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going back to a bad boss
Posted by: teacherprob
Date: 2/28/2008 9:54:14 PM
I am a teacher, who was hired by a former principal, who then retired & was replaced by a major egomaniac. I requested a grade transfer for 3 years in a row & was denied it, so I resigned my job. Then I decided I wanted to go back (my kids are there). So now I am trying to get back, but the boss is power tripping & putting me off. His regular comment is "We'll keep you in mind" then nothing. I did a good job for him- no problems, worked hard, cooperative, good parent/student feedback, but I think that by resigning I got on his bad side. Should I meet with him & pull a "What can I do?" or talk to people with power around him & have them put on the pressure, or give up (or something else)? I really want to get back there, and I am as good as anyone he could find. It's so frustrating that my credentials & performance are not enough to earn his respect!! Advice?
| Reply from: |
goodboss |
| Date: |
2/29/2008 11:00:00 AM |
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Some bosses take resignations personally (especially those of the egomaniac persuasion - because everything is always all about them!), and thus react badly. While this is highly unprofessional, there's not much that can be done about it, especially in this situation, because this particular resignation actually WAS personal. (You resigned because of him, right?) I think the only thing you can do is ask for a personal meeting with this guy, and during the meeting ask the question "what can I do to get my job back?" Don't expect too much, though - while your job performance and workplace interpersonal relationships may have been impeccable, that has nothing to do with why he doesn't want you back. He doesn't want you back because he feels insulted by your resignation, and the fact that you resigned isn't something you can change. I definitely don't recommend going to others to get them to put pressure on him to rehire you. While he may end up rehiring you as a result of feeling pressured, he's also going to resent you mightily for causing that pressure. And that resentment will come out in his behaviour towards you - he will probably make your worklife a living hell. Not something you want to go throug, I think. |
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teacherprob |
| Date: |
2/29/2008 12:32:00 PM |
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Thanks for the advice. I left b/c I really wanted to teach younger children & was not given that opportunity there. Now I know of an opening with a grade level that I would love and I have spoken with the retiring teacher about spending some time with her doing observations & such, so that I can be better prepared.
You're right on the resignation- there's no changing that, but when I resigned I did it professionally & told him it was due to my desire to teach younger kids, which I couldn't do where I was. So I hope I didn't bruise the ego with that. I am currently substituting at the school, so I am around a lot & always do the smiling hello with him when I see him, so on the surface at least all is well.
Do you think people saying "we think she's great & would love to have her back" would be detrimental? Wouldn't that just be some positive reinforcement?
Thanks so much for your insight. |
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| Reply from: |
goodboss |
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3/1/2008 9:39:00 AM |
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"Positive reinforcement" is fine, but if it crosses the line into "pressure" (or even if he just FEELS like it's crossing the line into pressure), then it will become detrimental for you. I recommend you limit the amount of positive reinforcement given to him to just a few people, and ask them to make sure that what they're saying doesn't sound like pressure. And have that meeting with him - asking him to provide you with his expert-level advice on what you need to do to get this job might be just the sort of ego-strokes he needs to soften towards you. |
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