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    can't get a job

    Posted by: mjkramer
    Date: 12/9/2004 10:10:01 PM

    I got a degree in computer science a few years ago. Been looking for a job that is relivent to my education for 3 years. The last year I have given up on finding a computer related job and the only jobs I can get are construction because they hire me over the phone without seeing me. I have experience in construction through helping my dad. However I am not allowed to show my experience. For instance a boss will hire me to frame houses over the phone, but will not let me even pick up a tool and has me carrying lumber for everyone else. They try to physically break me it seems and if I dont break then they fire me for bunk reasons. After I refuse all the reasons they finally admit that I "just don't fit in". Now because of this repeated pattern of not being able to get a job and losing the ones i get for no reason, I have to move back in with my parents who live across the country away from my son who doesn't live with me. Why is this happening to me? I played by the rules. I obey the law. Im respectful and considerate of other people. Why do other people get to decide if I eat, if I have shelter, where I live, if I live by my son, and ultimately if I live at all? This problem carries into my social life as well. People don't like me for no reason. I have no friends and so I have no resources for help, no protection, no power. I have been told by people that I'm 'retarded' but yet retarded people aren't supposed to be able to do the things that I do and succeed where I have. If I'm retarded and have gotten a degree in science, then what really seperates retareded people from non retarded as far as ability? If this is the case then it seems to me that it's really not a matter of ability but a matter of insuring that the economy always has a shoe shiner and a CEO. Can anyone help me? Its seems like the only people I have a strong connection to (my family), agrees with what is happening to me. My dad sais, "it's not society's problem, it yours". My family is under the impression that I can't change how I'm being treated. Either that or I should not be trying to change it.

    Reply from: mindym22
    Date: 12/10/2004 1:13:00 PM
    Reply: I would speak to a career counselor,perhaps you are in the wrong field. Plenty of people attend college and then realize they want to do something else. As for being called "retarded" is it possible that you have ADD or a learning disability? Also keep in mind Albert Einstein was labeled "retarded" by people before he became famous. Good Luck, God Bless
    Reply from: ea282
    Date: 12/13/2004 2:53:00 PM
    Reply: Dude, that sucks... First, due to the HIPAA laws enacted a few years back, the entire healthcare industry is becoming automated. Everything is moving to EDI. I would check with any local clearinghouses, hospitals, billing services, etc & try getting a job. You can also google for something like "EDI +vendor +" to see if any local software vendors who write / support EDI applications are hiring. Healthcare EDI is where it's at in IT right now. As for the jackasses calling you retarted...Dude, you're obviously intelligent. You managed to get a BS in CS, which isn't easy. Those guys are probably just intimidated by your intelect &, like any schoolyard punk, are attacking you because you expose how they have made complete failures of themselves. I mean, hammering nails? A monkey can do that. Don't sweat their insults. If they call you retarded, just ask them where they went to college. If they claim they have a degree, ask for proof, cause their are VERY few (if any) degreed people working construction. Finally, try to relax. Life throws us all a curveball from time to time, especially when we're young. These trials will make you into the man you're gonna be in your 30s. I would not reccomend moving away from your son. Being a Father is the most important task you will ever face in your entire life...period. Just being in the kid's life will make a huge difference for him. Do whatever you have to do to be around him as much as you can. If that means moving into the homeless shelter, so be it. Fatherhood comes before anything. Imagine your Dad telling you "son, when you were little, I moved into a homeless shelter instead of moving back home so that I could be close to you.." Imaging how good that whould make you feel. Imagine how loved. Suck it up man...be there for him at all cost. And pray. You're not alone.
    Reply from: possum
    Date: 1/2/2005 3:40:00 PM
    Reply: You don't sound at all retarded to me. People who have made comments like that to you are just plain ignorant & insensitive in my opinion.

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