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Help! In bad situation

Posted by: tuffstuff
Date: 4/29/2004 4:43:43 AM

Hello-

I need some good sound advice. When I interviewed with my boss, he seemed okay, but he is a tyrant. He is poorly qualified, a bad communicator, and argumentative-he often takes everything the wrong way. i was told not to use alot of the things i learned in college with him, for he doesnt take well to people under him with good educations-they were right. his meetings are poorly facilitated, and are often arguing matches. he will say that everything is okay until we get to the meetings, where he pounds the table and complains about everything he never told me was wrong, and something is always wrong;noone gets a verbal thanks, ever. he is dishonest and evasive, and despite the high turnover rate, he says that it is other people, not him. i told him that this environment wasn't a good one, and that he fails to see that it is him. he told me that you cannot get everything out of life that you want, including a good work environment. he said that anyone that wants to leave can turn in a resignation. he ignores the destructive behavior of other employees, and noone really checks on his behavior because he is not in a very visible operation. he is good at putting on a face to others, and he told me that if anyone tries to complain about him, he has made a good enough impression on the higher-ups that they will turn a deaf ear on it, and say that he is a good guy. when people are late or absent because they are sick or for an emergency, he paints a picture to the rest of the organization that they are loafing or absent/ late for other purposes. he focuses on others so that people will not focus on his own shortcomings. he saps the life out of employees instead of energizing them. he is loud and exaggerates everything. it is impossible to have a civil conversation with him, because os his argumentative nature-he will get revenge on a person who challenges him or offers him feedback by asserting his power and storming in to thier department and calling a meeting. if a person takes a vacation, he compiles a list of everything that went wrong while they were gone to talk about when they return. after returning from my last vacation, he held a four and a half hour conference about everything that went wrong! he forgets things, even forgetting that he attended one of my presentations. the sad thing is, we work for the gov't/dept. of def., and if i quit, i cannot pay my rent, and he is hell bent on sabotaging my efforts through a bad reference-what can i do? this man is untouchable.

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