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Posted by: jeunstarre
Date: 2/10/2007 2:48:23 AM

I just started a new job about a week or two ago and yes, like everyone else on this web site, i am ready to quit already. this woman is a professional perfectionist and her business is booming and successful because of her bullying. somehow she has managed to keep a staff and i am the newest addition, but MY job is hard to keep staffed. i am at the bottom of the totem pole here and i have been told that they have gone through like 6 people to try to fill this position. this woman gives me anxiety so bad that i can not sleep at night. i worry about what i am going to wear and obsess for hours over one outfit and my hair because her attitude makes me feel like less than a human and maybe if i look nicer i can avoid her wrath. it sounds so obvious and stupid, but when she bullys, its so SMOOTH that you dont even realize it until your feelings are hurt to the extreme. she talks to me like i am an infant and i am in my mid 20's. she rolls her eyes at me and i can hear her exploding sometimes at others. she gets very short with me and angry when i make mistakes and its only my first week out of training! she says things like "sweetie, or honey" and never swears, but her tone of voice lets you know that she thinks you are sub-human and an incompetent fool. today was the final straw. i broke down and cryed. and i even own jay carter's book called, "nasty people, how to stop being hurt by them without stooping to their level." but no matter what i read or how much i pray or try to change how i react, i keep getting hurt. i have been through three bosses like this. she is the third. how do i keep getting stuck in these situations?!! does anyone else out there feel this way? like there is no place for them in the working world because of constant abuse from most employers that they have had? i am not insecure, and i know my worth, i am just tired of catering to the egoes of these people because i need a damn paycheck.

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