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CHAOS IS THE WORD

Posted by: buddy
Date: 8/25/2006 2:43:00 PM

from: buddy

Okay, anybody out there, tell me where I have gone wrong with continually to deal with just an absolute troublesome boss. I've mentioned the same individual before.

Anyway, here's the latest debacle. We work at a newspaper. I am the editor of a certain section of the paper. We are a small aper. No more than 30 folks, maybe 10 in the newsroom. I am the sole full-time sports guy and I've been doing it for nearly 40 years. Repeat: nearly 40 years. I feel as if I can do it in my sleep (which I've probably done over the years). The newssroom editor came on board about five years ago. He's a former writer in the same area that we are now at a different paper before he came here. He and I hit it off right away because of common interests, yada, yada. But at times, I felt that he was "B.Sing" me on things off and on, however, and always had that feeling of just being a litte mistrustful.

Never was I told by the overall publisher-chief boss of our paper that he would delve into what I was doing or "meddle", if you will. But that's exactly what has happened. I covered an event yesterday and he was there, when he simply wanted to be and didn't have to be. I snap photos of the event because that's what I am assigned to do. He had his camera along, too. This morning, I put the photo that I thought would do well on the page. At just about the time deadline hits, he comes to me and asks, "would it hurt your feelings if we took your picture off and used the one I took because it shows more feeling in the person. I want to improve on what we're doing with the paper."

I came unglued and asked why, at such a late time and why all of a sudden--when this had never been mentioned before, that we suddenly have to be doing it.

It was a very intense one-on-one discussion. The day before, after I had spent the past month doing an entire tabloid of 40 pages solo, he came to me and mentioned a negative right away.

And i let him know about that, too. I am pretty perceptive of people and I have just felt he's really stroked my ego--all of us have one, don't we? to where it winds up setting me for a huge fall later. I trust people totally. He told me early on that we were true friends, but true friends don't rush and tell the chief boss something he and I had talked about or treat me in a manner to where I feel mistrustful.

Am I wrong? Tell me if I'm wrong to feel so very sensitive and mistrustful of what he's doing. Maybe I am paraoid as all get out, but I feel that he's totally jealous of the love that I have for what I do and he would give anything to be in the saem position.

Bottom line: i don't trust him anymore. I think he's a major "snake". Others had warned me half-heartily about him and being the gullible, accept-at-face-value person I am, I didn't believe them. Maybe I should have.

Give me some feedback,please.

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