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Got written up while at home / Manager wouldnt let me tend to my sick child

Posted by: RebeccaS
Date: 6/3/2008 3:12:56 PM

I too have a bad "boss". Shes actually one of 4 managers at a retail store.

She picks on everyone until they blow up. Then she smiles as if shes pleased with herself. Then she write them up or calls the District Manager to "Tell" on them.

She told me during my first week that I was not allowed to take a break. I worked 5 hours a day, and according to the handbook, anything over 4 hours got a break. She tried to tell me it was ILLEGAL in the state of Pennsylvania for me to take a break. Then she said, my job, doesnt get a break. I cried then talked to the other managers, only to be told, "dont listen to her, shes nuts". They wont confront her, just tell me not to listen which makes me uncomfortable because it just causes more problems.

The latest incident (there has been quite a few between then and now 9 months later), occured 3 weeks ago. The day before my knee surgery which was all taken care of, time off, etc, I had to call off because my daughter had a stomach bug. She gave me a horribly hard time and wouldnt let me hang up. While on the phone my daughter started crying and my supervisor wouldnt let me hang up to tend to her. I said I really have to go, and she stated she wanted me to call my surgeon and have them fax over a copy stating why I will be off for 2 weeks (surgery). It was just because she was angry. Right Now? She said, SURE. I told her It was already told to me by two other managers, just to bring in the note when I get back for my file. She said she wanted it right now. I said, listen my daughter is sick, I cant do this right now, she wouldnt let me go! So finally I said, I have to go, and hung up the phone. I just never had someone NOT let me go. Yesterday my first day back, she came in early to show me she had written me up due to lack of RESPECT for her and the other managers. I felt this was totally wrong, my poor kid was suffering and she was just being mean.

None of these supervisors get along, they all tell me different things...no one is on the same page. I have been told to do one thing, only to be yelled at and told NOT to do that but to do this. Its very hard when you goto one boss, only to have them talk about you behind your back. What should I do? Did she have any right to write me up when I wasnt even at work? Also, I am planning on leaving and wish I could explain that shes the reason without causing more trouble.

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