In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People
Reviewer/Reader Feedback: "This book is an excellent tool for anyone manipulated by a covert aggressive personality... I never knew there was a model for this personality type! This is an excellent book for all to read, should you ever come across a covert manipulative personality that stops at nothing to get what they want, yet somehow makes it look like it's not them. They're not hurting, stressed out or insecure, they're just going to get things the way they want!"
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Date: 10/11/2005 1:16:00 PM
Thank you so much for providing this information without charge. It had servered to help me not feel as if what I thought I was observing was something made up. The information casuses me to accept as true the observations made and start on a course of where do I go from here. We have been married for over 26 years and this has been happening to me for most of that time and I was so unaware of it. But, again thans you for your insight and help.
Date: 11/15/2005 12:47:00 PM
I have to agree with the 10/11/2005 comment above. I have been married 23 years and have been dealing with a VERY manipulative person, furthermore, I am the typical abusee that is noted in the excerpts..wow, I am not going crazy!!! Thank you so much. I am looking to purchase this book and read it from front to back many times.
Date: 3/21/2006 2:33:00 PM
The book has excellent information, is well written in addition to being easy to understand. A helpful guide for people trying to make sense out the bad behaviors of others.
People who feel they need to 'win' by harassment and bullying, leave damaged people along their way; people who never deserved to be mistreated.
Date: 10/20/2006 6:31:00 PM
I am having great difficulty with a hostile aggressive personality type and trying to give feedback to this person is a nightmare. She will look away, start crying, say that it is her word against mine etc etc. Tried to do a probationery appraisal with her and she cried in front of my boss the whole time and called me a liar! She is the one who is lying. I am making notes whenever there is a problem and am very careful in the tone of my voice and what i say in my delivery. She will lie to cover her tracks......HELP
Date: 10/22/2006 10:10:00 PM
anonymous - i feel for you. i work with a manipulative person at work who is tarnishing my good reputation. she is a junior partner at the law firm and i was told every year i'm on partner track until 9 months ago, when she stated i am "difficult." she has so manipulated many of the other partners that they are now questioning ME! she's so good at her manipulating..and she's good at her job, which makes it hard for many to see. some do see her for what she is..and it think in time (although not soon enough for me), others will see her for who she is. from the reading i've done on manipulative people (since one is about to ruin my career), they get found out eventually. hang in there...rise above her...don't stoop to her level.
Date: 1/22/2007 6:41:00 AM
I have a brother who is manipulative. He uses every excuse not to work and live off others and me! He's so good at it, he has managed to live quite well off me and others in the family for over 10 years without working -- although he says he wants to find a job and work. He uses every excuse including suicide as to why he can't when pressed to get a job. I think he'd take first place in any contest for a manipulator. It won't work on me every again. He will NEVER get another dime or help of any kind. I'm all used up at this point.
Date: 1/22/2007 6:43:00 AM
I too have a manipulative family member and know how you feel. Even though I feel stupid for not seeing how I was being manipulated sooner, it no longer works (just like my brother does not work) on me and now he does not talk to me since he found out I will not give him money anymore either. Hang in there, you are better off with sincere people than a manipulative family member.
Date: 1/24/2007 12:46:00 PM
I live with a very manipulative person and it's never her. Her daughter is also the same way...they blame everyone else for there issues. Manipulative people always make you feel bad, like it's your fault but in reality it's them. Whenever I tell her about articles I have read on manipulation, she gets really angry so I keep it to myself now. I am definitely going to purchase this book. I need all the help I can get...she tries to change a person to her liking and will get out of a relationship if it's not working for her....then she blames the person for everything. It's a hassle in my household....
Date: 3/13/2007 8:46:00 AM
I'm soooo getting this book!! I'm a biomedical engineer who just started doing collaborative research with this new engineer who seemed to be bright and self-assured, yet have been trying to one-up me on every occasion since he showed up for the job, to my confusion. I'm like "Owwww! Dude, your foot's already in the door, kindly desist from knifing me in the stomach... and relax!" He appears (almost claims) to manipulate people for fun to show how fast his clock speed is... and not out of some burning pathological need to do it. But that's just an appearance. Addiction is when you just GOT to do something - and I think he's addicted to trying to get people to play competition with him. I am in general very trusting, have been called "naive" all my life. But I have worked as a union organizer for 5 years and have dealt with my share of these aggressive psychopaths one way: cut them out of my life. But my company's already signed a collaboration contract with them and I finally have to find a way to work with the guy. I am very annoyed, intimidated, and somewhat amused. The book sounds good right about now!
Date: 9/17/2007 2:56:00 PM
thanks for the input above. For several years I have been with a man who has made me feel nuts. Nothing is never his fault, and he has a way of twisting things around, so that I dont know whether I'm coming or going. I'm don't trust my own gut anymore, and I never was like that. I was always a strong, independant woman, I own my own business, smart , attractive, raising two wonderful daughters on my own, and I can't help wonder if I'm crazy when this man, gets done with me. I will buy the book and hope to find some much needed relief so that I can get my life back on track.
Date: 10/31/2007 10:32:00 AM
Thank you so much for your book, it is giving me a great deal of insight into the "Serial Bully" at my workplace. I hae already started to pass on the information to work colleagues and he much be getting rattled because he has just "Played victim" to our boss -one of the most commonest Serial Bully tactics there is! Thanks again.
Date: 6/12/2008 1:07:00 PM
A family member has managed to pull the wool over everyone in the family...until now. I was so relieved to discover that people with certain characteristics described as covert aggressive pesonalities are basic manipulators. That if they want something; out of fear they will stop at nothing in order to obtain it.
Now, that I am aware of the problem...where do I go from here.
To remain in the same house with this family member is asking for too much to ask of myself as well as my two boys. I'm am contemplating moving even though it was my home this family member moved into. I would love to out smart him but and wish there was a way to do it rather than leaving. To regain my peice of mind...maybe leaving is the only answer. Just venting...
Date: 6/30/2008 5:08:00 PM
ive only realised it a few months ago, he wont admit a thing, no thanks, he will nether admit to it anyway, its his loss, i started playin his own game and when i started to beat him he just simply left, i open my mouth at every single move he tried to make and he could't take that everery one was going to know about his sick game. he tries to make me feel guilty, and plays the victim, well now who's lagthin, he lost me his home his daughter, but he'd rather found some one else to manipulate then surander...
Date: 8/28/2008 2:05:00 PM
I have 2: husband and daughter. It is an unusual character trait. Because of finances and prayer I have to deal with them both -- but the rest of our children see through it now as well. I've learned it is best to be educated and rise above the game playing. As one manager told me: "I just don't deal with passive-aggressive types, they obey the rules or they leave." It is limits that have to be set and consequences or they walk all over you. I'm glad there is a book -- just discovered this site and wondering who complied the information I need. Thank you!
Date: 10/23/2008 1:49:00 PM
i am thankful regarding this eye opening book, i was married to a man from nigeria and once he arrived here to be with me his behavior was so bizarre to say the least and never did he take any responsibilty for anything, he has this feeling he does nothing wrong its all me, i have never experienced such behavior and started researching and came across your book, it describes what i lived to a T. I still am inclined to wonder what happens when they dont get what they ultimately want? its a scarey thought
Date: 5/22/2009 3:12:00 AM
I just bought this book and am totally looking forward to reading it. I have a dad and a brother who are very manipulative. My brother is a great deal worse and he believes everyone else is to blame. I no longer tolerate manipulation from others and this book is going to be a great help to me in dealing with these types of people appropriately.
User: Heart Broken
Date: 10/30/2009 3:58:00 PM
married for 7 yrs, just realized my I married a manipulative person. just came accross your this book(In Sheep's Clothing), planning on reading it. Any advice/opinion on Will I be able fix my marriage by learning about his behivour?
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