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    Help! My Boss Is Rude And Arrogant

    "Unfortunately, one of my bosses is renowned for being arrogant and rude. We quite obviously do not see eye to eye, and I don’t want this to become a problem."

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    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/29/2005 8:03:00 PM

    I've found many American bosses to be dictatorial, arrogant and sneaky. They are way to full of themselves. Of course this is often true of employees too, but we all know about them. Mentioning no names I was fired today by a supervisor who proceeded by blowing up a non-issue. He kept saying "Keeep calm, keep calm when I was complainging about an on-the-job problem, even t hough I was not really upset at all. He then yelled at me to go to his office. I avoided embarassing him publicly, but let him know that I was not taking his rude and arrogant demeanor. He kept yelling at me to "Sit down" Sit down" I wasnt tired so I didn't. I got fired for "insubordination". ??? My performance on the job was admitted to be exceptional....maybe that was the problem. I was also asking questions about some very odd practices regarding pricing and disappearing goods from the sales floor.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/28/2006 4:42:00 PM

    My boss is younger than my two kids! He's a really bright guy and wants to get ahead in a dog eat dog corporate environment. The problem is--with all brains and education--he has no people skills-no concept of empowerment, or team work and no manners and sense of respect. He says "take this and run with it" and then if your decisions didn't exactly match what his would have been then you're an idiot. And he won't mind telling you so--in a staff meeting. There is no sense of direction from him, but you don't dare ask a clarifying question....or you'll get a snide remark about having to repeat himself. It becomes more a game of trying to guess what HE wants done rather than trying to do the best possible job. He's rude and arrogant and I feel like telling that if he were my kid I'd slap his face for talking to someone like that! I don't care how "valuable" you think you are--you are only as good as the people you surround yourself with. If you constantly insult and belittle them, you're not likely to be getting the best they have to offer.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 8/2/2006 7:34:00 AM

    My boss is erudite person chemical engineer from IIT - Kanpur and than MBA finance from good USA university, with experience of 20 years across the globe. I joined him to learn from him but he is very abusive, no he do not uses bad words but abuse you in different manner. Like my 16 year daughter makes beetr reports or like grow up boy from ur class 3rd or the job you have done is a peons job. One thing is sure he is very proud of his sucsess and the same time he is very unsecure of what i do not know.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/11/2007 1:57:00 AM

    My boss is younger than me. He is very kind, jovial and intelligent but very sensitive too. He is having lot family problems and he has lot of involvements with other women. When he gets angry he screams like a dog.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/26/2007 6:39:00 PM

    My boss has really bad breath.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/28/2007 12:18:00 AM

    My Boss started out being really nice, but she adores making me feel like an idiot. Because I am the lowest on the food chain she delights in ignoring my greetings and comments and brushes by me in the morning. I hate my job


    User: anonymous
    Date: 2/17/2008 1:31:00 AM

    My boss is a disgustingly egotistical, pompous, obnoxious prick who walks around all day, every day with a stick up his ass about SOMETHING!! He treats me like shit when ever he can get that perfect little chance to. He is the most arrogant and pathetic person alive. He has absolutely no people skills, which makes me wonder, why the hell he's in magagement at a retail store!! He deserves to burn in hell for his hateful attitude. He makes me sick to my stomach every time I see that nauseating vain look on his face. I just want to punch him right between the eyes!!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/28/2008 10:06:00 AM

    My boss is a little girl in big boy pants. I swear I have never met anyone like him in my life...and for that I thank God!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/31/2008 10:03:00 AM

    My boss's clothing stink like dirty wash, has terrible flaky dandruff, smells like dried urine and has awful breath. On top of this he is arrogant and feels the need to repeat himself. Like...do I have stupid written on my head. Yes Ray.....I MEAN YOU!!!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/31/2008 10:05:00 AM

    Then I have a truly wonderful co-worker ( I am being sarcastic) She feels the need to raise her voice to a shrill pitch and screech WELL???? Well what? God forbid if you confront her. Her head just about spins! I really do hate this women even though she must have terrible emotional problems. She must have a miserable life outside of work...oh yeah and her husband works here too...they fight and curse at each other in the office. I would like to smack her in the mouth when she talks to me that way, but I just ignore her.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/31/2008 4:58:00 PM

    My boss has control issues, he never lets me do my job with my own brain. If I do something wrong he'll talk to me like I'm the dumbest person on earth and he makes a scene in front of everyone else in the office. It is embarrassing and rude. When I'm right and he's wrong, he never admits to it or he acts like he was right anyway! He was raised and lived in New York but our company is based in Hawaii. He doesn't know a thing about living in the islands!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/4/2008 2:11:00 PM

    My boss is, well in a word, A dick! I believe it is due to the fact he is trying to compensate the very tiny, itsy bitsy piece of anatomy (which matches his red Mini Cooper he drives) he wears under that godforsaken wardrobe of his. He makes six figures, yet he dresses like a miser. He walks around behaving like he knows it all. He believes everything should be explained in two short sentences or less. He hates it if you use more words than he deems necessary and is very quick to inform you of this. His favorite line is "You should learn...." and then whatever it is he thinks you should learn. I hate him and I hope he trips on those stupid looking red tennis shoes that he wears. He's 38 years old with a beautiful wife (obviously she was taught to marry well even if he's ugly and rude).


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/4/2008 2:14:00 PM

    My female boss is mean. She's shaped like an ironing board, flat chested, flat butt, not hips and deathly skinny!! Oh well, I guess that explains why she's mean.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/14/2008 10:27:00 PM

    my boss is can be both personable AND arrogant, depending on what mess is going on in his financial life at the time. For the most part, he doesn't appreciate his staff, is bigoted, and a hypocrite. He can spend most of the day on the phone, dealing with personal issues, while I handle the majority of patients, and STILL finds the time to make off-colored comments to me. Can't stand it anymore.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/17/2008 10:58:00 AM

    My boss, my boss....she is like a little troll that sucks the integrity and dignity out of her employees. and GETS AWAY WITH IT!! she is the coldest, most ignorant human i think i have ever met. i don't know how she sleeps at nite. oh wait, yes i do - it's the bottles of wine she consumes every night. what is she running from??


    User: anonymous
    Date: 5/31/2008 4:43:00 AM

    My boss and I have never liked each other. My belief is that we don't have to like each other; however, we are responsible for being civil and gracious. This is not her belief though. Her personality changes with the tide; one day somewhat nice, the next she is rude and bitchy (or it can change hour by hour). When I receive compliments from co-workers (documented in an e-mail) for a job well done, or for having an excellent attitude, etc. (with her being copied), she will ignore it and not say one word about it at all. How childish is that? No "congrats", or "way to go", or anything. All hell breaks loose when her husband is on her case! She can't wait to come in and try to take it out on me. Of course around her boss she is all sweetness and light. . . he thinks she walks on water.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/2/2008 12:10:00 PM

    Control Freak, sneaky, and threatning. These are the "quality" of my current boss. He likes to have everything reported. So, I called him every 5 minutes; to report my schedule, job progress, what I eat on lunch, then I even reported about my bowel movement in detail. I hope the sucker got the bloody message.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/11/2008 4:53:00 PM

    My boss is just to busy to give you the time of day, I always greet him when he comes through the door, he ignores me most days, however if he cant find a way around the greeting , he hangs his head and mumbles hi. Will never look you in the eye. His communication skills. SUCK! If he wants to convey somthing to someone, he tells everyone at once, and we all have to set and play this geussing game of "Is he referring to me? " So you never know when or what hes mad about, or if its you hes ticked off at. He will gossip to other people , and it eventually gets back to the person hes mad at. Geeze this boss has NO, NONE, NADDA communication skills!! Im really tired of his immature way of handling situations.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/9/2008 10:58:00 AM

    She can be quite nice (if the mood strikes her.) But most times she's looking for something about me to complain about. Self serving would discribe her to a T. The assumptions she makes about me/my lifestyle is way off base. I feel backed into a corner. I need to get a stronger backbone. No one should takethe kind of "talk" she dishes out. I alomst feel sorry for her.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/1/2008 8:19:00 PM

    my boss is an asshole. He's one of those that like to play favorites. I can't even ask him a question about my job without him getting impatient and angry. He has serious anger problems. He was fired from his last job for telling an emloyee he would kill them as he was loosing his temper and throwing stuff. I have seen him do this at work. once it was me he was blowing up on. I went to my main manager and told him about it. Unfortunatley they have their tongues up each other butts so nothing was done about. Too bad I'm not one of his favorites that get to walk around and do nothing. Oh well.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/16/2008 7:42:00 PM

    my boss is a control freak weirdo... She transferred from a smaller site and does not know what the hell she's doing. She comes up with odd, nonsensical shit that is completely ooposite of what we've done in the four years prior to her arrival. i hope I can hang in there for one more school year and then get the f outta dodge!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/25/2008 11:25:00 PM

    I have two bosses. They are attorneys. One is nice. One is rude. The one that is rude belches and yawns during dictation. He has not patience and expects you to do everthing. He doesn't care how it gets done - just get it done! He acts like a baby. Likes to spend time at the bar or better yet sneaks out when the partner is not around. I was told that he and the secretary before me used to have yelling matches.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/30/2008 11:05:00 PM

    "Any ideology, any entity that enfringes upon the right of man...that place is extinct." - Rod Serling "The Twilight Zone"


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/12/2008 12:31:00 AM

    I work in a store where you have a different manager every day,....MOD"s. They are a bunch of idiots that doesn't know anithing about management, and have no formal education, just years working for the company make them get their positions. The store manager is the most cold person I've ever met. Recently two of my co-workers passed away and she don't even assit to the viewing or funeral.She is always making rude comments about the other managers in front of the employees and making fun of them. That's so un professional!!She make us work as mules and keep reminding us that we are hard workers because we are all members of the same ethnic group!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/10/2008 1:05:00 AM

    My boss is a vet and to see if animals are dead he pokes them in the eyeball. How disgraceful! You can do that in surgery and the animal won't blink. He shoves stuff into your hands and doesn't know a thing about half the stuff at the clinic. He smokes pot, drinks alcohol and is supposed to be a Christian man. On top of that he's over the age of 60!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/19/2008 3:26:00 PM

    Anonymous what are you doing on the intratubes! GET BACK TO WORK!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/29/2008 7:00:00 PM

    my boss is younger than my children. he is abusive, arrogant, conceited, belittling, and talks to me like i'm a child. i do forget things sometimes important things and he acts like it was the end of the world. he asks me over and over why i didn't do something & no matter what I say, it isn't the right answer. i sick of it.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/3/2009 12:33:00 AM

    My boss is also my husband. It is the hardest part of our marriage, he thinks that because I'm his wife I should be able to cope with everything he throws at me and expect no pat on the back or a well done, I get no gratitude at all.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/7/2009 12:33:00 AM

    my boss talks to me like i am the scum of the earth. orders are barked down to me and even though i am one of the best employees, i come in everyday, work extra have glowing reports from my patients and families she still can't thank me for doing a good job, its beneath her. i am just sick of her and all the other management, including the receptionists thinking that they are on another level, and to speak to me is like speaking to something that isn't human.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/9/2009 9:46:00 AM

    My boss is the most arrogant, self centered, hypocritical person I have ever known. It's no wonder he can't maintain a relationship with any woman he has ever been involved with. Who could stand being with a person who constantly tells you how he knows everything about everything and that your opinions are worthless. He takes credit for everything without any regard for the employees that work for him and actually do the work. We are the ones that do the good job. He has even stated that what he believes is reality! What a hard headed jerk. Yet he tells us that we need to be open minded when our opinions don't match his. How is it that these kind of people exist?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/28/2009 8:17:00 AM

    My boss treats me like an idiot and although he does not call me names he gets the message across perfectly clear with his body motions and facial language. I work for 3 other guys and they treat me great and appreciate the work I do. It's the only reason I'm still there.


    User: besetta
    Date: 9/15/2009 12:09:00 AM

    My boss acts all stiff and formal and treats me like an underling, though I have way more education than her (two Masters degrees while she only graduated from High School). She is nice sometimes, but then gets all uptight and looks at me like I am a piece of crap. Very unfriendly most of the time. I am sick of it. Beyond that, I dress like crap every day because if I come in with anything different or new on, she immediately says, "Is that NEW?" To avoid the scrutiny and comments, I dress like a bag lady and then dress normal (fashionable) on the weekends.


    User: Nuriel
    Date: 4/18/2010 2:05:00 PM

    I am dealing with a nincompoop of a boos, who is also arrogant, incompetent, hypocritical, and smells. When I want to discuss a company matter with her, she sighs, rolls her eyes, which makes me feel as though I am intruding on her time, and which is quite disrespectful. I could not take it any more, and out of my mouth came "Why do you always react by rolling your eyes and sighing when I am discussing a matter with you?" She apologized. Let's see if she does it again.


    User: BraT
    Date: 7/12/2010 10:50:00 PM

    I have never met a rude and barefaced fool ever THE BOSS a joke. He's nice to eveybody else exept me. HMmm power trip?? Money fiend. Tells me I don't get enough sex from my wife wtf. He must be a pedofile because every time looks at any young females and he just got a baby. What a bloody bastard he is. I'm quiting soon just need little more cash. He should die.


    User: MissDisplaced
    Date: 5/28/2012 4:47:00 PM

    My boss is banging another woman in the (very small) office, so of course this woman can do nothing wrong. He gets mad at me, acting like I am supposed to be doing the jobs he assigned to his girlfriend. He constantly yells and belittles about my work, yet his writing is horrible. He bad mouths all former employees and also vendors. Everything is always the fault of others and never because of him.



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