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Discrimination ?

Posted by: unjustified
Date: 7/24/2004 4:53:20 AM

Hello, I'm a straight male and I work for a gay/male supervisor. He's not openly gay.I have been working for this company/Supervisor for over 3 three years. When i was first hired my boss often made settle hints about his hidden agenda pushing the envelope with his intentions. But, i was to trusting in the beginning. I didn't catch on. Until, it was right in my face almost a year later. I have many scenarios that describe his somewhat obvious/settle intentions. One time i made a mistake at work and he called me at home and i apoligized. He stated" Well, you can make it up by taking me to dinner" Hardly,enough to make anyone think twice but, it goes on. Another time, He offered for us to go out drinking together in town and i stated " I didn't aprove of drinking and driving" Supervisor stated" That's O.k. my friends and i sleep in the back of the truck." O.k So. Well, One time i came to work wearing pants and Supervisor asked "How come your not wearing shorts?" No big deal right. Well,one after noon I'm sitting at my desk and i feel something rubb against my neck and i looked at my Supervisor holding a folder and asked him why he did that? " just to be funny." We had never engaged in such playful acts and i never met with him outside of work. He always questioned my relationship with my girl-friend at that time and at one point I mentioned a break up with girlfriend and Supervisor stated " i knew it wouldn't work." So, after the folder incident my attitude changed with him and things got hectic/crazy. After two years of being belittled, scrutinized, attacked verbally, foul language, made to look incompetent for job i finally had enough. One day he attempted to get me fired/railroading me for no justible cause writting me up and i had no choice but to recall everthing. I went through Human resources and they didn't respond until a month later. So, i filed through the state via two seperate organizations for civil rights. An investigation was held and nothing was proved on my part because i had no clear witnesses/evdience. Basically,it was his word against mine. But, he did change a little. Backing off. This person harassed , personally attacked me, and belitted me, drained me of my confidence and made me suicidal at times. I hung in there even after the fact of not resolving anything with the state and employer. We, the company were comimg up on a contract turn-over. I figurered, maybe, he wouldn't get choosen for rehire and some of the guys stuck there necks out for me when he made obvious attempts to slander me during the new hiring process interviews. But, most of my co-workers didn't believe these things occurred and happened to me. After the investigation maybe two or three months there was one incident where i found gay porn on his P.C. and showed it to Two#2 co-workers. This just after H.R . and the state didn't help. So, My work site had a cotract change over and this person is still my Supervisor. We are on a 90 day probation/evalution period and i'm 2weeks shy from completing this. During the new contract my Supervisor has changed his approach towards me treating me professionally. But, i still feel vulnerable. He has even given me good evalutions. But, during this new contract Supervisor hired another person within our office and she/female happens to be gay. So, i have noticed that she has been given special treatment. Being able to work at other sites when i have requested the same and denied. Given opportunities for training when i was not even offered or told about certain opportunities. She even took over a shared work space/desk putting up a picture of her personal vehicle. I have certain knowledge of my job revolving around the aviation field and she has never worked in the aviation field but has some past experience among our office duties. Some of my co-workers among my office still don't care or realize and i'm having hard time not lashing out sometimes. I was told by my Supervisor I have one more time not to use a certain tone when talking to him or else. I'm so fraustrated, stressed-out and confused i'm not sure what to do. Please somebody help..... HELp..... What do i do???? Besides pray every night.

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