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    unfairly rewarded yet love the job-only boss spoils it

    Posted by: natalie
    Date: 10/7/2004 6:23:06 PM

    Our boss had forgotten to fax the bonus sheet through, so I dared to ask her about it (since nobody has ever understood how the system works and the goal posts keep shifting) I was glared at and told it was shared between the 3 of us. The next day I was asked to check the fax and I saw my name besides a number along with my 2 co-workers names, realising this was the bonus sheet I saw that my 2 co-workers were being paid substantially more than me in bonus, so I casually asked my boss about it in a very laid back manner to which I was countered with "you should not be looking at that" I replied that I could not avoid seeing it-as it had my name on in big letters and then I went on to actually making it easy for her (I'm a coward-I know!) by agreeing that it was fine if it was worked out in relation to the hours we put in, totally ignoring the fact that I had actually worked 10 more hours than 1 of my co-workers! (she can't do maths) in other words I had already backed down from my find but yet she exploded- arms flapping out- cheeks bright red- "you really annoyed me yesterday! going on about the bonus, it's like you're always grab-grabbing at money for yourself!" with her big man-like hands doing vicious hand-grabbing actions at invisable money! it was quite scary! yet I responded calmly with "that is not the case but I can't help it if you take me the wrong way" ...now I'm thinking how can she say I'm grabbing at money for myself when the bonus is a "shared" thing anyway? I was very upset shortly afterwards and against my wishes could not hold back the tears, argh!! Is this intimidation? The boss above her does nothing and I am told it gets worse if you approach him, what do I do? I like my job alot but she spoils it. On and off she talks AT me like I am a piece of c***? yet I work hard and generate alot of business.

    Reply from: legalbeagle
    Date: 10/7/2004 11:23:00 PM
    Reply: It sounds like your boss is threatened by you. Her behavior is abusive and unconstructive. Your boss has trouble managing her anger. It comes down to the fact that her anger management problem isn't your problem. Don't make it your problem. Eventually, she will blow up at someone else and her anger problem will begin to become apparent to others if it isn't already. I would suggest that you continue to do the great job that you are doing and eventually you will get promoted or she will get fired, or both. The good thing about business is that nothing stays the same for very long and if you can just maintain your professional demeanor and keep your interactions with her to only what is necessary for business, you will outlast her. Stay the course, and good luck.
    Reply from: panicstate
    Date: 10/8/2004 4:22:00 AM
    Reply: Been there, done that, my heart is right there with you. What a witch!
    Reply from: natalie
    Date: 10/8/2004 5:34:00 AM
    Reply: thanks both of you it's comforting to have your replies. leaglebeagle made me feel better but I'l never be promoted whilst she is the boss since she is holding me back and lying to her boss. previous employees have been given bad references such as "was unsuited to the job" when they were efficient and good at it. her behaviour was apparant years before I started there and has only improved towards the others since I witnessed what was happening and stood up to her some 6 months ago, which was probably unwise since I have only made things better for my colleagues and worse for myself. prior to that I was made uncomfortable infront of my co-workers because she pretended we had been friends for 15years! to keep them from liking me, when in fact I only knew her face from working in the same business some 15 years ago. I was beginning to feel the "single white female" thing was happening! panicstate, if you sorted it or made it worse what did you do and what do you recommend I do/say to make it right? I really don't appreciate being called a money grabber and fear she will now be calling me this behind my back.

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