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Inexperienced Supervisor

Posted by: wickedlobster
Date: 8/8/2004 11:00:17 AM

I could write a million words to try and explain my situation, so mainly I'm here to just vent because I can't trust anyone else. My supervisor used to be my friend and yes I know that that is a big no no. We were friends before she became my supervisor. Anyway I don't have any experience being a supervisor but I've been supervised my whole adult life so I know what to expect. This woman doesn't know jack squat on how to supervise people. She's intelligent and does her job well. She is a fashion plate, she talks on her cell phone several times a day and we all get to hear her dirty laundry instead of taking it outside or yet even better call that person after work hours. These are people that live in the same town as her for Godsake. She also has visitors that come and sit in her chair and talk for at least 30 mins at a time. She gossips and she is dating a manager that isn't in our direct line of command but definately has a say in what we do. She said to me once that it was good that she & he talk about work (after work of course) because then they can solve work issues like in our department. What?? Did she expect me to feel better about that? If we make a mistake she doesn't tell us about it face to face or in a meeting, she sends us a nasty email and then doesn't even follow up after she sent the email. When I confronted her about it and said why didn't you just come to me, her response was I don't have time and that I would just get mad at her. While I was on vacation this week, or anytime I'm out of the office she's been quoted as saying: "Ahh, isn't it nice and quiet today/this week?" She doesn't know how to do my job or at least doesn't have the experience. She didn't train me, I trained myself. So how is it that she can properly supervise me? How can she tell me I'm not doing a good job or that I am doing a good job? Which by the way she has not. When I'm out of the office she tells the other girls to just leave stuff on my desk and wait till I get back to get it done. But in her email nothing can sit on our desk for more than a week. Yet if she leaves the office or anyone else I am expected to help keep those desks completed and expected to answer her job questions as backup. I'm not a perfect person and I definately have my faults and I've made mistakes. And I'm trying real hard to be a good person and employee. But it is so hard going into work everyday. I wish that I had another person to report to but it isn't possible. I try to just do my job and be as professional as I can towards her. It's so hard. I wish she would quit or get let go. I've been looking for another job. Jobs are so minimal these days. I've been on vacation and have to go back tomorrow. I can hardly wait. Thanks for listening everyone :)

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