Bullying isn't just on playgrounds -- meet the bully boss
"The character in "The Devil Wears Prada," which opens Friday, is fictional, but so-called "bully bosses" are an unfortunate reality, from the concrete canyons of New York City to the genteel small towns of Eastern Oregon."
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User: anonymous
Date: 11/2/2006 6:47:00 PM
Bullying (verbally abusive) bosses are common in science jobs too. Given the poor job prospects of most PhD "scientists" who are completely dependent upon government subsidizded (our taxes) grants--they use and abuse subordinates for their personal and professional gain. One PhD scientist bullied and verbally abused her post-doc trainees, techs, and secretary on an almost daily basis. Turnover was commonplace. And many suffered in silence given the need for a "good recommendation" from her. Compliance and silence--another corporate tactic. Bullying must be stopped. It should be illegal in the workplace similar to racism, sexism, religious bias, gender bias, etc.. Keep detailed logs of the abuse, then report to HR, employment relations, attorneys, anyone, for complete documentation. Usually the company will stand behind the perpetrator and blame the victim--classic corporate behavior. Have a T shirt made that states the abusers name and writtend in large black letters--as long as the abuse is truthful--for example, My boss, John Smith is a VERBAL ABUSER. In most cases one must quit, life is far too short to deal with ingrates, and socially inept scientists who rely heavily on grants and use foreigners to do the donkey work. That's America for ya.
User: rockiskwerl
Date: 1/7/2007 9:18:00 PM
I would paste articles on bosses being bullies onto my workstation. This sent a message that was loud and clear to the elementary school principal and the school staff.
User: anonymous
Date: 3/21/2007 10:32:00 PM
My boss rolls his eyes at me, sticks out his tongue and shakes his head at me. He is condesending and lacks good judgment for a man in his position. He shouldn't be collecting money from employees to place bets on the Lotto. Management love him and he lets the school bully run the school for him. I have out lasted six other principals; so hopefully his days are numbered.
User: anonymous
Date: 4/2/2007 10:04:00 AM
My boss makes my life Hell, my collegues say it's because she's jealous of me. it makes me really sad because i know i could learn a lot from her but she's letting her personel feelings interfer with work. She also gets other members of staff to join in her bullying, it really effects my work and it's a shame because i love my job
User: anonymous
Date: 4/26/2007 5:43:00 PM
I once had a boss who bullied many of us. Everyone agreed she bullied me the most. She was always telling me she would fire me if I did not do what she demanded. I felt pitty for her since she was a very insecure person. We were like a 150 employees that she suppervised and I and another co-worker (who she favored) were always competing for the first place on top producing. I decided that I was not going to take any from her so I contacted human resources. My immediated suppervisor told me that I had only made matters worse for myself. So I went again to HR and explained to them what had happened with my suppervisor which I knew had acted upon her request. Plus I told them about what I knew form her. We worked in a confidential area where electronics transactions took place. Millions of them. She allowed a "Good Friend" of hers to go in and do his transactions plus view his account balances. Since he was not an employee, He borrowed whoever's workstation my boss decided. She once asked me and I denied it to her.
Little did I know that at the time there was an investigation going on about thousands of dollars having disappeared from the bank. Ten employees were being questioned but not her. They called me to testify and so did I. They were going to fire the employees since regardless how bullied you were. I agree, however I categorized her behavior as harrasment and noone was fire. I never came back since all I could remember was how bad I felt at work how impotent to do anything about it. They only reacted because of the theft. She was not fired but was asked to resigned along with most of the other supervisors which were demoted. It is a shame it had to come to this.
As I said earlier I never went back. I opened my own business earn more than I did before and never ever, even if I have to sell door to door products will I ever work for anyone other than me. I am my own boss.
User: anonymous
Date: 5/12/2007 6:34:00 PM
Mobbing and bullying in the healthcare sector is rampant. At the present time, I am being mobbed in my workplace. I finally had the guts to report it. One new employee there actually told me that my boss wanted to fire me, and for several days she tried to get me to resign. I fell for it, but then found out that she made it all up because she was jealous of me. She even went so far as to ask me what size I wore and complained that she wished she had long hair like I did. The other members of the mob have been allowed to get away with murder for years, and I am not sure how, but my faith in the divine is strong and I look forward to justice being done from a higher authority.
Most of the mobsters are very jealous of me, spend their time running to my boss with false allegations and attempt to get me into trouble. So far, my boss has not said anything to me, but I am prepared when he does.
I suggest that a bullied or mobbed employee document significant events and keep a tab on the abusers.
User: anonymous
Date: 5/27/2007 9:02:00 PM
Read the rubric. "This is not a place..." and then either adhere to it or whinge somewhere else.
Oh, and learn to spell, capitalise and punctuate, too, so that you have a chance of being taken seriously and so adding to the solution rather than confirming that you are a part of the problem.
Peter Phillips
User: anonymous
Date: 6/21/2007 12:51:00 AM
Wow, Peter, might you be a bully?
User: anonymous
Date: 9/23/2007 1:16:00 PM
I work in a childrens' hospital. It used to be a very nice place to work. A family oriented workplace. It has now grown, and continues to grow into this monster corporate empire. Bullying and harassment by the hospital's administration and leadership is rampant. It's not about caring for sick and injured children anymore. It's about how to bring in a higher volume of patients and to create appointments that bring copious amounts of money. Leadership demands include employees to continuously multi-task, doing work that would normally take 3 or more people to do effectively, and requiring people to do health assessments in order to enroll in health insurance and to maintain employment. There are more trivial rules that create discord and mistrust amongst employees. A very stressful envirmonemt.
User: anonymous
Date: 9/23/2007 1:17:00 PM
I work in a childrens' hospital. It used to be a very nice place to work. A family oriented workplace. It has now grown, and continues to grow into this monster corporate empire. Bullying and harassment by the hospital's administration and leadership is rampant. It's not about caring for sick and injured children anymore. It's about how to bring in a higher volume of patients and to create appointments that bring copious amounts of money. Leadership demands include employees to continuously multi-task, doing work that would normally take 3 or more people to do effectively.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/8/2007 7:05:00 PM
I had a boss(office manager) in a doctors office that finally drove me insane, enough to call a meeting and reasing. she was always telling me what to do when i already been there 2.5 years it was difficult and the atmosphere totally change when she walk in the office, i hate the way she was and then she yelled at me and send me for a time out oh hell no i could not take that negative behavior from her so i am looking for another job and happy that i am no longer taking her abuse.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/9/2007 2:03:00 PM
My boss has favorites, yells at the ones who she does not like, picks upon them no matter how hard the least favorite worker works... could my boss qualify as the witch from hell.
How do i tell my boss to shove it up her ass?
User: anonymous
Date: 10/10/2007 4:56:00 AM
i work at a steel recycling plant the old owners decided to sell out and a korean company bought it. they sent in one korean guy saying he was going to be the new manager i have been working in the office part of the operations handling the cash part of the operations and trained him on the procedures of running the office. after about a year and a half i was told here is lets say kim su another korean woman and i was to train her to do everything that i normally do. in less than a weeks time this new person was checking over my work and starting to act like a boss. i asked the manager if she was a boss and he said no and for me to not start trouble or else he would have to move me to a different position out of the office. well a week later i was moved out of the office doing a very lousy position compared to what i was doing and things have been going down hill ever since he is constantly harrasing me amd just being a complete jerk. no one at the job likes him i really wish their was something that can be done legally to stop people like that
User: anonymous
Date: 10/16/2007 11:38:00 AM
Until bullying is made illegal in the work place it will continue. Current laws permit it and employers continue to block any attempts to put laws on the books to stop this behaviour. Until laws are put in place to stop this behavior, your only option is to leave and find another job. It is important to screen your next employer carefully, so you don't end up with another bullying boss, as these jerks are becoming more prevalent in American businesses. This trend appears to be somewhat related to the growing number of MBA's coming out of colleges with no real work experience. The only way these new MBA's know how to manage is through bullying.
User: anonymous
Date: 11/10/2007 11:23:00 PM
After I am set up with a new job elsewhere, and I am able to look my boss in the eye and say all of things that she needs to hear, and in front of all the other employees, with the office door wide open, my final words to her are going to be: "C U Next Tuesday!" She is too stupid to know what this is code for, but when she goes to relay the story to her upper-class friends & clients in high places, I just know she will say something like, "And she said she'd see me next Tuesday - how strange!" It's cracking me up just thinking about the looks on their faces!
User: anonymous
Date: 11/14/2007 11:04:00 PM
My bully boss was a jekyl/hyde. I never knew what to expect. She targeted me for a whole year. She'd call me into the office and close the door and act like an idiot losing her temper. Then we'd leave and she'd be as sweet as apple pie. I'd caught her lying on some reports and she figured I'd report her, so she wanted me out. She bullied so many that we finally filed a class action law suit against her. The school district got cushy jobs for some in the suit including a gag order. They dropped out of the suit and it fell apart. I quit my job, and am now unemployed. I'm terrified of letting myself be vulnerable to a boss. I now sell on ebay and early retired. In 31 years of working I never received below Outstanding in my evaluations, but with her I got an unsatisfactory even tho I worked two hours more every day without pay and did lots of extra work. Nothing I could do pleased her. She never gave me one compliment. She lied on my evaluation and left everything extra I did out of it. HR defined it as a personality conflict. Ha!
User: anonymous
Date: 12/18/2007 7:31:00 PM
bullies may be hired for your amusement. Stupid people need jobs too. People who bully others - are ABUSERS!!!!! ABUSERS have psychological issues SO DEEP....dont waste your precious working time - in trying to figure out what THEIR problem is....bullies eventually sink themselves - and corporations let them go. Corporations that suppt bullying behavior - are violating their own policies - GENDER HARASSMENT - can come into play here. Remeber this - SUPERVISORS CAN BE PERSONALLY SUED - so should your supervisor - NOT do his/her JOB - then by all means......seek legal services.
User: anonymous
Date: 12/25/2007 7:40:00 PM
I work for one of the nation's largest banks that screams against harrassnment yet supports it if the "boos" can bring in the $$. He gives the sales to his favorites and yanks sales from me. calls me names and makes sexual hints--I go along and play his game because I am so scared. This is normal for us.
User: anonymous
Date: 12/28/2007 12:54:00 PM
Sheila says, Any thoughts out there on this scenario where an owner of commercial property, while within legal rights to have security cameras installed, had done thusly without informing a particular worker - at least not until a month later, and only by word of another (employee) from the "inner circle". Would you feel violated?
User: anonymous
Date: 12/31/2007 9:34:00 AM
I have come to a place. were I belive my efforts to preform will be mock. So I HAVE LITTLE ZIP THESE DAYS. I cout my hours as if they are years, and I am prison. Talking and attemping to reson with my boss is a vain exersize. This frustration as reached all levels.
User: anonymous
Date: 1/5/2008 10:05:00 AM
I have an approx 30 yr old manager who is only concerned with herself looking good to upper management. She cares nothing for her employess, which are human beings, not robots. She's immature and obviously a hypocrite...she's power tripping, writing everyone up for minor offenses...then committing the very same offense herself the next day. I work for a major bank in a branch setting. The sad fact is that her manager is not on site to witness her offenses and hold her accountable. Reporting her to Human Resources will only escalate the problems for the individual, as she is a very vindictive person. I'm focusing on my duties and am confident in my performance....and biding my time, waiting for karma to catch up with her.
User: Sveltegirl
Date: 1/15/2008 12:23:00 PM
I worked as an Administrator in large Health Care organization. My immediate supervisor was an equal opportunity abuser, so I didn't take it personal. However, I learned later on that she was being abused by her superiors and one day she quit. They turned their attention to me and tried to write me up for all sorts of minutiae. One supervisor in particular would stand in the middle of the floor and scream at me at the top of her lungs. I was not fazed. Having with worked previously in the Legal/Compliance Department for a large organization in the private sector, I learned a lot about how far an employer can and will go to remove an employee or get them to quit. Another time, I was called in and they attempted to double-team me with verbal abuse and false accusations. I sat their quietly listening to the tirade and when all was said and done, I thanked them for the feedback and asked if they wanted the door closed. The look on their faces was priceless. Two months later, they called me in again, gave me a nice severance package, a letter of recommendation and thanked me for my contributions. I know the above scenario is not easy for everyone, but a good support group and some Yoga really helps.
User: Sveltegirl
Date: 1/15/2008 12:29:00 PM
Forgive the typos.
User: anonymous
Date: 6/23/2008 2:59:00 PM
I'm a wife that has a husband that was sexually harrassed and the boss was told by me after witnessing this thing pulling her top up to exposs herself to my husband. This boss still won't do anything about this thing as I can't call her female by keep sweeping it under the rug. Do I have a case to sue the owner who is the boss in regards to this case as it has being going on for three years.
User: anonymous
Date: 6/30/2008 6:02:00 PM
MY SUPERVISOR IS VERBALLY ABUSIVE HE IS A BULLY AND I AM NOT INTIMIDATED CAN ANYTHING BE DONE I HAVE SPOKE TO HIS SUPERVISOR AND WAS TOLD HE UPHOLDS HIS SUPERVISOR
User: anonymous
Date: 9/4/2008 10:52:00 PM
My supervisor is a Ph.D bully and mean. The HR is on his side... what a woman does just for male attention. they both suck.
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