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I need a reference but the most obvious choice is likely to give me a bad reference
Posted by: operation
Date: 2/25/2005 2:33:13 PM
Hi there, would like advice. I worked in a small team of women who tried constructive dismissal to get me out of a company. they lied about my stats and gave me almost daily performance talks. I was the strongest member of the team but most unliked. my mother died of cancer and only one member approached me to say sorry. the others just continued to blank me. I need a reference from this female boss and it is so important I get a good one that i daren;t approach them. i don;t care about the law, has anyone heard "off the record?" of course they can give you a bad ref if they really want to. please, I don;t want to fake a ref, who can I approach?
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barbara |
| Date: |
2/26/2005 9:55:00 AM |
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If she will not give you a letter of reference than you should put them down that you worked there and that is all. Your references should be people that you know for sure will not stab you in the back. If she will not write you a letter, then you don't need her. When you go for your next job interview you can tell them about where you worked last, and if they call them they are only allowed to say "yes she worked here". I know this from past experience. They can not say anything negative about you that will keep you from getting ajob in your field. This is the law. No letter, no reference. Once you have it in writing you are ok, if she won't, don't use her. |
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operation |
| Date: |
3/2/2005 4:43:00 AM |
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Hi Barbara,
thanks for your reply but unfortunately the reference I need is for a college course who are asking for detailed reference from an employer, one detail being "how I interact with others". I can imagine how my ex-boss would tear strips out of me for that. I'm afraid to mention this to the college in case it negatively affects my application. The course is my future and I'm worried sick. any ideas please? |
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operation |
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3/18/2005 1:10:00 AM |
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hi again,
for those that are in the same predicament, my new boss gave me a stunning reference. And the college course? I have an interview. I'm thinking I might haul my ex-employers ass into court for failing to provide a reference and acting against the law and I'd be well within my rights. Loser. Just goes to show, what goes around comes around. |
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