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HELP ME FIGURE IT OUT
Posted by: mom
Date: 8/26/2004 8:11:05 PM
Hi, I need some input. After 16 years of raising a family, I returned to work. It has been 3 weeks and I have loved it, but I am so confused as to what kind of boss I have and how to handle him. To give you an idea of what he is like, the following incidents happened. Clients came into office, I knocked on door and informed him that his noon appointment was here. He said show them in, I did.......he asked clients and I to leave office and then asked me to show them into the conference room -- i did, after returning to my desk, he calls me into his office, tells me to close the door and balls me out for not taking them to the conference room in the first place. (note: Last week different clients were shown into his office without any problems) I also got screamed at because a few days ago when he wanted me to write a check from one of HIS accounts to his Firm's account I did not put the word "THE" , the check read payable to the order of "His name" Law Office when it should have read "to the order of THE ******* Law Office. He talks to me as if I am a child, he hired me knowing that I have not worked for 16 years and certainly not in this particular area. The job was advertised as "willing to train" and this was agreed to at the interview. I feel as if I am being undermined at every turn. It is interesting to note that with every other aspect of my work, I am performing at 100% and have experienced no difficulties. I am trying to understand why is he so brutal with the minor errors I am making, What kind of boss do I have and how do I deal with him. Also, he is very very strict on not wanting to hear any explanations, a yes or no answer is all he wants.
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mindym22 |
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8/27/2004 12:57:00 PM |
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He is a control freak. I would look for another job. If he is treating you like this after only a few weeks, it will get worse. |
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beenthere |
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8/29/2004 5:41:00 PM |
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I agree with mindym22. He probably chose you because you had been out of the workforce for a number of years and he figured you would be easier to control. This boss will undermine your self-confidence in a hurry. Get out as soon as you can. And when you find another job, give him as little notice as possible. My guess is that his behavior will get worse once you given notice. |
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feisty_texan |
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8/31/2004 6:38:00 PM |
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I agree -- get out ASAP! Don't wait until things get so bad that you're physically ill from the stress. Your boss is a classic bully and he isn't going to change. |
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mom |
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9/1/2004 7:51:00 AM |
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I cannot thank you guys enough. My confidence level had dropped to an all time low, I was beginning to question my own sanity and abilities. You will be pleased to note that after being reprimanded for not being able to say a client's name correctly, infront of others, I handed in my notice. I am from England and they way we pronounce certain words, even though they are spelt the same, differs from the American Accent. ie; you guys say viTAmins, we say Vitamins, the T being silent. Once I approached him and said that I thought that we had both made a mistake and I did not feel that this situation was going to work out, he flipped and retaliated by saying he was going to fire me anyway and proceeded to give me a list of my faults, which range from not taking out the garbage (another story) to having the annoying habit of clarifying instructions he would give me. Anyway its over now and from your replies it comforts me to know that it was not me, I just had a bout of very bad luck in my first attempt at returning to work. Thank you all for pointing out to me, what should have been obvious. |
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| Reply from: |
tercerero |
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9/1/2004 3:34:00 PM |
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I had a similar boss. In my first week, she was in a meeting with her partner and the secretary (the door was open, everyone chatting). I walked in to tell her so-and-so was on the phone. With daggers in her eyes, she said, "Can't you see I'm in a meeting? Take a message!" So the next person who calls, I took a message. Later, after their meeting, I told her so-and-so called. She jumped out of her seat and loudly said, "Why didn't you tell me she called earlier!?" Um, because you just told me to take messages and not disturb you. |
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