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Excellent resource about bullying and mobbing
Posted by: matildagsd
Date: 7/22/2008 9:55:15 AM
The following web site has a list of articles that provide insight on the bullying/mobbing syndrome, with emphasis towards academia, although certainly they can be applied to other work environments. Some of you posters should find the site particularly revealing - I know I did!:):): http://www.arts.uwaterloo.ca/~kwesthue/mobbing.htm
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matildagsd |
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7/22/2008 1:52:00 PM |
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Here's another one:
http://www.nobullyforme.org/index.shtml
Amen! |
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matildagsd |
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7/22/2008 2:02:00 PM |
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Wanted to add a few excerpts from the last link I provided. I'll provide quote marks, because I sure don't want to be accused of plagiarism!
"Contrary to popular opinion, those most vulnerable to mobbing are not subservient, easily intimidated or insecure, Steven Hill stresses. In fact, they are generally well-liked, principled, technically competent, co-operative and non-confrontational. "A bully considers such personal strengths and abilities a threat and decides to cut them down," he says.
"As targets usually do nothing to merit dismissal and tend to ignore subtle cues to leave, they are subjected to harassment designed to force them out." |
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matildagsd |
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7/22/2008 2:15:00 PM |
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And another excerpt for your files:
"Who are the bullies in our midst? Some bullies are outwardly aggressive and relish playing visible, leading roles; others operate below the radar, using gestures, facial expressions, tone of voice and other non-verbal messages to ridicule, demean or threaten their targets. Most experts agree that such devious tyrants are the most dangerous. They know what they want but hide their objective beneath a veneer of charm, pretending to act in the best interest of others, especially their employers. Often, only the target sees their darker side."
Note that last line. You better believe it. And don't expect your coworkers to care or to come to your rescue. Its entertaining and easier for coworkers to play along with the bully than to admit that his/her dark side is, ultimately, a menace to everyone. You never know who these bullies will set off and they tend to endanger innocent bystanders.
Finally, lobbying for laws against bullies who entrench themselves in your workplaces like ticks is your best bet to change things. Don't be swayed by disclaimers, threats or ridicule. And oh yeah, have a sense of humor about it, no matter who you petition or what you write to shed light on the subject. A bully wants you mad, upset, confused and unable to sleep at night - don't give them the satisfaction. |
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