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New Boss thrusting their "mentorship" on me

Posted by: lilybella
Date: 8/29/2004 7:52:02 AM

I would love to know if anyone has been in this situation.... recently, someone who was a supplier of mine some years ago (so I had a good, working personal relationship with them already) was made General Manager of our company in which I already hold a senior management position. Seemingly human before the new appointment, I had no idea just how they would turn out at management. BTW They come from the I am a technical Expert therefore I must be a great manager school... I on the other hand have had formal management training and much more experience with managing people.

Anyway, I now report directly to them in a new role I was kinda forced into taking. Since then, they constantly criticise things that are not important (eg, personal items in my office, how my lamp is arranged) and thinks nothing of coming in and telling me to do it "their" way and in the case of the lamp actually rearranging it. When I pointed out that I was not put on earth for them to "mold" I was told very smugly I might add - that they were in fact doing just that, and that I had changed already, I was going to be changed further and they were going to make me successful... etc. I find this appalling behaviour and have already told them some time ago (in a joking context) they they could never be a mentor because I knew them too well. (I thought I did!) Now I find my new reason would be because I have almost no respect for them. I am finding this behaviour very threatening, scary and very upsetting. I have tried setting "boundaries" to no avail. Is this a bullying of a sort? Is it just the way they are playing out their insecurities (which are clear to me and other senior staff)? How do I deal with it? I love the company and this new GM is the "golden child" of the gparent company so I know they aren't going anywhere. Any advice anyone can giove me I would be v grateful.

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