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    Nice on day, mad the next?

    Posted by: Katrinado
    Date: 11/1/2007 7:46:46 AM

    I never know what I'm going to get at work. One day, my boss is sweet, generous and nice. The next, she snaps at the drop of a hat. This confuses me and I'm not sure what it means. When someone is not there, she talks about them, then when they are, she acts like she likes them. Ahhhh.. Also, I have a coworker who is lazy and complains about everything. We all have to hear how much she does and how hard her life is. She has been there for a long time, makes A LOT, and messes up twice as much as anyone else. We work in the medical field, so imagine that. She has a nasty attitude towards patients, and life in general. How is it that she continues to get ahead? The boss/owner NEVER snaps at her; (just talks about her when she's not there!) She is one of those sassy girls who think she's special! I am beginning to really dislike my job, but make 11.00 an hour and have a hard time giving up that money that I need for my family. I have recently gone part-time, but I'm starting to think that's still too much time spent in a negative environment...Any thoughts? Thanks.

    Reply from: matildagsd
    Date: 11/1/2007 3:44:00 PM
    Reply: You can either call it negative and so leave; or you can accept it as part and parcel of working with diverse personalities, none of whom are perfect. You're only there to be paid and do a decent job, after all, not to judge and absorb the eccentricies of others. AS for the complaining employee, tell her that while you can sympathize with her problems, she needs to discuss them with a professional and that you are on paid time, have your work to finish and really have no advice to give her. If she still does not take the hint, give her the cold shoulder. When your boss is nasty, try to stay out of her way and when she's sweet, be friendly back. Sounds as if she's a bit moody and rather two-faced, but as long as you can sidestep being dragged into a bullying/mobbing situation, you are free to think your own thoughts and hold yourself above such behavior.

    Reply from: urbngrl
    Date: 11/22/2007 2:01:00 AM
    Reply: I can sympathize with your situation. Do not worry about their gossiping ways and don't follow their example. I also had a supervisor who was inconsistent and unpredictable. You must not try to rationalize their behavior because I've found it never will make sense. The best thing you can do is put your best foot forward each day you are there. Walk in there and say to yourself you are strong, competent, and do your job the best you can. I don't think confronting your complaining co-worker will make her stop or change. Only she can change her behavior. I have to disagree with the previous comment. Playing their games doesn't help you or your employer; it just eats up your energy that could be put to better use, plus then you're no better than them. Your environment sounds toxic. I would advise you to find something else and in the mean time stay strong and do not focus on those around you, but focus on your task at hand; stay positive that while your situation may be difficult right now, know that a better opportunity awaits you. Do not occupy your attention to how others get ahead, but focus on how you will get ahead. I wish you all the best.

    Reply from: unlucky7
    Date: 1/10/2008 1:23:00 PM
    Reply: Gee- having had the worst experiences possible, my question to you is - Does her change of personality to you from day to Make you feel anxious that you are going to be fired? If not, you just have what you have. Just do what she tells you to do- tread carefully when she is in a bad mood- and just ignore the woman who has been there for a long time. Make sure your boss is not finding lots of mistakes in "your" work- do not give reason to fire you. Keep your job, and roll with the punches. Unless this boos turns you into a paranoid, nervois wreck - just go along to get along-and do not talk about anyone in the office, ever.

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