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Posted by: lane
Date: 10/19/2004 7:29:52 PM
I have a unique situation, I work for a small business, (3 people + my boss), and he(boss/owner) lives across the yard from the shop. He is an alcoholic, meglomaniacal, power freak. I am the newest crew member( 1 year in), and am used to good natured hazing from everyone there. Here is the dilemma, my attitude is very close to the boss' except I'm a bit more "adult" about things(although half his age), and NOT an alcoholic. We are both bull-headed and extroverted and both speak before we actually think. Hey, at least I admit it! Don't get me wrong, he may be very hard to work for, but he is fair at times. It's just that I can't seem to do anything correctly, and I mean anything, to satisfy him!!! Given his wild mood swings and verbally abusive nature, what should I do? He pays me well, and jobs are rare where I live... My brain is going to explode!!!!
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mindym22 |
| Date: |
10/20/2004 1:04:00 PM |
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Financial security is important. But I am not sure what you mean by "verbal abuse". Does make inappropriate personal comments?An example would be I had a supervisor ridicule me for being overweight, I spoke to the owner of the company, who offered to drive down and fire him on the spot..but since this guy is the owner of the company you would have to speak with him when he is not drunk or hung over. If he is getting WAY too personal, such as comments about weight, race
,age, etc, it might be advisable to speak with a lawyer. But if it work related, it is possible you guys are clashing. I would try, calmly when he is in a good mood, to tactfully explain how you are feeling first. |
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lane |
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10/20/2004 6:48:00 PM |
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I guess by abuse I mean,(btw- I'm a male), and I'll keep it as clean as I can, telling me that my memory was as long as his "member", to which I turned and responded, "Is that why they call you stumpy?" He shut up for a day or so after that. I'm blessed with a quick wit & well known for defending myself.
Some things I know he is joking but it gets old after awhile. As for approaching him, well he is very arrogant, and speaking to him about this would cause days of hardship for me. The really hard part is the constant mood swings. He can be mean for 1 minute and your best friend the next. |
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mindym22 |
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10/21/2004 1:28:00 PM |
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Lol good comeback, It sounds like he is could be bipolar, or perhaps have a drug problem, or just could be VERY insensitive.. It is up to you how much this bothers you. I gave up a waitress job even though the tips were very good, because I just could not take it anymore, calls at home at all hours etc. If you search for another job DISCREETLY I might try that. Only you know if it worth the extra money to put up with this. It not really a legal issue unless he gets overly personal like my former supervisor did. |
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| Reply from: |
lane |
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10/21/2004 7:34:00 PM |
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You don't call his "member" size personal? I didn't want to know that! :) I know, because I am partialy like him, that underneath, he is incredibly insecure and feels that this is how he can assert himself and be the "tough guy." I know, because, I used to be that way until I quit caring what people thought of me and started having a life.
Bipolar? I never thought of that... |
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mindym22 |
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10/22/2004 1:12:00 PM |
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The boss was talking about himself when he talked about his "member' at least that what a lawyer would say, not that I agree, but I also think it is possible the boss is bipolar. |
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lane |
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10/22/2004 5:49:00 PM |
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So how do I tell him to get checked out? |
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| Reply from: |
mindym22 |
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10/25/2004 1:06:00 PM |
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I am not sure if it is a good idea to tell him to get checked out, and another question I should have asked before, is he like this with you ONLY or with everyone? |
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lane |
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1/14/2005 10:57:00 PM |
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everyone |
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