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what to do with mentally ill boss?
Posted by: germinatable
Date: 7/27/2005 10:09:30 PM
i work in an unusual situation; a very small staff (five of us including the boss), and live and work at the same location. i like my job very much but i am becoming less and less tolerant of my bosses serious personality disorders. she is a classic narcissist; has no empathy, talks constantly, interrupts, deliberately implies we are all intellectually inferior, needs to control all aspects of the operation, manipulative, re-directs every conversation as a platform to talk about herself, parinoid that everybody wants her job and is trying to circumvent her authority. obviously, i should look for work elsewhere because she is so unpleasant to be around on a daily basis; however, as i mentioned above, i do like my job and like having a place to live. changing jobs would be a huge undertaking. i have read books on how to deal with difficult people and nothing i do can alter her behavior. other staff members have it much worst than i do since they are male and she is particularly defensive and aggresive with men. any suggestions will be useful. thank you.
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siggpuppy |
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7/31/2005 4:54:00 PM |
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get her one... a counselor... ha ha... |
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natalie |
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8/3/2005 10:11:00 AM |
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I like your description, thats my boss to a T. No empathy, talking constantly-(even though no-one is listening) redirecting every situation and everything back to her,. the list goes on. Our manager also has very dirty annoying habits like nose picking, eating loud and sloppy and constantly! and always while at her desk. Going to the toilet and not flushing, never washing her hands-probably in fear of missing something!
Basically you do not have to look for work elsewhere as why should you and secondly as time goes by you will pass caring. I just concentrate on the good things and try to ignore her as much as is humanly possible.
I have now worked alongside her for almost 2 years, at first I tried hard, then I couldn't stand it anymore and got into a few arguements with her over various work related matters -that didnt get me anywhere. All 4 of us at work, cant stand her, like you I like my job and so we should not be the ones to have to leave. I reckon that behind the power trips they are actually frightened about the position of responsibility they have landed into! and clearly they feel threatened by people who are good at their jobs.
If you read my last topic/run in with her regarding informing her of my pregnancy, you'll see you are not alone. I believe her reaction to my good news was due to her loss of control. ideally she would like to stop everyone from progressing in anything in life- since if its not about her- she cant cope!
I turn it around in my head so that I see the funny side and chant amusing things to myself to blot out her annoying habits. You will find that its not just you, but there will be loads who feel the same way about her, they just dont say anything incase they are alone on their thoughts,. we learn everyday that even our customers cant stand her! |
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germinatable |
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8/3/2005 11:51:00 AM |
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thank you natalie for your reply...it really is comforting to know that other people share the same problem...i don't want to become one of those people who complains about their boss and never does anything about it...i think you are right...in time i will just stop caring about her existance all-together...after an incident that happened yesterday, i seriously think she is very close to a major breakdown...i don't want to wish that on anybody, but i do long for her to become someone else's problem.
thanks again.
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majordomo70 |
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8/8/2005 10:02:00 PM |
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Run and run fast. Working in sick environments makes you sick. Personality disorders like Narcissistic Personality Disorder are difficult to treat. Your boss doesn't even know she has a problem! To her, everyone else is problematic. Look for a new place to work. |
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lola |
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8/23/2005 8:59:00 AM |
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Hi
i can understand exactly what u are talking about and i agree with the post which said to leave as if your boss is mentally ill nothing u can do will change them they are sick but will never realise it always feeling as though it is u who make no sense. i worked for someone who i believe may have been a psychopath who loved/craved crisis and danger. we worked in a somewhat high risk field and she would set us up to continually face more crisis then nessasary. She was fixated on drama and extremes and would behave in the most bezarre ways at times. She would inform us of terrible incidents that she had witnessed in a similar job and then explain how we should prepare oursleves for the same situations at work. she would also constantly talk about the threat and risk we were at in our personal lives fundementally focusing on those staff who had children and telling them stories about child abductions and abuse that she was aware of real people real incidents that occured according to her.
i no longer work at all not just at this job but any job as i fell to peices one day out of the blue. I went from being a well respected and highly talented employee to a shell of my self unable to follow a simple sentance. 12 months on im in weekly psychiatry sessions trying to feel comfortable just surving i have developed a chronic form of ptsd due to the years of stress, abuse and fear that i had to contend with on a daily basis. I liked my job too until it was to late to understand that my job was destroying me. Leave while u still have your sanity and your self dont allow someone who is screwed up to screw u up. |
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