it up in the interview. Unfortunately, I need to work, or go homeless and hungry.
So I have to keep going on. |
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| Reply from: |
growasetof |
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2/13/2006 8:20:00 PM |
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don't leave it off your resume. Big gaps in time aren't good. And I wouldn't bother with the reference check using an company that provides that service. If your really interested, have a friend pose as a potential employer and call them. I really don't think you'll get anything out of it though as it's very dangerous to badmouth a prior employee. Keep your chin up...if your prior company was your first employer or most substantial employer, your probably gonna have a ruff go at it for awhile. Take it from me, the more you move around, the more attractive you become to potential employers. More experience with more companies will open doors. You'll see. |
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| Reply from: |
hatlady |
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2/13/2006 11:05:00 PM |
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Thanks for the advice! It helps to hear from others and get their view point. |
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| Reply from: |
loani |
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3/29/2006 4:49:00 PM |
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If you've had to go to HR about certain instances then he/she probably is saying inappropriate things about you.
Just because it's against the law, people still do it. I work in HR and conduct reference checks on a daily basis and you'd be surprised to hear what people say. I would get someone you know to do a reference check and find out exactly what this guy is saying.
I do agree that it is best to never burn bridges when you leave. |
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