How to work effectively with a difficult boss

Navigation

  • Home
  • Books
  • Discussion Forums
  • Articles
  • Useful Sites
  • Vault
  • Press Releases
  • RSS News Feed
  • Corporate Sponsors
  • FAQ
  • About Us
  • Contact
  • Privacy
  • Add to iFaves


    Key Books


    Does Someone at Work Treat You Badly?/How to Handle Brutal Bosses, Crazy Coworkers...and Anyone Else Who Drives You Nuts


    The Allure Of Toxic Leaders: Why We Follow Destructive Bosses And Corrupt Politicians--and How We Can Survive Them


    Coping with Toxic Managers, Subordinates ...And Other Difficult People: Using Emotional Intelligence to Survive and Prosper

    [Back to message list] [Reply to this topic] [Start a new topic]

    Been harrassed and bully by Team Leader

    Posted by: merilyn
    Date: 7/3/2005 2:47:44 AM

    I work for a local goverment in Sydney Australia nearly 2 years in a call centre and I have been constantly bullied by my Team Leader. I have informed HR and my Manager, all I want is to be moved to the front counter which is a vacant position there, also I told them that I tried to avoid complaint my team leader as I know I would get into worse situation with her and her gang ( her sister and 3 best friend). Firstly the HR and my manager told me to make a informal complaint so they can act to help me, but after I did what they told me, I get into hell. They did not do anything but let my Team Leader know about my complaint, Her attitute to me worsened, I collapsed at work because my panic attack, I have been diagnosed depressed and anxiety and I have to take anti depressant. My doctor and my Union arranged a return to work plan with them my doctor restrict me to work under her supervison and not in the same room, but they still put me in the call centre ( my Team Leader is away for holiday and come back next week).

    I came back last week hoping thing is OK for me while my Team Leader is away but my situation get worsened with her gang, her friend is a acting Team Leader now, he is twice bully as her and the whole team. I have to go to psychologist during my lunch break, sometimes I have only 10mins for lunch and constantly been harrassed by him into a subtle way so I can prove it, Also the return to work co ordinator is a bitch she told my doctor that I am a liar, I always took over 2 hour for psychologist counselling etc..

    I felt so distress as I request my Manager to let me go to work in the front counter again, but He said no, and He told me that I must get back to work with my Team Leader when she come back. I could not apply for any other jobs outside which I tried for the last couple of week, but they ask for medical history and they would not employ me because I am under stress leave.

    I also feel very distress as I fear of my doctor will listen to them and will not support me any more, my doctor was the one advised me and gave me work compensation certificate, but now she told me that she is tired from discuss with their Return to work co ordinatorand, ny doctor told me to seek legal advice.

    I feel I have been trapped as at the begining I did not want to complaint but the HR and my Manager told me to. I did not want to take worker compensation I seek for normal sick leave but my doctor gave me the work compensation. Now I have no where to go I have no one supporting me, I can not get any job as they know I claim for depressed and anxiety worker comp.

    I have contacted Human right and Equal Opportunity Commission but they said they have no jurisdiction to Local goverment. I have contacted Anti discrimination board they said they can not do anything as there is no prove that my team leader discriminated me although I am an asian.

    I feel very distress and think of suidcide sometimes.

    Please give me some advice



    Reply from: carolyn
    Date: 7/3/2005 11:09:00 PM
    Reply: merilyn, wow! suicide? no job is worth that!!! try to focus on bettering yourself-just for yourself--not for anyone else. eat healthy, exercise, get enough sleep for starters. it sounds like all your energy is going into fighting this situation. use your energy to learn new things, meet new people and even try to listen to some of what the bullies are saying-there is often something related to work that you can try to improve. as for the rest of their rude comments or tone, practice your professional, calm responses and focus on the work to be done. sometimes we can get so caught up the office politics that it can affect our work, and then the bullies have a point to harp on. hang in there, thanks for sharing your story, and don't give up.

    Reply from: siggpuppy
    Date: 7/4/2005 5:54:00 PM
    Reply: Take care yourself. As advice by Carolyn, it is good for you to be healthy first. It takes time to cope with this mess. Put the whole thing in your head away by talking or writing. It's not worth to carry around or keep it inside. Talk with ones whom you can talk with or even write it up in your notebook or computer just to clear your mind. This will help to let the heartache and headache out from your mind. This will help you see thru things what was happened. For the past three weeks, I read a lot, write, do some artworks, went out to the beach, canoeing, short trips and so on. If you can do that, you may feel better soon. You look for something new what you like and enjoy. Here.. is another Asian.. What they did what they get.....

    To reply to this topic or add a comment, just complete our 20-second registration process which is free and confidential. If you have already registered, you need to log in.


    [top]

    Have you ever quit or changed positions because of your boss?
    Never
    Once
    Twice
    Three times
    More than 3 times

    [view responses]


    Login

    Registration is confidential, free, and has a number of benefits.

    User: PW:
    RegisterLost password


    Search

    Keyword(s):
     
    Advanced Search


    Popular Items


    Corporate Sponsors

    Badbossology.com is completely free for both individual and corporate use. Corporate sponsorship opportunities are available.

    Copyright � 2007 The CMR Group. All Rights Reserved.
    No part of this site may be copied or reused without express written permission.
    All trademarks are properties of their respective owners. Privacy policy.