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Martyr Boss?
Posted by: cparis56
Date: 8/2/2005 11:46:24 AM
Does anyone have one of these? Good lord mine is driving me crazy. She will NOT delegate at all. Not only that but she will take tasks away from other people stating she just wants to get the ball rolling. She loves to talk about how she is so particular about details isn't that funny? (umm no) and how she always checks her emails at home-no reason too. In reviews she always marks people real low for not taking more initiative and being more independant, but its a viscious cycle when you try to she shoots every idea down. Nothing really to do but I just wanted to vent and see if anyone else had experienced this!
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fsterrett |
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8/8/2005 2:14:00 PM |
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I was a boss just like this one, so I know what you are talking about. It was my first job where I had to supervise anyone. My obsessive controlling behavior had its roots in my not wanting to look bad to my boss, and my belief that supervision was cloning, not bringing out the best in people. I.E. I only trusted myself to get it right. This is a recipe for a heart attack the further up the food chain one rises. I grew out of it over years with the help of a good boss who threatened to put me through my own training program! I was supervisory training manager at the time, and did not know how to delegate with confidence.
Suggestions:
1) Ask your boss to give you an "opportunity" to demonstrate your ability in one facet of the project at hand and see if you can get him/her to agree to not intervene for a specific interval of time. Then as confidence builds, increase the intervals.
2)Ask the boss for an interim evaluation. Use that meeting as an opportunity to stress your competence at specific tasks and weave in a comment or two about being under-utilized and needing more challenge.
3)Be the type of employee that EVERYONE, including your peers and your boss's boss, has confidence in. I.E. Walk the talk.
4) Consider a change to a different boss/company if all else fails. Life is too short to be unfulfilled.
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beverleymunoz |
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8/9/2005 7:14:00 AM |
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Could fsterrett please contact me on: +44 207 693 1615 / +44 7816 066 091. I'm working on a show for CNN and we're doing a piece on 'managing your boss'. i would love to talk to you about how you came to the realisation that you were too controlling. It would be a great opportunity to help other bosses look at themselves etc.
Any help would be much appreciated. Call me any time. My name is Beverley and 'm based in London. Lookf roward to hearing from you soon. |
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spider&flyboss |
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8/16/2005 9:52:00 PM |
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This really makes you wonder about where bosses get training, whether they keep current in trainig in amanagement skills,and how they keep their jobs with their bosses if there is so much incompetence. Isnt her behavior affecting her performance? Or is there a management elite that trickles down blame to the workers? |
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