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Great Company- unfair immediate senior management
Posted by: spike
Date: 11/10/2007 4:16:27 PM
I work for a great bank and would like to stay with this company until retirement age. My only source of problem seems to be my immediate supervisor.This young man openly shows favoritism to younger good looking women. At times he can bully you and make you loose confidence in yourself. All of us thought that when he got a new boss, things would change, but unfortunately, it's getting worse day by day. He has his new boss wrapped round his little finger. His new boss does not know his job too well, so he is very dependent on my boss. All we can do at this time is that with the next merger, we get a retail head we can all look upto. Has anyone being in this position where you don't want to leave because it is a good company to work for, but at the same time cannot stand senior management practices? What should I do? Stay & bear it or look out for another bank?
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matildagsd |
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11/12/2007 3:55:00 PM |
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You need an ally higher up. You could try making yourself invaluable to your supervisor's boss by helping him with any questions or procedures he is not familar with and that you are. That way, he is not relying only on the supervisor. Of course, if your supervisor is a control freak, he will not appreciate this effort on your part. In which case, you're going to end up working for a bully, if hs clout continues to grow. Absolute power corrupts. Definitely document his behavior/remarks and actions with the younger women in the bank and send it to a higher-up. Its always possible someone would like to get rid of him and needs something concrete to do so. However, keep in mind that many bullies prosper in the work force and even get promoted. Keep your eye open for another bank in which to work, just in case. |
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smartworker |
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11/14/2007 7:16:00 PM |
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My advice is to keep your eyes open and keep working. has there been enough time for this upper-level boss to realize what's up with your supervisor? Maybe the upper level guy will realize what this lower level guy is doing - but everything takes time. Decide how long you're willing to wait - be reasonable. Then, if it only continues to get worse, approach the upper level guy, then his boss and so on. Just remember, approaching someone doesn't always get results. In the end, you may have to leave just out of discontent. BUT, you may also see results after approaching some people about this. Keep your appraoch professional. Come in with a list of real examples to prove your point. Present tham all RESPECTFULLY, avoid at all costs sounding like a whiner, its all in your approach. If possible, have a list of co-workers who would also speak to the higher-ups if asked. Do not approach the higher ups en masse, that is, don't all go in there at once. This comes across as way too confrontational. Just give a list of people willing to commit to talking about the situation if back-up is needed. |
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dawnkerri |
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12/4/2007 8:20:00 PM |
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I'm in a similar position. I have worked very hard to get where I am, or at least, where I thought I was. I was hired, I thought, as a Programs Assistant at a prestigious Fine Art museum. I've been notified that my position was always supposed to be "Admin. Assistant."
This is in spite of the fact that I still have the email from my boss, sent to me before I was hired, clearly stating the job was Programs Assistant. I really would like to work for this museum, but feel duped and manipulated. |
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goodboss |
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12/13/2007 9:45:00 AM |
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dawnkerri, most assistant jobs are administrative in nature. Are you working in the Programs department, or providing admin assistant support to the museum's Programs? If you are, it sounds to me like they gave you a functional title (Programs Assistant) when you applied, just so you'd know where in the museum you'd be providing admin assistant support. Then, after you were hired they told you that all employees there are referred to by their generic titles, and your generic title is "Admin Assistant." If you are providing admin assistant support to Programs, then you really are a Programs Assistant in function, and you can feel free to put that on your resume and to tell all your friends - because it's true. And try to stop feeling duped and manipulated, this type of situation in employment is 'way more common than not. Remember, a job's worth is all about what you do, not by what the job is called. (Your story reminds me of the time I met someone who told me her title was "Director of Finance" for a small company consisting of one owner and two employees, including her. For a while I wondered how on earth a tiny company like that could support a director-level finance person, and then I found out she was actually a part-time - one day per week - hourly-paid clerical bookkeeper! I wonder just how duped and manipulated her next employer's gonna feel if she's hired for a senior-level finance job based on her previous job's title!) |
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zumpie |
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12/16/2007 5:00:00 PM |
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Sounds a lot like sexual harrasment to me. Even if it isn't intended that way, if preferential treatment is shown only to young, attractive feamales, a case could still be made. Note some specifics and go to HR. It'll stop in a hurry, granted, you might be viewed as a whiner, but I seriously doubt this is the image your comapny wishes to project. |
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| Reply from: |
hedges |
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1/8/2008 1:27:00 PM |
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Don't panic, it's a huge dissapointment but it's just a job. I am in a similar position , our new manager is ex-army, finds himself in charge of educated senior (female NHS) staff and his bully boy tactics are not working. He too favours certain people and targets others. He has taken to manipulating others in his attempts to bully. I have been advised to document everything, try to expose his behaviours (cautiously)and observe how others react, you will find an ally somewhere. According to most documents how the behaviour makes you feel is the key issue, whether intentional or not. If you want to act, you can write to the person saying how you feel (copy to a senior) but without laying blame. This provides an option for them to change or at least recognise they've been spotted as a toad! I expect your HR area will have a policy covering this type of behaviour, it's usually around dignity in the workplace. Try to get a copy of it if you want to tackle the person more formally. Also consult your union if you have one. Otherwise, bear in mind you need a reference from this person, so an alternative is to sit back and devote your energy to quietly plan your escape. Good Luck |
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| Reply from: |
unlucky7 |
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1/10/2008 1:37:00 PM |
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Realy, from my bad, bad eperiences- your boss is just an average boss who has his bad days and decides to takes them out on you- example- the times you feel like you are losing your confidence due to his particular boss style that day.Is he telling you are doing your work wrong, does he have so many complaints with your work that you feel incompetent? If these bad days are not every day or every week, 1 a week not all bad- you just have to take the bad with the good. As for favoritism- boss's always have theri favorites, so never get into conflict with the favorites. When you feel like you have lost your confidence- get back oon the wagon the next day. Unless your boss is turning you into a nervous wreck evry day, just do your work, roll with your boss's bad days. Even in the best jobs, there are always bad days. |
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