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still stunned

Posted by: cassie
Date: 8/29/2008 3:26:54 PM

Like most of the people on here, my boss started out charming, friendly, we even started sharing cars. Two then became three. It was then I noticed that if the third person asked me a question or tried to talk to me directly my boss would answer. There was even one instant where the third person called me by name and she answered for me in the third person. I have asked her about this but I got the usual I dont do things like that.

There was no opportunity for me to join in conversations unless I was rude and aggressively interrupted - maybe I need to develop this streak?

I also noticed that during the car journey I became increasingly depressed due to her conversations so I would turn up to work really down. I stopped having lifts and felt much better.

I was on probation and I was asked for a meeting. This took place in a glass sided office so everyone who walked past could see what was going on. She then revealed she had stopped helping me for the last 2 weeks I was there. meanwhile I had been working hard to achieve the work targets set. She had absolutley nothing positive to say, a very uncompromising attidude, very stern, hard faced and you just know when there is no point even trying to defend yourself as you know your words will be twisted which they were when I tried.

She threw a comment from a referee at me. I knew this person just would not say what had been said and I went back to check. It hadn't been said and this person did say it looked as though my boss just wanted rid. I am now going to get written references in future in light of this. I have been through something similar before and had I know what was happening would have insisted a 3rd person was there.

I asked the owners of the company if in the light of these things they would guarantee a fair reference but even the owners have decided to ignore me, not even a courtesy standard reply. I now face the prospect of trying to get round a bad reference which I am not looking forward to.

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