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Office drama - got fired & rehired w/i hours
Posted by: hadenuff
Date: 12/2/2006 9:31:39 PM
You know it's bad when the jerk who employs you gets so angry he fires you! Tells you not to come back. I'm in shock, but in slow motion, I somehow keep calm, pack up my things, say goodbye to the other 2 co-workers, and decide to take the high road and say goodbye to the idiot while handing in my keys. At that moment, he pulls me into the office and apologizez, asks me what we need to do as "adults" to transition me out. Total 180-degree turn. I basically like give him the I want to leave speech, so why don't you find a replacement and I'll mosey on out of here so I can hopefully keep in your sort of good books for a reference. He agrees, then like it's bizarre for a few days, and he starts acting all nice. When I ask him if he is finding the replacement, he acts like the conversation never even took place. I'm like desperate or something makes me stay cos I'm barely looking and it is obvious to me, he doesn't seem to be looking for my replacement yet either. It's like a twilight zone...weird. Pretty weird as i'm writing it. wonder if i must thrive on this sort of drama in my life, but i am sick of it. Sheesh - been fired and hired in one day. Whatever he does can't get much worse than this. PS he is bipolar, that i know for sure
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emarie |
| Date: |
12/23/2006 9:55:00 PM |
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If this boss is medically ill and unmedicated, you can expect much of the same erratic behaviour. You sound like a sensible person with some insight into at least part of the problem, and good skills for rising above a bad situation. Start applying for a new job (at home). Maintain a good relationship with your unpredictable boss. Remove all personal things from the office that won't reveal your intent to leave. Get another job. Type a polite, professional letter in which you explain that despite enjoyment of the work you were doing and your pride in your work, another employer has presented a new challenge you want to pursue. Then go see the boss. Tell him you are grateful for all you learned (you learned how to survive abuse!), and you wish him well. Tell him you are glad to have had a rewarding professional relationship and hope he will give you a good reference in the future should you need one. When you hand him the envelope, tell him you have cc'd HR so they may do the necessary paperwork (and also, for your sake, so he can't pretend it didn't happen again). Tell him that often employers prefer if someone is leaving to a new company that they leave immediately, and that of course you would be willing to do that so as not to interfere with him trying to hire while you were still there. Give him the choice, but make sure he knows you have packed for an immediate move if that is his preference (it sure as heck should be YOURS!). The goal is to make him feel he has some power, that you learned on the job (survival!) and to try to get a good future reference. If he goes ballistic, you KNOW you won't ever get a good reference anyway, and simply say "I'm sorry you feel that way," pick up your little box of personal items you have strategically left outside his office for just that outcome, and walk out with your head held high. But DO get out. |
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| Reply from: |
hadenuff |
| Date: |
12/30/2006 1:59:00 AM |
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Thanks so much for the reply!
I'm happy to say, you were right. I'm leaving! Before X-mas I gave him my resignation letter and January is the month for the transition.
Unsure of what lies ahead, but it won't be more of the same.
Thanks for your supportive post :-) |
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