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really bad boss
Posted by: help
Date: 7/16/2004 10:41:39 PM
hi, i work in a small group which is a part of a big company. our ladyboss is really bad. she never lets any of us talk to each other and makes up and lies to everyone about each other. she badmouths a lot. she initially talks to everyone very sweetly and finds out about their personal problems (ofcourse we all have problems). then she tells others he/she is not able to good work becoz of these problems.so, nobody talks to anyone, but everyone knows about each other's problems. luckily, we all went for lunch together and found out about all this. we all confronted her about this and she made our life hell frm then. she is in a really big position and nobody can do anything about this. more than 7 people left our office in 1 yr.. Do the HR people not realise it?she keeps bullying everyone that she would fire us if we don't do watever she tells us. people realise and they just silently quit after finding another job. nobody even tells anything in exit interview. i guess everyone is worried about their future. she is a micromanager too. she comes really late to the office, usually late afternoon (you won't believe, but this is true) and gives work to everyone then and asks them to finish it the same day. there r more things i can write about her, but dont have enuf space. Help please. can anyone give me a solution????
| Reply from: |
beenthere |
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7/19/2004 1:47:00 PM |
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I've been in a similar situation. In my case, the woman was very adept at projecting a professional image to higher ups as well as outside the department. In the meantime, inside her department there was chaos and high turnover. HR was no help because it was a training department within the HR umbrella. Unfortunately, in my experience, the best thing you can do is hang on until you can find another job. Make use of your vacation and sick days when the stress gets so bad that you need a "sanity break." Best of luck to you...and don't forget to recognize that even after you leave, it will take several months to de-stress. |
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| Reply from: |
rgf100 |
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7/19/2004 5:58:00 PM |
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Wow - that's a terrible situation. It sounds like you have nothing to lose. I mean, what the worse that could happen? You would lose your job, but it doesn't sound like much of a job to begin with.
If you agree with that, then here's what I suggest: Document as many items as you can about what has happened to you and only you. Confront your boss with this list asking what you can do to make the situation better. Mention your concern is because it's causing you stress in your life because you are concerned about job performance. Be sure to document the meeting plus any action plans that come out of it. If she refuses, keep documenting and arrange a meeting with her and her supervisor. Get HR in on this if you need to; they will understand the legal repurcussions and they will make the meeting happen. If they don't then you will not have a chance at changing her behavior. Whenever you meet NEVER use harsh or threatening language or the company will nail you and your cause is lost.
Again, if you have nothing to lose and do not fear losing your job do this while you continue to give your job 100%. If anything, her supervisor or HR will have to confront the problem and while she may be angry and more resentful, she can't take it out on you because she knows you are documenting unfair treatment. If she continues to be unruly, then you should file a complaint against her for harassment, which includes undue stress in the workplace. Read up on your company policy to make sure. Oh yeah, and pray. If your cause is just and you are fair, God will help you, unless you are meant to find a new job. |
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| Reply from: |
ladys77_77 |
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7/21/2004 4:10:00 PM |
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I would recommend a strike for her about projects and her good stand at work. In this condition HR will try settle everything to fire you all, but in this situation you must cover your self with the department of your state and offices that working with this situations. The best if you take off a sick days about few and go to the doctor (psychologist) make a claim and say what you said in this massage (all of the department. This is means strike. What she can do, with out you guys?.. |
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| Reply from: |
gizcosmos |
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7/22/2004 7:44:00 PM |
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Do we work for identical twins? I could have written the exact problem! My boss was adept at exactly the same strategies and we all ended up being a bunch of paranoid near-neurotics! We, too, benefitted (somewhat) from more open discussions about the problem, but it also ended up with some people turning on each other because they thought they were protecting themselves. She (boss) would send memo after memo concerning the most trivial remark she allegedly heard through the grapevine. She then said she had to "investigate" the comment (no matter how benign!). You can see how it ended up that no one wanted to talk to anyone! This made her free to say anything she wanted to anyone and half the time no one knew what was up!
Lots of people have left already, but it doesn't seem to make a difference--the board just put 2 and 2 together.I think I solved my problem by finding another job--that's how paranoid one can get--even though I won't be working there, I think she cn still get to me! Actually, she tried to topedo my new job so she could keep me tied to another project!! So, maybe it's not paranoia--just a realistic view! My advice is to keep looking for opportunities that may come up. Don't settle for a worse position, but at least stay open to new jobs. You'll definately feel a lot better and be a LOT happier when you're out of that environment. Of course, my new position could also involve a "bad boss" but at least it would take a lot to be worse than what I just left!! Good luck!1 |
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| Reply from: |
bummed |
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9/2/2004 8:31:00 AM |
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Hi Help
I quit my job-Called in! I could not stand it any longer. I just couldn't do it any longer, working with Saddams sisters. That what I called the three. I had already been through enough. Two deaths in the family & a divorce. And therre not stop babble about everyone. what bitches! No one knows what its like to work with people like that. I'm not working as of yet but wish you best.. |
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