Narcissistic Personality Disorder
"The serial bully displays behaviour congruent with many of the diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Characterised by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity and self-importance, need for admiration, and lack of empathy, people with narcissistic personality disorder overestimate their abilities and inflate their accomplishments, often appearing boastful and pretentious, whilst correspondingly underestimating and devaluing the achievements and accomplishments of others."
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User: anonymous
Date: 9/18/2005 11:50:00 PM
Prior to becoming an executive at my work, my boss worked alone in a cubicle for a large organization. His former fiancee guided him into his current job, for which he is not qualified. He's pompous, continually quotes his wife and is not at all respected by his peers. He's been associated with a major project failure in his short tenure, yet he's still got his job. Obviously, this is the government as a for profit company would have canned him long ago. Anyway, his subordinate managers including myself take enormous effort to avoid him as much as possible. Your tax dollars at work!
User: anonymous
Date: 9/23/2005 2:14:00 AM
My boss begged me to come work for her,and I also helped her get another employee into the dept. It is awful!What a MISTAKE! And I feel badly for the other employee I brought in. We are berated in front of the other's, she does it to the other's also.We never know what kind of mood she will be in when we get there. It's like walking on eggshells most of the time.We are never ever told that we have done well in anything we do. A bit of appreciation for what we do would be wonderful. Believe it or not I only work with her for ONE HOUR! I am looking for another job in this establishment.Avoiding her is impossible! I'm done! Four years of torture has been enough!
User: anonymous
Date: 9/25/2005 1:05:00 AM
User: anonymous
Date: 11/3/2005 11:17:00 PM
the previous letter sounds exactly like my boss mine is a male...I've worked here for 15 years and things are getting worse. Emotionally i'm shot, we all feel have PTS, we never know when he's going to go off. His wife is also his peer and works w/us and she has changed alot as he becomesomes more controlling and verbally abusive...I;m cutting back on hours un til i can figure things out...i can't take it anymore.
User: anonymous
Date: 11/16/2005 9:01:00 PM
I have worked for this organization for nearly 30 years so when a new boss came in
to reinvent a failed program of 25 years ago I sighed. Little did I know I was one to be canned to reinstitute this failure. She is a classic example of someone promoted above her competency. Yes, you guessed its a branch of the military.
User: anonymous
Date: 12/19/2005 9:28:00 AM
I have a boss that could be a case study for narcissistic personality disorder. He believes he is revered by all (though he is despised by most), takes credit for others' achievements, believes women should be seen but not heard, is dishonest and demeaning. A number of highly qualified people are leaving our institution at an alarming rate. Once this guy does something for you, you will owe him for life! It's unfortunate b/c as a department, we get along; when he comes into the picture, morale drops like boulder falling off a cliff.
User: anonymous
Date: 3/8/2006 4:43:00 AM
My boss used to be the President of a now defunct finance company. At the height of the crisis, he went for an all-expense paid trip (courtesy of the company, of course) with his family to Europe. The company we both work for now is again at the brink of closing down. He's been here since 2000, behaved for a couple of years, but now he's on the loose again. He falsifies documents such as receipts of car repairs and goes on restaurant hopping and lets the company pay for everything. Now he can't give us a good salary increase because, well, the company has so many expenses. Fine!
User: anonymous
Date: 4/25/2006 8:59:00 PM
When I started reading up on narcissism, I suddenly realised that they'd written reports on my boss. Just about everything describes my boss to a tee. I've been with the company for about thirtten years now and I'm looking for a way out. I want to get out before the company crumbles around him and he makes me take the fall for it. He works maybe two hours a day, sleeps in his office for part of the day, spends the company's money like it was water, takes credit when he had nothing to do with it, constantly belittles most of the employees, lies, cheats, is deceitful, and seems to have many people fooled into thinking he's the greatest guy in the world. But now people are starting to find out who he really is and I'm getting a very uneasy feeling about the future of the company.
User: anonymous
Date: 1/29/2007 2:08:00 PM
i have a boss(female) who promised a lot of things when i took up the job that she offered and now after 8yrs .... nothing...constantly i am treated like an animal,workers directly under her are treated like animals whose salaries are decreased on her whim and she treats her workers as theives,and punishes them.no one checks on the abuse that is being meted out to her workers.thanx
User: anonymous
Date: 4/4/2007 7:49:00 AM
The legend in her mind that our team works for has undiagnosed NPD. Our day at work is simply a comedy of witnessing her blatent lies, verbose performances, drama, demeaning moments and utter joy when she hauls out early 3-4 times a week. A few of the team have realized she's all bluster and hot air and have begun to stand up to her. What a feeling! To witness her back-peddle and use flattery or the offer of candy to attempt to move back into her beloved throne of delusion is a pretty interesting spectacle. We all simply regard her as a necessary evil until she makes the enormous gaffe she'll eventually make; because she is so under qualified and inept, and will be escorted out the door - HER LAST PERFORMANCE!
User: anonymous
Date: 10/13/2007 8:21:00 AM
What about the 'winning'NPD? The successful one? IS good at everything, popular, loves to win, has heart disease and lives for revenge- see's the whole thing as a game to be won? Doesn't care whom he hurts by neglect (an 'invisible form of abuse)
User: anonymous
Date: 2/29/2008 3:42:00 AM
My boss is a poster child for NPD. Outwardly charming and "caring"; but really cold, uncaring, grandiose, temperamental, passive-aggressive, misogynistic, a b.s. artists, brooks no criticism or disagreement (his technique is to invite my opinion, then tell me it's "over the top" when I disagree with him), damns me with faint praise, seems to have attention deficit disorder, ignores attempts to contact him and responds when he feels like it; however, I must drop whatever I'm doing and get back to him in a millisecond when he contacts me; control freak; in total denial that he is the cause of everyone else's rage with him--it's always everyone else's fault, especially if they're female (he believes that men are persecuted). In fairness, he does have a few good points--I've worked for much worse. He will stand up to his boss and try to get reasonably good timelines for project instead of caving into their pressure for unreasonably short deadlines. He's also given me good projects and a fair amount of freedom. However, my job is having a detrimental affect on my mental and physical health and I am not sleeping well. I sometimes wonder if he is a sociopath.
User: anonymous
Date: 3/20/2008 8:40:00 PM
My boss has the same problem. I can't keep up with her constant personality changes. She won't let us have a sick day even when we are sick, and when we make the effort to come into work half dead, she shows no sympathy towards us. She is now begging for me to come back to work as I left mainly due to her hard to keep up with personality changes. I'm thinking about going back and sucking her blood for a while..just to be mean :)
User: anonymous
Date: 4/25/2008 1:46:00 AM
I an interning under an insane doctor...she is so narcissitic that she not only demeans her employees in front of patients, but she also has to intimidate patients...she only respects other narcissists...it's amazing how one narcissist can easily sense another... they are horrid SICKOS, and it's ESPECIALLY SAD when they are doctors or teachers, ministers, etc
User: anonymous
Date: 11/17/2008 12:20:00 PM
I had no idea this disorder was so prevalent. I found out about it from my therapist after I had to suddenly leave work due to almost having a nervous breakdown. My doctor told me I was suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder due to a toxic work environment. All the symptoms: sense of personal entitlement, disregard for the feelings of others, overworking her employees, feeling that she is unjustly persecuted by everyone who doesn't think she's perfect and wonderful--they're all there. The last straw for me was when she accused me of dropping the ball on something in front of a major cross-campus committee. She had her facts wrong, but the fact that she tried to embarrass me and destroy my reputation (people kept telling her what a good job I was doing, and that annoyed her no end) instead of asking me privately made me lose it, I guess. I had not expected such betrayal. I guess I'm kind of naive. At least I'm out of there, although I now have to find a new job, even though I've been with the organization for 18 years and received a distinguished service award a couple of years ago, while she's only been there two years and has had two harassment complaints against her (one successful, one ongoing).
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