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    my boss favors her friend (co-worker)

    Posted by: bubuhu
    Date: 11/19/2009 4:34:24 PM

    I have a boss(sd) who favors her friend, she is also a co-worker(mt). We all have a boss-boss. The co-worker and I don't get along, I am polite to her, she is not polite to me. They are good friends outside the office, dinner at each others house, yoga classes together, etc. Boss and I have a working relationship only. mt sometimes comes in late, takes extented lunch hours or leaves work early. mt wrote down on her time card that she had worked 8 hrs on her timecard, when she took a couple of extented lunch hours. When I got timecards (i do payroll) I went to the boss-boss and explained that time was written down, but not worked. When he asked sd about it she got mad and said it was not my place to question the hours, that was her job. I had talked to sd several times about mt coming back late and the other problems between us and always got the answer "I will talk to her about it", however nothing changed. I also went to the boss-boss and discussed the problems with him and he told me to come him if there were any problems and he would handle it.

    I believe that this is favoritism towards the other employee.

    Reply from: goodboss
    Date: 11/27/2009 7:08:00 PM
    Reply: If you're asking whether this favouritism is professional or not, well, it's not. If you're asking whether this favouritism is legal or not, well, unfortunately, it is. Favouritism is only illegal if it's based on things like race, gender, religion or disability, and so on.

    Reply from: bubuhu
    Date: 12/23/2009 2:52:00 PM
    Reply: How can it be legal to allow one employee to come in late, take extended lunch hours, etc and yet write it down as "time worked" when other employees are not allowed to do the same thing?? I don't believe that is legal or professional.

    Reply from: waitress2000
    Date: 1/26/2010 5:30:00 PM
    Reply: i too have same problem my boss hired a friend and she can do no wrong. she picks the tables she wants to wait on and she often starts half an hour later than scheduled time and gets paid for it

    Reply from: goodboss
    Date: 1/30/2010 4:55:00 PM
    Reply: bubuhu, I happen to be someone who trains employers and lawyers in employment law for a living, so I really do know what I'm talking about. While it's most definitely NOT professional or a boss to treat his/her friends with favouritism, it certainly IS legal, for the simple fact that there is no law against it. Period.

    Reply from: bubuhu
    Date: 2/19/2010 2:32:00 PM
    Reply: bodymax47, yes I am a real person with a bad boss.

    Reply from: bubuhu
    Date: 2/19/2010 2:55:00 PM
    Reply: goodboss - If you are right about this, how can I protect myself from discrimation from my bad boss? If I come in late...I get in trouble. If mt comes in late..she rights down she wasn't and nothing is ever said. When I complain I am told "it is not my concern and that I am being difficult" but yet the law in CA says that the payroll person is to verify that time cards are correct. I thought falsifing time cards was illegal??

    Reply from: goodboss
    Date: 2/20/2010 9:32:00 AM
    Reply: bubuhu, just as an aside, bodymax47 and JNannes are spam machines. To answer your question, unfortunately the kind of discrimination your boss is subjecting you to is perfectly legal. As a result, you really don't have any legal recourse. (Unfortunately.) If you personally aren't getting paid for every hour you work, you can file a claim for unpaid wages with the CA DLSE. If your employer fires you for filing this claim, you can file another claim with the DLSE for wrongful termination. You can also apply for (and receive) UI benefits. If you are being paid for all the time you work, and your concern is that your coworker is getting paid more than you think she should be then unfortunately, you have no legal recourse for this. If you continue to complain to your employer about your coworker's wages, your employer may legally fire you for this. I'm sorry that this all sounds pretty grim but unfortunately that's how the law works in the US - which has the least employee-friendly employment laws on the planet. Employees in China have better protections than their counterparts in the US! (Again unfortunately, for American employees, anyway).

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