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    How to Survive and Get Ahead When Your Boss is A Tyrant, Control Freak, or Just Plain Nuts!


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    Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You

    How To Deal With a Difficult Boss

    "Bosses and supervisors aren't from another planet, but sometimes they seem to be. If you deal with the boss from hell you know. Conflict between a difficult boss and an employee can be daunting and intimidating. Here are some tips to help you deal with difficult bosses and supervisors."

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    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/19/2005 6:58:00 PM

    As Covey suggests, seek first to understand, then to be understood.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 5/19/2006 9:19:00 AM

    my boss just accepted a promotion and let me find out about it in an e-mail!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/13/2006 10:45:00 PM

    My boss sets people up to fail by not communicating proper policies and procedures. Writes people up for things they didn't even know they did wrong..no warning at all. Than fails to help solve the problem. Loves to single people out and nag about things but does not to others that do the same thing. She breaks many rules, being late, long breaks, talks at length on the phone and at work about non-work related topics. Does not set a good expample but expects all employees to abide accept her! Picks on you until you want to quit. Nagging emails about what you did wrong but you have a legit explanation and she argues anyway. Has been over heard talking negatively about other employees or past employees. Vocally voiced that her boss is stupid and incompetant. Manipulates policies to find a way to get you in trouble. Has a "don't mess with me attitude" has admitted to being a good liar. has admitted will argue a point wether correct or not...I could go on...


    User: anonymous
    Date: 8/11/2006 10:26:00 PM

    I used to have a boss like that, and stayed with the job for fourteen years thinking that I would/will not let her get the best of me. Why should I let her have the pleasure of "winning". Well now I have left there and am in another environment. It amazes me how I had that rediculous way of thinking of winning or losing. I lost anyway by staying there and wasting my hard work and extra efforts only to be overlooked because she simply didn't like me, spoke bad of me and refused to acknowledge my good work...but expected high standards from me because she repeatedly got it from metoo. Boy was I dumb...two ulcers too late. I should have left there a long time ago and realized that my work....is my livlihood and should be appreciated and if it isnt than I should go where it will make me feel good about it. Staying there was foolish. While on the other hand....it made me a very percise worker. I learned to follow through with every tiny detail because of little fears of coming back to me. When I finally got the courage to leave there I thanked her in a nice letter telling her that her expectations of me paid off and got me a great promotion at another facility...a job I may not have gotten had she let me slide....the way she let others. She still hates me and still talks about me even when I am not there. Last year I sent her a Christmas card telling her that I had heard she missed me and found it to be quite sweet of her to still be using my old work as an example of what a great boss she is. She never responded of course but I feel that in the end I did win...but...I lost some of my health in return, and some of my opportunities may have gotten by me over those years working there. I guess you have to weigh it all out and decide for yourself what your job is worth. I feel good now, and there isn't a price for that. I wish someone would have told me...


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/7/2006 6:23:00 AM

    My boss is a priest, but he is pretending that he is a library science major. He is the root of all the disorderliness in our library. Now, my problem is, I am a librarian by profession and I want to deliver a sermon.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/11/2006 1:09:00 AM

    my boss is sleeping with her boss which is still my boss so nothing could ever get straight at allied barton


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/28/2006 8:09:00 AM

    I was given a week off work from the Doctor for a severe chest infection. On the Monday I went into work even though I was sick because i knew she had some work for me to do. My boss told me to go home after 3 hours working, told me to go to the Dr to have it checked out (didnt seem that bad at the time but i went) After the Dr visit i calle dmy boss, told her i probably wouldnt be in on Tues and I had to go back to the Dr on Wed so Id let her know what the Dr said on Wed. After the Dr visit and treatment that had me feeling sick and dizzy so I couldnt drive and had to get a friend to take me) i went straight to the office to hand in the medical papers and explain what the Dr said). When I got to the door she looked me up and down in "disgust" then opened the door and immediately started shouting about how I hadnt called and was disrespectfull,refused to listen to me, took the papers from me and forced the door shut while i still had my hand on the door knob, causing me to stumble back. Please, someone tell me what I did to deserve that treatment and what I should do.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/1/2006 10:31:00 PM

    To the one who wrote about the abusive boss at the door: Do you really think you did something to deserve that? What in your heart of hearts do you think you should do? You are a human being. Obviously your boss was upset but truly, it wasn't about you. Quite a Piece of Work (POW)you work for. I hope you will take care of yourself physically and emotionally. And while you're doing that, beef up your resume, there are plenty of nice people out there who happen to be bosses.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/11/2006 4:38:00 PM

    My boss still looking ways to fire me. Since, I wrote an e mail to the principal complaining about the supervisor and director who came several times to my work site without reason. Since, I complained in 2003, they have been making my life impossible and hard. I don't know what to do. This supervisor always look details on my job performance. I do a great job but he still complaining. Please some advise


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/13/2006 10:33:00 AM

    This sucks


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/31/2006 8:12:00 PM

    My boss is the CEO of a big corp. While I technically work for the company (my paycheck comes from it), I work directly for him and only him. I have no other supervisor, I have no staff. I am his personal assistant. There are no check and balances in this position, no procedures. He himself is a total non-communicator. He knows exactly what he wants, he just never tells anyone. He only tells you when it's not perfect, and waits for months to do so, until review time. I've never been in such a no win situation before. Money is good, family depends on me. What to do? He is king.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/8/2006 12:03:00 AM

    I am working for a boss that in private will compliment on my work habits however in front of her department heads never ever says anything positive about me. I am the administrative assistant who also pulls manager on duty yet am not paid estra for it. I am somewhat involed in marketing and in that sense am eligible for a commission for any move ins that we have. The marketing director pulls in a whooping $600.00 per move in ====I get a measley $25.00. I had my annual evaluation about 6 weeks ago and was told I would receive $50.00 per move in. I looked at my pay check today and I was still at $25.00 per move-in. I asked my boss about this and she said corporate did not approve it and my immediate boss had done everything she could to get it approved. I have worked at this place for 3 1/2 years but never seem to get any extra $ yet others can. It seems to be a title problem...as long as I am the administrative assistant it's okay however when the boss is out of the area I am left in charge. She is very volitile...waht can I do without running the risk of being fired?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/8/2006 12:06:00 AM

    It's me again---the one with the volitle boss....sorry about the typos! I am just a bit pissed off this evening!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/15/2006 11:21:00 PM

    Yea, I don't know what to do, my boss randomly attacked me yesterday for leaving my job at the time I was scheduled to leave because the phone was ringing, so she began yelling at me the following day her face was beat red and she just basically treated me like shit and made fun of me to my face, I work with her and this other woman and they both sit on their ass and eat while I do all the bitch work, then they talk about me behind my back everytime I leave the room. They also bark orders and tell me to lift heavy boxes all the time when they won't lift a finger or help me out. They don't know what the fuck they're doing. I need outtt hahaa, help should I put up with this shit or what???


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/21/2006 1:58:00 AM

    My boss is a big fat shit deceitful person. She doesn't know how to shut up her big mouth from lying. She is a bully, a psycho, compulsive, and a pathological darn liar. She is a sick person. She belongs in a psychopath mental retarded facility/institution not in Accounting department. Anonymous


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/21/2006 7:41:00 PM

    I work in a small busiess just starting out. my boss, well i use to love her but now eh. I work my butt off everyday and go to the edge of the world and back to try to please her yet i only get minimum wage. she has been cutting my hours instead of the one other employee who just wanted to pick up 10 or 15 hours every pay period (every 2 weeks) and not be on schedule. me on the other hand would like at least 40 per pay period and want to be on a schedule. when the boss isnt there she is telling me all the things she says behind my back. like "what do you think of her" or "do you like her?" me and the other employee fool around all of the time and one time she goes "owww. she hit me" in that little kid way and i started laughing. At the end of my shift when i left she goes "did she really hit you. thats it" these little things are adding up in my head to: does my boss not liking me but has no legit reason to fire me because i havent messed up yet?" "When I do mess up even at a little thing am I gone?" please answer.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/22/2006 1:26:00 AM

    Did you ever have to deal with a psychopath manager? Yes, I do a psycho pathological liar who would lie about you, deceive people with her double personality. She is indeed an expert in manipulating people and the numbers to keep off the records what she doesn't want her boss to know, so far she gets away with it. But I do believe that someday she will answer to these (bad boss, manipulative, and continuously lying). Manipulating not only the people but also the books.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/23/2006 3:17:00 PM

    I don't know how some of these "so called " bosses get their positions but I work for a boss who loves to downrate you when you do something wrong but just simply doesn't seem to be capable of praising your accomplishments. Even when she hear's other's cheering you on she will not say a word. Correction, she will if the praisee is one of her favorites; Otherwise forget it. I've never seen anyone more controlling than this person. I don't know if the homelife is unhappy or what but I sure wish these type of people would do us all a favor and take a job where dealing directly with human beings is not a part of the job description. It would also be nice if more institutions had an anonymous and fair way for employees to report these people without the fear of being terminated. It is absolutely ridiculous that some employees have to endure such behavior. But ultimately I guess a person doesn't . You just have to be willing to take some risk to bring about change.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/24/2006 2:23:00 PM

    A manager that is an expert in lying can always get away with her lies. That is in fact one of the characteristics of a psychopath pathological liar. When they are caught lying they will make up another lies to try to cover up their lies. Unfortunately although the management knows about the problem, the management hasn't done the actions to make the pathological liar manager answers to what she causes to the company. Hopefully that the management will realize SOON that one of the managers that they employ is an expert in the field of lying, whatever she says always include lies; of course she is a PATHOLOGICAL LIAR. A PASTYHOLOGICAL liar manager will always be a liar and will keep on spending hours everyday telling lies stories when she is suppose to work. Sad to say, that the company doesn't include screening for liar person before hiring an employee. The management just doesn't realize for example hiring a pathological psychopath manager they are unaccounted for (spending) pay check ($55/hour for manager hourly rate) to employ a COMPULSIVE PATHOLOGICAL LIAR.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/28/2006 1:14:00 AM

    I have a bad boss too. She has her favorite who can dress any way she wants. But if one of us wears jeans on a no jean day we all get an email. Her favorite has been wearing jeans every day for weeks now. My boss will give no one praise unless you are a favored one. She berates me and one other person in front of everyone, even though I do the most work in the department. If I ask a question she will actually shout at me sometimes, saying I should know the answer by now. She is completely unapologetic in her attitude and has stated that she is the perfect boss. We had to listen to her muse how she must put something down that she could improve about her managerial skills. Nothing, of course. Ultimately I complained to her boss and things got better for a month or so, but the honeymoon is over and she has started in on me with renewed vigor. Today it was bad enough to get everyone's attention, though I had done nothing wrong. She obviously had something else going on and decided to take it out on me again. Basically, I hate her and wish she would die. Die bitch die! I'm too old to think thoughts like that, but I can't help it. I hate her guts.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/1/2006 12:55:00 PM

    Jenny.. My boss is kinda good but sometimes, shouted at me from head to toe and it's embarrasing of course not to him but to myself, I feel like I'm standing in the clouds when he shouts. He treats me like a slave do this that, seat here there and here. Watta fucking asshole.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/15/2006 9:37:00 PM

    My boss makes jokes about me, We get to evaluate our boss, yet when i do my boss finds with things wrong with me and i get bad evaluations. we also evaluate wach other my boss won't take myevaluations of other seriously. she lies on mine i found out by others.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/26/2006 4:51:00 PM

    I have a supervisor that is a 'Lime Light Lover'. Always needs to be in the spotlight. The problem is when she does not fully understand something, it becomes the fault of someone else. Constantly looking for some way to point a finger of blame. Most often, resorting to the "It's your responsibility" statement when something isn't done according to her rules. Favorite buzz term: 'Knowledege transfer'. Favorite thing to do: Nasty gram e-mails sent to you but cc'd to her boss and everyone else that she needs to impress.


    User: hadenuff
    Date: 12/31/2006 1:34:00 AM

    After 1.5 years of mostly unhappiness with regard to my work as well as the PERSON I worked for, I quit. It feels good to say it and hopefully live it. Here's the beginning of what I lacked respect for in terms of the personality of the employer I was with: (a) his self-centeredness (rather than confronting the people he worked for, he talked badly about them behind their back - instead of using his power/role as a manager to provide constructive criticism, as a manager who cares about people, he just vented his rage, upset, disappointments at his employees, and then went about his work. So there was never a relationship with anyone; we were just instruments for the work to get done. Venting was just a mechanism for releasing his feelings and moving on). He wasn't interested in playing the role of a good manager or boss.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/1/2007 4:07:00 PM

    I'm 56 years old and I have found that there are going to be some kind of problem at any job you have. If you get along with the boss then you have problems with your co-workers and vice versa. When I first started working in the early 70's it seemed to me that people kept things on a professional level at work. Now you have to be personal friends with everyone and if you're not, you're ostracized. There is very little professional in office jobs anymore and I think it has to do with less job security and the bad job market. People have become paranoid about losing their jobs and spend more time "kissing up" than doing their jobs. It makes it hard for the people who just want to do a good job and go home and not get involved in all the political crap that goes on. Oh well, what can you do? You have to work. Keep your mouth shut and try to stay out of trouble as much as you can is the only advice I can give.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/6/2007 5:45:00 PM

    Please someone help me! i have 3 bosses in my office. the chain of bosses goes like this! My boss, boss A. her boss BOSS B. her boss BOSS C.. sorry to be complicated! Ive been working for my company thomas cook now for 6 month. and im starting to feel like my boss hates me! its the same old stuff . shouts at you for being 1 minute late. shouting at me for things that other employes do. (but they dont get the telling off) shes recently set a new seating plan for everyone in the office. which was meant to be so things would work more efficent. how ever on a xmass night out. she tells one of my friends when shes drunk the seating plan was just so that who she likes most was sat near her. me sitting furthest away from me relised she probably did hate me. often responds with the word "what" when i ask her a question! but what do i do! she shouts at me for things i do but not anyone else! im extremly good at my job and she knows i am! but its so de-motivating when shes always talkign to me like rubbish! i want to complain about her to boss b! (her boss) but there good friends and ive learnt that in the post from other employess that nothing was ever done when they complained about her. i want to go to boss A (but hes been sleeping with boss B)! what do i do! i want to work in an envoirment were i feel aprecaited for the efforts i go to! i reach my targets and exceed them more then everyone else! ive got the constant feeling she wants me sacked! but i love my job and dont want her winning! at times she can be lovely. but most the times shes horrible! please someone help me!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/11/2007 11:40:00 PM

    I have a boss who I am guessing no longer likes me. It's interesting, when I started the job, she was really nice, did all the right things like "go home, you'll be working late soon enough", and other such gestures. However, one day, when I called to let her know I had some concerns about a certain thing she wanted me to do which she had relayed to me via another supervisor who is under her, she just ignored the call and never even responded. When I saw her in the office, she looked at me almost with discust. One day, the supervisor who acted as the messenger came into my office to discuss something. I ended up sharing my feeling of confusion at not knowing what to do now that my supervisor had deliberately ignored my call. This supervisor shared with me that she was in the room when she got my message and she said that she told her how annoyed she was with a look of disgust on her face. Part of the reason I am so disturbed by this is because she tries to paint this picture that she and "her team" are all perfect and how lucky we all are.... but how can she be so fake. My QUESTION IS AS FOLLOWS: I REALLY WOULD LIKE TO CONFRONT HER AND PROCESS THAT EXERIENCE WITH HER. I WOULD LIKE CLEAR THE AIR SO I CAN CONTINUE TO ENJOY THE OTHER ASPECTS OF MY JOB WHICH I SO ENJOY. I just don't know if it's worth the risk. Perhaps it will backfire. Any ideas? Should I just eat my pride and move on?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/24/2007 11:05:00 PM

    I hate my boss. I unloaded on her the other day and told her all the stupid stuff she does. I am ambarrassed I lost control, but how can you not get frustrated when your boss is lying to your face and you know it. God I wish she would die.I pray for something to happen to her. What a moron. She is so over her head in this job. She doesn't know anything about being a manager of people. Got i hate her.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/31/2007 7:54:00 PM

    I feel your pain, my boss is over her head in her job, she doesn't know her ass from her face half the time, and the other half everyone else is doing the work and she gets the credit. People like her keep getting away with their abusive and condescending behaviour toward others, and it is beyond me why upper management do not see this. As a matter of fact they think she is doing a great job....that shows you how much they are aware of what is going on. They pat her on her back and she gleams like a hollow lightbulb.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 2/1/2007 10:59:00 AM

    Well, I am not surprised anymore about why do they get away with it. The only problem I have is "When should I say enough is enough". I learned from a couple of things I have been reading that if you complain about your boss, 90% of the time you will loose. The first thing he will use against you is your reputation which he will do everything to destroy and the sad thing is that management believes him. How would you guys react to such a situation: leave the firm or just ask for a transfer?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 2/5/2007 4:59:00 PM

    I have a boss that plays people against eachother; like promises me a promotion and tells me not to tell my co-worker and then promises it to her and tells her not to tell me (Yes, we talk) but we don't say anything to him b/c we know how he is. He moved me and said I was promoted (to one of our clients)and then my pay was wrong when I confronted him he got our VP involved and she told me to give my notice if I was unhappy.... That was't the case. Now he has made comments about how he got rid of me and wonders why I call him... it's about work reports. He is a liar and gets people fired b/c he is in love with my co-worker. He can't be trusted or he will go tell and Upper Management and they will always take his side. DEAD END ROAD!!!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 2/8/2007 1:43:00 PM

    The way to deal with bad bosses and unresponsive company management is to find a way to destroy that company both economically and it's reputation. You have to work like a spy and learn the company's weakenesses. Keep your notes at home and be very silent. Find yourself a new job and secretly launch your torpedoes while still working. How? Read up on espionage and industrial saboertage tactics. Leave no fingerprint to trace back to you. If you can get by with just getting your boss burned and fired then you have succeeded. If that doesn't work then such companies should be destroyed. Seriously, it's time to get tough because such bosses are slowly killing us and destroying our lives.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 2/11/2007 6:45:00 PM

    My boss sacked me because i saw him kissing his girlfriend in the office many times and his girlfriend is working with us


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/6/2007 9:02:00 PM

    my boss is the new owner of the company i work for. she came into this knowing nothing - nothing - at all about this particular business. my co-worker and i can run this business. we know it inside out. she never does anything wrong - yeah right. and she tries to tell the customers what they want, loves to hear herself talk. expects deadlines to be met on time (which we can do) but wants to have hour long conversations about what ever. which this takes time up from getting dealines done. she is completely oblivious to poeple not likeing her. her last place of employment had a secret meeting and got rid of her. now i guess this new (but existing) business is just a token. she wants to be in the limelight. and she is a pain in the butt. i just want to go to work, do my job and not have to hear her voice or see her face.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/6/2007 9:40:00 PM

    one of my coworkers had been doing some peculiar, dishonest and potentially illegal things in the work place. Every time I try to talk with my manager about this she gets defensive of the other worker and won't listen to me. This is now effecting my as that the other worker will take a task from me and say they will complete it but then the product and documents somehow disappear and they say they don't remember ever having taken the task. It is now getting me into trouble. We are supposed to share these tasks but when products start going missing the manager blames the last person she saw it with. What do I do to protect myself from this other workers mistakes so that when they finally do something that warrants attention the manager can't turn to me and say "You knew and didn't tell me" when she won't even listen to me? There are only the three of us in our store, its a small show room and if I were to go to a supervisor things could get messy.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/12/2007 2:02:00 AM

    A question: As I read the comments on bosses posted here, I noticed the majority of them use the feminine pronoun. I am a female, a librarian in a public library system who has been dealing with problems caused by "she" supervisors/bosses for the past couple of years. I would like to hear from others as to how they would compare "she" bosses to "he" bosses.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/18/2007 8:54:00 PM

    my boss a bi sexual who power struggle all the time.i have been a very reliable hard worker.i got sick and called out from work.my boss told the supervisor to change my shift because i called out .we have 4 other people in my same postion that abuse leave all the time .i am the only one that comes to work.she didn't change any of their shifts.please tell me what can i do.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/21/2007 5:12:00 PM

    My boss is an arrogant person. He thinks he is better than the administrative staff and we are just "clerks" as he puts it. Yes, he wants people to believe that he is behind us 100 percent, but it is a lie when it comes down to it. He plays favorites with good looking staff women and treats the not so good looking ones like they are not important! Is this fair? It sure isn't! Fed up. Can we do something?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/23/2007 12:48:00 AM

    I thought i was alone in having found a bad boss for myself but here i find my band of brothers! I have been with the company 2 weeks and my boss gives partial instructions, other colleagues do not wish to help out hence i err in doing my work....then he shouts, rants and raves! I have decided to leave, better to learn from other peoples experiences than to suffer silently and lose health and peace of mind


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/24/2007 8:54:00 PM

    I have been working at a place for 7 months. I really had a sour feeling in my gut about this job but I am not a quitter and thought I could make it work. As time went on, I learned that my boss has a very sarcastic personality and she likes to make fun of people. She has made fun of me and thinks I am too sensitive. She also promised things to me before I accepted the job and didn't deliver (Always get things in writing beforehand). Now, I went to her about 2 well loved managers who have talked very abusively to me. She took their side over mine and has listed me a whiner. She fired the last person at my job and I am afraid she will fire me (Although there is nothing else negative in my file). I am learning at a young age (35) to keep your mouth shut about everything and dust off your resume, put in your notice and consider it a lesson well learned. I am also learning, that if you have a gut feeling about a place, go with it.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/26/2007 11:06:00 AM

    honestly reading this one i feel like i'm looking at my situation.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/13/2007 11:04:00 PM

    I have this asshole mexican speaking spanish boss-Male who only belives the people that have been w/him for years that also speak the lingo and now I come in the picture 3 years later and somehow everything that goes wrong I get blamed for ,i am just fed up and ready to tell him he can kiss my hard working ass good-bye and to and grow up,there is one girl in particular who prances around and talks dirty to them rubs there shoulders and gives massages she basicaly is an ass kisser and then talks about her implnats saying how perky they are -soooo annoying and the asshole boss who is always making sexual comments to you as you rise up to check in patients at the desk-for example he would say such things like stay right there in that position or go behind you and act like he want to fuck you-he is a self centered bastard and let it be know MARRIED but has cheated on his wife before-go figure, and to top it off she sits on the other bosses lap as well and he is also MARRIED but just recently complained about it b/c a non employee seen something and her eye balls about BLEW OUT OF HER EYE SOCKETS-LOL, This practice has no organization and is out of control ,too many chiefs and not enough indians-ASSHOLE I CAN STAND HIM ,BUT I NEED THE JOB FOR NOW, I have forced myself now to look for another job and have put in several resumes, my husband says think of it as your a part timer b/c your leaving that dump and they will figure out later that you were a HARD WORKER AND A DAMN GOOD ONE.- THE ODD BALL


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/13/2007 11:08:00 PM

    Let this be know to anyone and everyone that there are plenty of jobs out there and WE ARE ALL HUMAND AND DONT NEED TO BE TREATED THIS WAY!!!!!!!!!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/28/2007 10:08:00 PM

    I have been at my job for 2 yrs. use to love it, then i started seeing the backstabbinbg, tlaking behind others back, the kissing up, etc-i learned about 'office politics', and finally get it. I have a boss who exaggerates EVERYTHING


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/28/2007 10:13:00 PM

    anyway (my previous message got cut off)....my boss exaggerates everything ..i do-if i show any indication that i am frustrated, or make a comment, she calls a meeting with the other dept heads and me...because she feels i am gonna blow. this person jumped down my throat the other day because she thought i was 'out of control' when in fact i was in a very good mood prior to the incident. If i am out sick, she has a problem with it, because i am then affecting the WHOLE dept, even thought i am the only person in my dept who is doing the work that i do everyday. my work is never piled up, yet if i miss any time, it's a 'blow' to the dept. i am SICK of this! why cant the other dept heads see this?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 5/3/2007 9:32:00 PM

    Everyone has to work ..unless you win the lottery, however you can make it better for yourself. For those who insist in stay in jobs with bosses that abuse you, my advice is simply not to acknowlegde your boss when this is happening. I too have a boss that like to belittle and berate me. I simply don't feed that need. I do not acknowlegde her when she say hello to me. i act if she wasn;t even there. She moves and picks on somelse. Therefore I don't feed the need to be abusive to me. I am in the healthcare industry where peresonnel is in short supply. Therefore I have the power. If you dont and your boss is intenet on making you miserable quit because it doesn't get better and do it before you become invested in the compay. I f your boss wants to fire you you'll get fired.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 5/27/2007 7:24:00 PM

    I need anyone's advice who may read this. I've been working for the company I'm with now for10 years. When I first started the supervisors seemed to be very nice along with the employees. Now I dread sometimes going to work, the work is great its the idot people who work in the office. In my department I have two supervisors I only report to one. Supervisor A is very jealous, two faced and shows favoritism, at times shows insecurity in certain situations she has her picks that she she'll do things for. if my boss is not there and I need something or need to leave I'll send her email, she'll not respond at all I'll have to call her and she'll blow it off like yeh go ahead and go, but if its one of her favorites she'll tell go no problem. Boss b my boss is very messy at times very nprofessional in the workplace if she has any kind of runs with you she'll create this huge problem and take it to her boss. No one in the office likes boss b because people feel like she should'nt be in her position as a supervisor. I'm in enviroment were employees talk about each other, then you have supervisors that are chummy with certain employees. If I have a problem in the office I dont feel like I can trust anyone because there all untrustworthy. Sometimes it causes great stress for me an the end of the day I'm ready to quite but I dont want to negatvity that much credit I do need to know how to handle this. What do I do?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/4/2007 11:11:00 PM

    I WORK FOR A HOTEL IN DOWNTOWN CHICAGO FOR THE LAST 7 MONTHS AND IM READY TO LOOK FOR ANOTHER J0B IM SICK OF MY HOMOSEXUAL BOSS HES A COMPLETE IDIOT!!THEN HE HIRES PEOPLE THAT DONT KNOW SHIT ABOUT THE JOB.LIKE THIS GIRL THAT CAME FROM ANOTHER PROPERTY,SHE SO DUMB!! ALL SHE DOES IS WALK AROUND ALL DAY ACTING LIKE A BIGSHOT AND EVERYTIME WE HAVE A PROBLEM AT THE FRONT DESK THE BITCH DOESNT KNOW WHAT TO DO.BUT EVERYTIME WE DO SOMETHING WRONG THE'RE THE FIRST ONES TO POINT PEOPLE OUT.IM SICK OF THOSE TWO IDIOTS!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/8/2007 12:25:00 PM

    My boss pitts employees against each other by telling them about the others mistakes. Being the only woman there I have been labeled as "emotional" and taking things to personally. Well, when your boss is going to other people and telling them about things that were discussed behind closed doors...I tend to get upset I just want to throttle him.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/16/2007 12:01:00 AM

    My boss has disliked me from day 1. I have had several bosses over a short period of time who have been grateful for the knowledge and assistance I have given them. This boss is different, she delegates a lot of her work to me as the "go to" person, then she gets mad at me for handling something on my own. Today I asked for a meeting with her and her boss to verify my job responsibilities which turned out to be far less that what she has unloaded on me over the past 9 months and announces to me that my problem is that I want to run the facility. HUH? I thought I requested the meeting to verify mo job responsibilities. Next big problem is that her husband is in a higher position within the same company and it appears she is chiseled in stone. Any suggestions on how to deal with this person now that the kid gloves are off?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/18/2007 12:03:00 AM

    everyone in the world stop working then bosses can do it all themselves!!!!all companies will fall then you open your own!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/18/2007 10:07:00 AM

    It seems from reading these post's that the majority of bad bosses are women. My boss is a ignorant, crack fuelled manager. She schedules me for jobs that I was not hired for. I don't think women should be managers. They rule with emotion rather than facts or professional ethics.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/19/2007 1:10:00 AM

    These bosses need to get the same treatment back to them. What goes around comes around. Most of them are unhappy so they feel they need to make you unhappy. They are all miserable bitches.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/19/2007 7:20:00 PM

    My boss is a little leprechaun who has napoleon complex. He is NEVER wrong. Even if the whole world is telling him that he made a mistake, he still refuses to admit he is wrong.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/19/2007 7:33:00 PM

    I know who you're talking about! Are we co workers?! Just let him bathe in his bliss. A Chinese proverb explains the more you think you know, the more ignorant you become, yet the more humbly you yield to knowledge and truth, an expanse your horizon becomes. I'd say F em all. Just cover your arse and treat this like a business. Save up a F U fund, we all need one and when we've clearly had enough, plan your F U leave. This should be done meticulously. Load up on all the office work loads, make everyone depend on you to help, especially the bosses, and then file for bereavement leave and turn in your 2 weeks notice. Go travel to Mexico or something. Locals there love vacationers.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/23/2007 10:48:00 PM

    PLEASE PEOPLE!!! The title of this at the top says "How to Deal with a Bad Boss", So how do you guys deal with a bad boss.? Answer the question! Thanks. :)


    User: pmmistry
    Date: 6/24/2007 12:28:00 PM

    My boss is very difficilt to handle, If youi do this, he will tell u to do that way and if you do that way he will say no do it this way,gets Very angry at a small time interval. Please tell me How to handle this type of bosses. I am working in a multinational group of companies, He is not sure what he is doing and do not trust himself or others , main problem is , he is so frustrated. If people do some great activity , he doesn't like it and will get angry on them & complement the work was bad.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/29/2007 3:04:00 PM

    jan. norway I have read all youre stories and I have to say I shocked by the the problem of beeing locked up in a corner with no great ideas of getting out.change job should bee a solution but its not allways possible, so wath is the answer. sue them for harasment or outpeform them , maybee you can stress them up with woorkload so they forget you .bosses are not so clever since they have to have people to work for them. smal leaks of sabotasje maybe messages that not get thru . get bussy and search the job marked you will become what you think u are so think of succes . do some gym training and scear them with youre big biceps .go where great firm eats there lunch and listen wath they talk about there is always a way to get past problems . just ask why and how.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/11/2007 8:42:00 AM

    Hey, I have read some of these, but not all, and was wonder'n if someone could tell me what's best. To leave a job because of a bad boss and plant manager, or to try to stay and and see if there's a way to have the table to be turn'd on the bad boss. If ther's a way for the table to turn. I'm listen'n. I don't mind the work I do, and don't mind look'n at the same environment, but am get'n sick of the boss. she's one of those bosses that is very proud of herself no matter what she does, and puts on a good front in front of the main boss, but is something different after he's gone. I'm still listen'n. My eyes and ears wide open.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/11/2007 3:41:00 PM

    I work for a company with 30 employees and I have FIVE bosses! They ALL tell me what to do on a regular basis, and they ALL disagree with eachother. I'm caught in the middle.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/18/2007 7:32:00 PM

    my boss lets the men at work sit around bullshitt shes a woman as so am i do i need a dick to go to work and be treated with respect we have new people who were just hired asking me when im going to lunch screw you buddy mind your own business jerk off i work for allied bARTON and it sucks man there is no toothface sob they be nice to your face back stab you later fuck you alled barton


    User: anonymous
    Date: 8/11/2007 10:02:00 PM

    I don't really know how to deal with a bad boss. That's what I've had most of my working life (20 plus years). I do know that you have to look at your situation--if you are getting sick from work, or you go home and obsess about how horrible your job or boss or coworkers are or you dread going to work, you need to look at your situation and see if anyone higher will listen and help you. If not, then you may need to change jobs. I've been in situations with horrible, abusive screeching bosses, I was heavily in debt with no savings and desperately needed the meager salary I got. Sometimes, I would work a 2nd job on weekends or at night for a few months to help pay some debts so I could change jobs and not be freaked out about money. Other times, I just started looking and would eventually get something else so that I could quit. The hard part is, if you decide to quit, try really hard not to end up in the same kind of situation. I think there are at least 25 bad bosses for every good one, so it's hard to find a good one. And of course, you have to like your co-workers. Sometimes if you have great co-workers who also don't like the boss, that makes it more bearable. Life's too short to be miserable at work.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 8/26/2007 9:34:00 AM

    My boss is always singling out me and always trying to force me into another department that i do not feel comfortable in. She knows i am on medicines for depression and anxiety disorder. And she is hateful towards employees and me right infront of other departments. What should i Do?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/7/2007 9:32:00 PM

    I've been at a job for over a year,before my boss was my boss he was a friend of ours.He had issues with his last assisitant and she quit,everyone hates him,he travels alot but when he is in the office he is a miserable p&^%$.He talks really nice to all his "girlfriends" that his wife doesnt know about.He tells me I do a great job but then treats me 99.9% f the time like crap.One of his conquests that works with us also treats me like crap and he allows it.The problem is that the money is good andI loke the job I just hate him


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/19/2007 12:35:00 PM

    My boss is an arrogant moma's boy who thinks that he is above everyone in the state of Alabama. He is inconsiderate of anyones feelings. Mad that Auburn is on a losing streak, callin all Bama fans ignorant (knowing i am a huge Alabama fan) Also made horrible comments about cats being "dissposible animals" bet our customer ________ Animal Clinic would like that one considering he pays us thousands a year in insurance


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/22/2007 10:31:00 PM

    my boss is a arrogant loser. i work in a paint store and this a*s has no clue how to run this store correctly. i have far more experience running the warehouse part of this business then he does and he makes my job 10 times harder then necessary. all he does all day is stand behind the counter and take peoples money. he is the laziest person i have ever work with in the last 20 years. when i make a comment about improving responce time or keeping inventory levels up i get bitched at. i do more work in this place than everyone else. after the first year at this job they rewarded me with a wopping 25 cent raise. thanks...after year 2 i got a 20 cent raise. cool.. i cannot wait for the day that i can tell this worthless piece of cr*p off an never go back. thanks for letting me vent.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/25/2007 11:51:00 AM

    i just started a new job for a well known mobile phone company.......first day i heard the boss talking about me on the phone to someone being two faced and bitchy, id spoken to her for only 10 minutes at this time and already she had formed an opinion...based on what i have no clue....however as the day progressed i started to realise that she was the sort of person who made vicious comments about everyone and anyone....including customers the second they had walked out of the shop.....i have a very very sour feeling about this job


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/1/2007 9:46:00 PM

    my piece of shit she-boss is the "controller" of our company, before she-boss, we had another he-boss controller that was wonderful, stuck to his job of controlling financials, not controlling the whole f-cking co. she thinks that anyone with an accounting degree is qualified to work with, not experience or ability, but what you've got hanging on your wall. i honestly loved her when she first started, should have known something wasn't right when was told her hubbie was a preacher. now the bitch thinks she owns the damn company and since acquisitions and bonuses came into play, is ONLY about HER bottom line. she's a total control freak, thinks her shit doesn't stink, and she can do/say whatever she wants, to the she-boss who doesn't like to be called "sweetie"-fuck you sweetness- love your receivables girl, you know the one who gets you your f-cking bonuses, fat cow with a stone cow in her yard, what kinda shit is that?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/9/2007 5:32:00 AM

    My boss likes to yell anytime u intends to visit him, he also sleeps during working hours, he’s afraid to communicating to NBI.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/9/2007 9:06:00 PM

    I can't figure it out, I have been working for the company for 10 years, this boss 1 year. Why does he hate me so much? I am a high performer, professional and sincerely love my work. He kisses the rear ends of my ignorant co-workers and praises them for doing their job. When did "just doing your job" become exceeding the expectations? I'm having a hard time controlling myself, I just want to scream and tell him off so bad!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/10/2007 7:32:00 AM

    I am cerain my boss has untreated bi polar....one moment she's lovely the next a screaming monster! I am a high performer (who she head hunted) and have always done well at anything I do yet now everything I do is wrong, and I am apparently immature and emotionally deficient...I need to find a new job but I don't think I even have the confidence to submit my resume anywhere..I don't know what to do.....


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/10/2007 2:51:00 PM

    My boss seems to be depressed.upset with his life. He carries it out on us at work..now I have been there for 2 yrs now and he has said and written profane items abotu us and butters u up only to got ell the next person howhorrible ur..How am I sopped toa dress ti when no one listens and as well he tells the other that he hadnt said that?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/10/2007 2:54:00 PM

    sorry about the typos up there lol


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/12/2007 4:04:00 AM

    My boss is a real pain in the a@@ he's always lying to our customers and does not inform the operations team about the commitments that he has gone and made. He's the most disorganized person you would get and would want his work to be prioritized over the day to day activities.. This not only pressurizes the workforce to work extra without getting paid a single dough. they have to go redo their schedules everytime he comes up with a new request. We are fed up of him and want the management to know about this irritating individual. Please suggest best alternatives.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/13/2007 5:20:00 AM

    My boss lies about everything but what bothers me the most is he lies when employers call to find out about our ex-employees. Recently we had an employed who tested positive for drugs and was fired. My boss told the employee he could list him as a reference and they would say it was a mutual agreement (instead of firing) that employment was terminated. Also, he agrees to lie to companies stating people have been employed much longer than they actually have been so the employee can get mortgages,etc. HELP!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/14/2007 6:26:00 AM

    my boss brakes each and every rule is in our code of conducts and basic employment act and expect not to be questioned. she drinks on duty,taking petty cash for her own personal use,she is a racist and she does not treat here black staff equally and she does not have a back bone when ever she is being told something she does not confron us.i just got a warning for questioning about hours we work. i wish i could do something but i know if i open my mouth to board she will get fired.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/21/2007 3:14:00 PM

    I came to this page for some insight but am not finding that at all - I have two comments to make. The first thing is that some of the people complaining appear to be mean, judgemental, small minded people and I think some of you better take a long look in the mirror. The second thing I would like to say is why on earth would you let anyone yell and scream at you? If someone yells at you, you stop the conversation and tell them that it can continue when they are calm enough to speak to you rationally, and walk out of the his/her office. No adult deserves to be screamed and hollered at.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/22/2007 1:05:00 AM

    I work in a very unorganized and stressful work place. This is in a professional setting with profesional staff, In the last seven months since a new superior was employed she has pushed me once, and yelled at me to shut up on three seperate occassions. I need my job and can't seem to get past this last episode, but am afraid to go to the CEO with the issue. This is a very small company with eight employees and we all work within feet of each other.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/22/2007 3:50:00 PM

    very disrespective in any way imaginable


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/22/2007 8:36:00 PM

    Ok, I was one of the ones who complained on this forum last winter. I am still at the same place with the same boss but things are better. Here is what I have done. I have been very professional with her after she was abusive to me. I stay on work related topics and nothing else. I do my job as perfectly as I know how with a smile. I have won other managers over as well as coworkers and acted like she is not as significant. She has taken notice that my coworkers like working with me, that I get the job done and that I am respected by other managers. She has turned around a lot. Now she tries to be friendly with me and tries to make small talk. I do not bite. I give her one word answers and walk away. I still don't want to work there for very long, but things have gotten better.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/23/2007 6:48:00 AM

    Anyone have a suggestion on what to do with a boss that lies all the time about present or past employees as far as job references? A person will get fired but the boss will tell future employers that it was a mutual separation or state how wonderful the employee was (I guess so he will be liked....) I want to shout "I CAN'T TAKE ANY MORE OF YOUR LIES!".


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/23/2007 7:58:00 PM

    My boss randomly decides that something is wrong. Even though we have worked together for 9 years, today she emailed me formally (Ms. "Smith") instead of my first name to tell me that she was upset with something that happened over a month ago. We have had several meetings between the incident (that really was basically not locking the door when I left for lunch to the office that other people were in) and she never mentioned it. So -- she is friendly when she wants a friend and bitchy when she wants a victim. Weird. We'll see. I need a job, so I guess I'll put up with it. I work in a highly specialized field so it would be hard for me to find another job quickly.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/24/2007 8:52:00 AM

    I used to get upset with my evil boss and coworkers, but then one day I heard that one of them was grumpy because "so and so (me) still works here." Yes! Yes I do still work here! And I realized that the best way to piss them off was to show up every day with a chipper smile and a happy attitude! I ask loads of questions, I write everything down, I confront them on inaccuracies in what they've said... Just doing my job in the best way possible. And it irritates the f*ck out of them!! Unhappy people are usually unhappy with their lives, and you can't change that. Just be your happy self and it will make them bonkers.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/25/2007 8:44:00 PM

    Thats good. If it were me and I found out that people were gossiping about me and didn't want me there, I would really turn on the charm. I would bring in candy and offer it to them, compliment them on their outfit etc... They will get the hint.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/25/2007 8:47:00 PM

    After reading some of these stories, I do think that the best way to deal with difficult coworkers/bosses is to be super kind to them. Also, provide exceptional service to the customer. Most of the time, your boss will realize that you are the greatest asset she/he has. It will be hard for a boss to fire a person who is doing their job, is positive and who services the customer above and beyond. Most of the time, they will change their attitude towards you. If they don't change, it has been a couple of years and you don't like what you do, it is DEFINITELY time to move on.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/30/2007 8:44:00 AM

    Hello everyone I will take this time to let so much anger and unhappiness out of my chest. My boss is an old lady around 63 years old. Who retired from another college, and decided to come back to work. She is the director of the library. She is a very smart woman but her attitude is the worst. These are some of the crazy things she does: Who comes to work late Speak aloud and right in front of your face while spit Her mouth stinks so badly, because she only eats letters and drink coffee She comes late to work Speak over the phone for a long period of hours with family and friends Speak about my co-worker with me and speak to him about me She yells, screams and if she is upset because her boss scream at her she takes out on me She told me one time that I should takes pills and vitamins to increase my immune system because I had an allergy Sometimes she tells me to do a project and she comes and yells and tells me to do it her way. After I am done with this project she will just delete everything and said do it this way, it is better. I am a single mother, supporting my son and my mother and it is very hard just to leave the job. I am looking for another job but it is very hard to get one nowadays. I cry many times in the bathroom at my job because of the creams and the bad comments she made. Sometimes she said she is sorry after screaming and tells me “I am having a bad day, I am sorry.” I feel depressed, sometimes I just want to walk away but my son needs me to work. It has been very hard for me, because this woman can makes anybody feel miserable in a second. She yells at my co-worker but because this is his first job fulltime he will take anything from this woman. Sometimes she comes yells at us and the next day, she brings us a present which I am not happy to take, most of the time I leave at work, can someone advise me please, I am desperate.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/1/2007 8:33:00 AM

    My boss is wishy washy about everything, disorganized to the point where she creates more stress on everyone, has no respect from anyone and basically is a "slug" doing what she has to do without any vision of improving things. What do you think? I asked for an evaluation after 6 months and she handed me a pile of evaluation forms from students ( I am a teacher in a private school) and said we are very happy. I am very disappointed.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/5/2007 1:29:00 AM

    To anonymous on 10/30 and to everyone else, too. Hang in there. In just looking through these writings, it's plain to see that many of us feel that we have a bad boss - I've had so many, it is hard to keep count. PLEASE read this book, it's called "NASTY PEOPLE: How to stop being hurt by them without stooping to their level" by Jay Carter. A few people who are providing comments here have written that it's best to NOT let people get to you, and although it's difficult to do, it really truly is the best thing you can do... DO NOT let others control your reactions, emotions, behaviors...when you do that, they win, and you lose. Some want to make you miserable...others are just so stinking stupid and self-centered that they don't know what they're doing. You can complain to your boss' boss, and to HR... you MUST document everything in writing (names, dates, events, and FACTUAL details...not just emotions and feelings and beliefs)...you can look for another job and hopefully get one...it's sad that ONE person can screw us up...and that we have to go somewhere else while others get to stay...but life is short and we need to TRY to make ourselves happy, especially since we spend 1/3 or more of our lives making an income. When one door closes, another one opens, BUT ONLY if we take action and open it ourselves.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/18/2007 4:44:00 PM

    MY BOSS IS THE VILEST BITCH I HAVE EVER MET!!! SHE LIES,PLAYS PEOPLE AND IS ROLLING WITH HER CLICK,SHE IS DISGUSTING AND I PRAY(I NO LONGER CARE ABOUT CARMA)THAT SHE ENDS IN THE WORST WAY POSSIBLE,SHE GIVES ME DIRTY LOOKS AND TALKS TO ME LIKE IM A FUCKING STUPID CHILD,SHE'S A FUCKING FAT JELOUS HUNCHED GOOFY @£$%^&*!!! AAARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/18/2007 4:47:00 PM

    Why is it female bosses that make the worst??????...coz they are evil and love playing people of each other...thank god im gay!!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/19/2007 5:02:00 AM

    snort. You cant talk to my boss. She is a manipulator and gossip.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/19/2007 5:19:00 AM

    On top of being a manipulative back stabbing inadequate she-boss, my boss is harrassing me at home and at work. I tried to call human relations but she beat me to the punch sending out a message that I was a disgruntled employee. She informed me she already has someone lined up for my job and she put me in a position I can't physically handle. She is using that against me because I miss work because I get sick from the job. I would love nothing better than to get out of here but I want her to fire me for the sickness. I might be naive, but I could at least draw unemployment given I'm under 2 doctors care and that everything is listed as 'work related stress'


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/29/2007 11:21:00 PM

    This is so lame all you qualified individuals out there "FIND ANOTHER JOB"...GIVE your two weeks notice.show some class/balls and walk away


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/30/2007 1:14:00 AM

    My boss is a middle school vice principal. He is a mexican with a doctorate degree who believes he now can solve all problems from the African drought to the poverty in the inner cities. He will always find something wrong that you do but never anything right. While his job is supposed to be to help teachers, he really is there to stick up for the kids. If a kid curses at a teacher, it's okay because they are the kids and they have hardships to deal with at home! So, that gives them the right to take it out on the adults at the school. This is what you get when you over educate minorities.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/5/2007 12:41:00 AM

    I thought about posting but after reading this, I am not alone. I got a supervisor who is a liar sack of crap. His nick name is "car salesman", boy and i have meet a few salesmen and none like that. Outright lies thru the skin of his teeth. Will tell anyone what he thinks they want to hear, and then bust you. Damned if i do damned if i don't. My .02 Worth. lets we forget...


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/18/2007 9:50:00 AM

    One of my bosses is the owners son that got arrested for drugs right in front of everyone at work. He is cocky, degrades women, and goes to the bathroom every 5 min to get high. I work in nice elegant resturant and the only reason he isn't a street junkie is because of his parents. He expects you to do and know everything from day one. In return of your mistakes he screams and makes you dirt in front of customers. I guess we all put up with some shit if the money is right.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/27/2007 4:32:00 PM

    Does anyone work in an office/place of employment where you get paid about the same as 1 or 2 others and you do WAY MORE work than anyone else. When you are swamped with work, the boss does nothing to ask the other 2 co-workers to help you and while you are drowning in paperwork, they are surfing the internet, text messaging and talking on their cell phone. I must have the word "Stupid" written on my head because I am still there. Where is the manager's responsibility to assign a more fair workload to all employees???????


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/28/2007 12:56:00 PM

    Sheila says, Any thoughts out there on this scenario where an owner of commercial property, while within legal rights to have security cameras installed, had done thusly without informing a particular worker - at least not until a month later, and only by word of another (employee) from the "inner circle". Would you feel violated?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/6/2008 11:10:00 AM

    i think just about everyone has issues with their jobs...bad managers and bad employees are everywhere. if you don't want to deal with them, start your own business and be your own boss


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/6/2008 11:16:00 AM

    i used to like my job, but as time went on, i've realized that it's sucking the life out of me. i work with people who don't deserve to have the positions they do. people getting paid WAY MORE than they are worth. whining, bitching, backstabbing pains in the ass. i'm gonna take what i can out of this job, and when the time is right, i'm going to stick my ass out the window and wave bye bye to it all.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/12/2008 1:51:00 AM

    I searched the Dr. Phil show for this situation/topic. It doesn't exist. "My married Boss,with children, but 51%Homosexual." Yes! I have been put through this employment filth three times. All three of my immediate superiors have come onto me. Each telling me, "Boy, you need to learn the game." All three, each in their early forties, carry an aggenda. I failed to submit. I refused to submit! I lost my job each time. Why, they "outed" themselves to me, I failed to "submit" and within six months, I was gone. Each man with a wife, children and living in the best part of town. For them, that was not enough. Sociopaths!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/21/2008 11:43:00 PM

    My husbands boss takes the cake. He grabbed his head and pushed it towards his crotch as a joke. He denies this happened when my husband called him out on it. What a jerk


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/27/2008 12:32:00 AM

    I work with a control freak. The amazing thing is that her boss's allow her to act like this? She talks bad about everyone in the office. Why must we spend our lives working with such negativity? Has anyone notice that most of the above comments are women? For the comment above, ever heard of sexual harrassment?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/28/2008 7:47:00 PM

    My boss is a snotty b-yach and stupid.Oh yah its a guy not a gal. He's disrespects peoples position and has caused several to quit. He's arrogant and just doesn't get it. He's only been with us a year. Hope he goes soon!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/30/2008 6:11:00 PM

    My boss nitpicks everything I do and insists that everything be done her way. 2 other people have left the department (1 even quit) because of her. I feel that she needs to respect the fact that people do things differently. As long as it is getting done correctly in the end, the tiny, miniscule things shouldn't matter.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 2/12/2008 10:14:00 AM

    I work for a psych pathological liar! My first experience of this and it's all shocking. Constant nit-picking and twisting things around. I think he's afraid that I can do the job better and is constantly looking for ways to get me out. I feel sorry for the organisation though...


    User: anonymous
    Date: 2/19/2008 5:33:00 PM

    I've been in the same job for 16 years and it never gets any better. Same old same old...you know. The bosses/managers have meetings constantly to discuss what their next meeting will be about. Honestly. And they love love love to point the finger. We call them Pete and re-Pete plus a few choice adjectives here and there. I love the job...hate the management - also could do without the few martyrs who are always crying about how much they hate their job but don't do anything about moving on. I say...well honey...your feet aren't nailed to the floor so..? We have a saying at work. "Have a nice day." I am really telling them (in my mind) to go pound sand. I say it to most of our customers and all of the bosses and most of the staff I can't stand. Only I know what I really mean. Sounds childish..but any little thing to brighten my day.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 2/21/2008 12:48:00 PM

    I started the company I am at 10 months ago. I love it here, I can't stand my supervisor. One day she is ok nice, the next she might bite your head off. She and another supervisor play games with me and another co-workers. One of which is under the other supervisor. It gets old. I am in my late 30's my co-work 40's. We are treated as if we are fresh out of high school with no experience. I have over 15 years of experience as an admin. assistant. I think I know what I am doing. I think the "hags" are jealous of us! We are nice looking, vibrant and cheerful people while they are non-social and never come out of their offices. My supervisor lashes out at me for no reason, overly - and I mean overly - exaggerates every little bitty situation. I have spoken with her supervisor which is mine in a way and his response is well she has never really supervised anyone...my thought is then why the heck is she doing it now. She seriously can not manager her own projects and now her great idea is to help me manage mine because the position I am in is her old position. I want to tell her...I can do my job and probably better than you ever did....but I am not like that. I don't talk back...no yet anyway! I want a good annual review, then we will see what happens! :0) I also work for the president of the company and he is impressed by the organizational trates and how unstressed I am. My supervisor told me this job was stressful. I haven't been stressed except by her in 10 months. It could be worse I know but...it doesn't have to be this way either!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 2/26/2008 6:46:00 PM

    How do you deal with a boss that is jelouse of you and the things you do to better the company(I'm just doing my job. She's nice to everyone else and gives them under the table paid time off. Some day's she's nice, then the next she's a crazy perason. She's such a bitch, what do I do?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/2/2008 2:09:00 PM

    The ugly honest truth is that you can't do anything. Most people are who they are by the age of 30; only a small percentage of us can change for the better. As most bosses are 40 and over at this point, odds are they are going to remain the small-minded and self-righteous individuals they always have been. My advice - use your boss as much as they use you. Whether it be for experience, salary, perks, or even contacts for that next job. You are in charge of your life. Not THEM!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/3/2008 10:04:00 AM

    Well said, and with much forethought. Yes, the solution is usually the more obvious, but many get caught up in the drama and politics, oftentimes seeking to fulfill the need to prove they're right, when it is simply a matter of maintaining a healthy work environment so that we may focus on the task at hand. If personal agendas become the priority, then it is time to cut ties and move on with life. Anything less is toxic and a dead end. If anyone is interested in making positive and real changes pertaining to workplace bullying, which simply put is an overt abuse of power and authority, then please channel your energies in a platform that promises to hold individuals and/or businesses accountable. Rally for the Healthy Workplace Bill. workplacebullyinglaw.org


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/3/2008 8:35:00 PM

    My boss is a nutjob. But how do i deal with her? I take her abuse as a driving force for me to do better . I have tolerated her nonsense for five years since i was a freshman in college i have a year to get my masters so i can leave her with her job.Lol!!! Sometimes we have to take the abuse as a challenge for you to do something better for yourself


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/9/2008 8:06:00 PM

    How do you deal with an idiot boss and who is a liar and engages in politics at work?


    User: chew
    Date: 3/10/2008 1:02:00 PM

    Although targets of workplace bullying suffer the same post-traumatic disorders as POW's, it is the POW who is prisoner in the truest sense and should be acknowledged accordingly for what is endured in the name of freedom. Initially, as a target, it is ok and perhaps commendable to sway tactfully and judiciously these bullies, in the hopes to one day reign victorious in the good cause of truth and justice. Unfortunately, the reality is as such, that the right to work with one's dignity intact is dearly lacking in many a workplace. There is no glory in staying with an employer after all reasonable avenues have been exhausted and, yet, the assaults continue. When the people in authority turn a deaf ear to one of their own, a crossroads has been reached and a decision must be made. Shall a spouse return to an abuser? A dog to his own vomit? Fight the good fight, and rally for the Healthy Workplace Bill, so that all bullies will be held accountable.


    User: chew
    Date: 3/10/2008 1:08:00 PM

    To anonymous who works with a liar and "politician":), go to ebosswatch.com and rate their performance. Job seekers will thank you.


    User: badhairday
    Date: 3/11/2008 3:34:00 PM

    my boss makes me cry, makes me feel like a useless bitch, and i dread seeing her everyday but i need to work becuase i need the money


    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/25/2008 6:05:00 AM

    I work for a micro manager who monologues practically every topic in meetings and makes them go 2x, 3x as long as they should because she goes into so much unnecessary detail. When I attend meetings with her, I have literally no speaking role; and when I do say something, she typically cuts me off, interrupts and/or dismisses as unimportant. She praises my work in private, but nitpicks and criticizes me to others. She keeps the whole staff uninformed, never gets to the point, gossips with certain subordinates, has favorites who she lets take off work whenever that jeorpardizes others' work and operations. She clearly has some issues with self esteem and confidence--namely that a couple subordinates have more education than her and are physically more attractive.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/1/2008 11:40:00 AM

    My ultimate boss is using the writings of some US guru and using edge to cover the fact that he does not like a senior manger and is trying to get rid of her. He was promoted to Head of dept and within 2 weeks told her that he thought she was an under performer (despite the previous head being delighted with her work) he is an absolute nightmare, not well liked he has survived the integration of his previous company and has a bad reputation anyway. He has already got rid of one senior woman and is working on a third, looks like sexual descrimination to me.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/3/2008 1:20:00 AM

    my boss leads a progressive nonprofit. He is a condescending asshole, who runs the organization more like a cult (minus the inspiration) then a professional NGO. You can never work hard enough, long enough or good enough. There is always more work to do and more personal sacrifice that can be made. When mistakes happen he inspires guilt and shame rather than find opportunities for growth and improvement. He once shared that he manages the organization like a salad spinner. He pulls the cord and see who can hold on the tightest. He is stripping me of my dignity and self respect. I think I am going to quit tomorrow.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/11/2008 10:16:00 PM

    my boss only knows drama and manipulation and has the guts to ask me my age? SWEETY im younger and hotter than you for sure, all you should be managing is a herd of sheep, o not even that they might take you as their own and wouldnt be able to distinguish you as the leader. -- Dont be fooled by the smile I can read you like a book-there are thousands like you out there but theres only 1 of me


    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/19/2008 11:02:00 AM

    Has anyone dealt with favoritism on the job? My boss has her favorites that she likes. When ever they have a complaint it's "your fault" but whenever I have a complaint it's ME that's at fault. They get special treatment for extra things they do. If you are not part of her group you get overtime. If they do extra things they get overtime PLUS something else. It is impossible to prove as far as discrimination goes. I makes me so furious. She is very smug and snobby. I do a good job and get good reviews but her attitude is driving me crazy. It is making me very hateful toward her. I have been there 11 yrs. and am thinking of quitting. Any suggestions?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 5/2/2008 8:23:00 PM

    I've posted on here several times. Usually it's after my boss runs someone off or fires them. It happens again and again, (and just has once more) and I'm so tired of the turnover. All have been good people, great employees, but she's never satisfied. She uses people then ruins their lives. Yes, SHE, does seem to be a lot of bad female bosses. I've noticed several were in libraries, too. Guess the incentric (or crazy) librarian has an excuse to act really crazy huh? Well, I'm hate seeing people hurt but I'm staying, have passed the test myself (I guess), she didn't get rid of me. So I'll hang in there, do my job, and count the days till retirement--either mine or hers.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 5/2/2008 9:08:00 PM

    Me again, same one that posted just above. Why stay in my job? For the money, I can't do better in that area. And it's hard to find library jobs. Which is why SHE is ruining lives. People who work in libraries usually want to stay in libraries. But SHE fires them, they can't get jobs again, she ruins their lives. I sit by and watch? Why? Because I need my job. Those who are vocal usually lose their jobs. I hope this doesn't mean I'm just as bad as her. I do care about people, she doesn't. And I think someday it will come back to haunt her, somehow, someway, she will get her payback.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 5/11/2008 9:47:00 AM

    Most people think my boss is great. He is the boss of a reputable nonprofit. He has the Board wrapped around his little finger. I have worked for him for eight years. I have just discovered that he is a liar and manipulator. We think he is having an affair with the bookkeeper who we think may be embezzling but we are afraid to approach the Board because he insinuates to the Board that we are jealous of the bookkeeper. The climate at work is one of fear for your job and employees no longer trust each other. I feel that the boss is targeting me to get rid of me and he is changing the employee handbook to say that there is no recourse to the Board if we can't work things out with him. Besides being afraid for my job I am concerned about the organization in the long run. Several people have left because of him and he has said they were trouble makers and the place is better off without them or he gives other reasons for them leaving. I just want someone somewhere to know that people aren't what they say they are because they do seem to just get away with it all and not care what kind of wreckage they leave behind. They just care about themselves while saying they care about everyone. I am a single mother supporting three children and my job is in jeopardy because my boss is protecting "his".


    User: anonymous
    Date: 5/12/2008 3:50:00 PM

    My "she" boss is a control freak jealous bitch. I can't stand her. But the only consolation I have is she is like that to EVERYONE.... She is a horrible manager.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 5/13/2008 8:57:00 PM

    Sounds like you and I might have the same "she" boss. And my she boss is much like the "he" boss above too, messing up everyone's lives, firing people, letting them go, then they can't get a job again, I don't know how they are making it. So much turnover, it's so stressful, I guess my job is safe unlike others because I've been there longer, but sometimes I think she's killing me, high blood pressure that I can't get under control, I wake up sweating with my heart racing at night... Just wish she realized what she's doing. Or perhaps she does, and just doesn't care.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 5/23/2008 10:32:00 PM

    Last night I dreamed I was working somewhere so wonderful, same kind of place, and we were all so busy, but there was so much cooperation, so much respect for each other, and no fear, just respect and cooperation. I said to someone "I love working here" and they said, "We know, we all do". There was no bad boss, and it was so wonderful! Now I just need to know where to find this job!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/1/2008 12:22:00 PM

    My boss has a favorite who always gets her way no matter what. This favorite is bitchy and back-stabbing and several people have left because of her. My boss doesn't know how much respect he has lost among his staff and volunteers who work at this well-respected nonprofit. He thinks he can do anything he wants to because people think he's great. The Board doesn't appear to care and why should they? They only come to a few meetings each month and don't really do that much. They do whatever he tells them to do. I have seen him lie and put people's jobs in jeopardy for his own ends. He threatened to fire a young woman who is a single mother with two toddlers and a mortgage and a health problem that she needs to have insurance for because she saw him "touching" his favorite and he saw her see him. My wife says I should quit but we do good work there and I like the job. I feel like a hypocrite sometimes because I won't say anything because I want to keep my job.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 6/29/2008 10:24:00 AM

    My boss has her favorite in the office and never, EVER looks at me, but, always looks at her even when I am right there in the discussion mode. I have worked for her for 5 years and it was only when this new girl came on board 2 years ago, that everthing changed. I am pushed aside and this girl is her pride and joy. I cannot quit, I live in a town where jobs are scarce. She pays me well for the area, but, I get so depressed and unhappy. I feel that I do a good job for her and I know that if I did leave she would miss me in more ways than one. But, why does she ignore me..my work suffers because of the way she treats me, but, I struggle on and try to make-out that everything is o.k. I have gotten to the point now, where I are obnoxious because of this situation. I don't mean to be, but, I have this attitude where I just don't care anymore about her or her business. Is there a solution, without leaving the job?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/4/2008 2:38:00 AM

    I am currently in the same situation. I work for a small company, 22 employees, with 3 owners. I am the administrative assistant for 14 years and am 36 yrs old. The President is such an arrogant a-hole along with his two-faced partner. The President walks around the place with so much to say about people and customers behind there backs. I see and hear so much because I am the first person to answer the phone and to be seen at the front desk. The arrogants has rubbed off so much onto the rest of the employees as well. I am at the point to tell the s.o.b.'s off.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/5/2008 11:05:00 AM

    Thank you for replying to my moans and groans and I am so sorry for your problems. I did approach my boss because I was getting so depressed with life and she told me that she is sorry for making my life miserable and that she will try to be better towards me. Now, I have another problem. I approached the "other one" my boss's "pride and joy" and had a few words with her and I did it in anger..now she won't talk to me and says that she is "done with me" and that I am non-exsistant in her life. I feel terrible because I have to work with her in close quarters and it is very difficult not to say something during the day as it is my job to tell her things. I really blew it this time and I am not the kind of person to hold a grudge...but, she is and will be nasty towards me. Is there a solution to this one?? I do get myself in a pickle at times..Please understand that I am not the type of person to go around and holler at people for no reason...I did tell her that she was part of my boss's problem towards me and that she was a big infuence in the way that she treated me. Wrong, wrong, wrong. I have now learned..don't open your mouth and say stuff you will regret later.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/11/2008 12:03:00 AM

    I worked for a arrogant Napolean complex lazy lower management foreman for a MAJOR oil vcompany the last 5 years of my 26 year oil career, what the dumb shit didn't realize is i was multi- talented outside the oil company I turned him in to himan resources before i left and he has never been the same since.he had to appologize to me in person. I won that one!!!!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/11/2008 12:12:00 AM

    A continuation of the Napolean complex ass kisser, he was not given a raise the following year and a co- worker told him he was going to turn him in for sopmething that he and anoter employee saw him do and he started to shake and tremble, I wish I could have witnessed this " work of art, but I was to busy pulling in 75>oo/ per hour on the tennis court!!!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/11/2008 12:23:00 AM

    A last thought on Napolean boss,He is in hock up his ass for credit cards and his home he can't afford and his wifes boob job, When he appologized to me, I told him I would hate to have his job the money was nothing and he had no power of decision becuse the major oil companies will ultmatly make the final call, so when I threatened to turn this all over to My LEGAL TEAM the weasel practically kissed my ass right there. End of story employee WINNS THIS ONE!!!!!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/17/2008 9:59:00 AM

    My boss is a lying five-faced bitch. Never keep her words, will manipulate people to be in her traps and finally dump them after she gets what she needs. I wish the company fire her and just find another person to replace her. I've been totally wrong about her. I was dumb enough to believe that she was nice to me and sincere but shit; she just suddenly change and go against me. I hate her. I am very disappointed and I wish I've never known her.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/18/2008 9:58:00 PM

    Again another favoritism complaint, my boss has two favorites in our small office. No good to complain, the last employee who did, doesn't work with us any longer. She even complained to upper management, but that was ignored by the bosses boss. Unless it affects his personal life he doesn't consider it a problem. Our boss takes them out to lunch, they know what is going on all the time and rub it in tour faces. They go shopping and to each others parties and cook outs. The boss has gone 3 days without speaking to the rest of us this week. You know what is really sad, the two favorites laugh about how they lie to the boss. but the boss is a person who would rather hear what they want to hear then the actual truth. That is why she doesn't like us. If the numbers aren't good, we just tell her the truth. I feel that we are not given raises and promotions because we don't stand around and chat with her for hours on end. We are at our desk, doing our jobs (we all have deadlines we all have to meet) I have never been felt so unappreciated and had low self esteem as I do now. Oh the icing on the cake...this boss loves her presciption pain pills. She hardly ever shows up to work before 10 or 11 each day. I just wish they would do a random drug screen on the employees in our building.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/20/2008 5:42:00 PM

    I have a real shithead when it comes to a boss. He looks as though he has not bathed in a couple of weeks, or changed the oil in his hair in a month or so. I say fuck em all, we should be like Bruce Willis in The Last Boy Scout, and walk up to our boss and say "Head or Gut?"


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/22/2008 6:55:00 PM

    i really wish upper management would see how favoritism in the workplace by middle management makes good productive employees get to a point of they don't care. We (not the favorites) are to the point of just doing our jobs well enough not to get in trouble but we aren't working to our full capabilties. why bother, it will not be acknowledged or appreciated. and don't even think it will help you get a raise later. I am to the point of this will have to do until I find another job.


    User: ladybug
    Date: 7/24/2008 7:45:00 PM

    you know what I hate, I have a horrible boss, treats most of the employees like crap. Laughs and calls other dept employees stupid because they have reasonable questions regarding changes she has made. I am sure she calls us names behind doors too. but what is so bad, a lot of employees from other departments thinks she is nice and have mentioned how good she is to us because she gives us small gift baskets at the holidays, birthdays and work anniversary. She is a "master of deception" Most people don't know the real person she is. they only see what she wants them to see. I really think she has mental issues that should to be addressed


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/25/2008 11:22:00 AM

    My boss is a complete two faced bag of douche. He speaks ill of employees behind their backs yet still within earshot of other employees, he repremands other managers in front of subordinates, and he makes suspicious, even racist comments about people all the time. He is suffering from severe emotional inconclusion, he is nice one minute, then ten minutes later he becomes a complete ASS ( usually when there are people around) he undermines my intelligence constantly and ugh, did i already say he was an ASS wow that feels good.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/25/2008 11:23:00 AM

    My boss is a complete two faced bag of douche. He speaks ill of employees behind their backs yet still within earshot of other employees, he repremands other managers in front of subordinates, and he makes suspicious, even racist comments about people all the time. He is suffering from severe emotional inconclusion, he is nice one minute, then ten minutes later he becomes a complete ASS ( usually when there are people around) he undermines my intelligence constantly and ugh, did i already say he was an ASS wow that feels good.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/25/2008 11:24:00 AM

    My boss is a complete two faced bag of douche. He speaks ill of employees behind their backs yet still within earshot of other employees, he repremands other managers in front of subordinates, and he makes suspicious, even racist comments about people all the time. He is suffering from severe emotional inconclusion, he is nice one minute, then ten minutes later he becomes a complete ASS ( usually when there are people around) he undermines my intelligence constantly and ugh, did i already say he was an ASS wow that feels good.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/27/2008 7:56:00 AM

    Sick of my asshole boss...grrrrrrrr date: 7/27/2008 7.56pm My boss is a super asshole.No matter how hard i work, he still looking ways where he will hit me.Two directors i know had told me that he is strick, i was speechless when i heard that. i come to office, he would tell me what to wear and not to wear. I txt him the reason why i will not come to office and yet he will put that in my PAR ratings that i hadnt informed him.One of my office mates left our division because of him and the other one used to be my boss' co -worker left because of him.And now my co office mate couldnt believe that he will see my asshole boss working in the same office.My other office mate resign because of him.Now i need advise..i am thnking of transferring to another dept.What will i do...??? thanks


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/28/2008 11:59:00 PM

    My Boss is the ultimate asshole-bastard. Not only does he disrespect everyone in the workplace he also disrespects clients and customers. The president does nothing. He is never wrong and never allows you to give your side of the story. There is nobody like this asshole bastard- NO ONE BELEIVE ME.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 7/31/2008 5:06:00 PM

    Got a new boss several weeks ago and he truely is an ass. Underminds you in requesting things that are impossible. When someone has no control on what happens and demands you to get it done, to me that says your an ass. He has made me feel totaly incompetent so I have went over his head and expressed my feelings to his boss which happens to be my head supervisor.


    User: ladybug
    Date: 8/1/2008 8:44:00 PM

    How can a truely mentally deranged person become a manager, were the former bosses scared that they would go postal so they kept her happy by promoting her and giving her salary increases? She is bi-polar. One minute all fine, chatting smiling SNAP the next minute she is really to tear your head off your shoulders and you don't know why. She will only give employees changes verbally, so later she can tell you how you have been doing it wrong, and get really ugly to the employees, demanding to know why procedures were changed. ?????


    User: ladybug
    Date: 8/2/2008 9:39:00 PM

    Not a bad boss story, just a crappy Co-worker story, Years ago in the early 1980's. We had someone taking food out of our departments fridge. Employee lunches disappeared, one day one of the ladies started to make a sandwich out of meat and cheese she had put in the fridge a couple of days earlier. Someone had taken a bite out of the cheese leaving teeth marks. Later that week I baked a batch of Ex-Lax brownies with the help of my father (he was the brave one because he taste tested the batter)I took the brownies in on a Friday, We found out who our problem was because of he complained he had diarrhea all weekend. I walked up to him and asked him if he ate the brownies then procceded to tell him why he got sick and why I did what I did. He work in another dept. He wasn't short on money, just cheap. He would sneak into our kitchen and steal our soft drinks and goodies. We never had a problem after that.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 8/8/2008 9:01:00 PM

    Our boss never shows up until almost lunch time, if he shows up earlier, then he takes a 2-3 hour lunch. He gets upset when he is told that his manager is looking for him, complains that he am always at work except when his boss needs him. he is always telling upper management about how late he works almost every night. If he showed up at 8am and took a real lunch HOUR. He wouldn't have to work late to get his job done. We suspect a drug or alcohol problem. I am sure upper management is observant enough to see there is a problem. Hopefully they will step in soon. It has been almost 4 years now of this.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 8/16/2008 5:44:00 PM

    a young women i know works in a very large and well know restuarant chain. A patron touched her and she asked that he stop, he did it again and she just got away from him, then a short time later she found out he touched a 17 year old girl. She complained to management (she said because of him touching the minor, she was concerned) she was told that if she filed a complaint of that nature. she is suspended while it is being investiaged. (she was told that this was company policy) so therefore the victim is not only a victim once but twice. I guess that discourages complaints, most people cannot go a week to 10 days w/o an income. I just wonder is this legal?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 8/22/2008 9:50:00 PM

    How does a person deal with the constant favoritism treatment to a few employees and not all. It is so hard to make myself go into work now, our boss goes days w/o speaking to any of the employees and only speaking to the two "Golden Children" If they were actually decent employees I could almost justify the better treatment. But that isn't the case, one makes constant mistakes and gets angry when it is brought to her attention (by the boss) and the other one is out all the time. she is a part-time part-timer. she is suppose to work around 28-32 hours but she is doing good to get in 20 hours a week on average. I have always prided myself on my work ethic and I have never been treated like this in all my years of employment. earlier this week I had decided to actively start looking for a new job. but today a manager from another dept approached me and mentioned that a job will be coming open in his dept soon (employee retiring) and said that he wanted to know if I would be interested. He said he knew what was going on in our dept and he said he would love to have me in his area. That made me feel so much better.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 8/27/2008 7:08:00 PM

    I love my boss he is fabulous!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 8/29/2008 1:37:00 PM

    heyy guys...i am working for a freaking autistic boss...! he is religiously repetitive and wants to check recheck check again and makes sure things are checked!!! this makes me end up doing the same job time and again....now he feels i am not productive enough....


    User: anonymous
    Date: 8/30/2008 6:46:00 PM

    Sounds like he has OCD.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/3/2008 8:22:00 PM

    here i go again, favoritism complaints, our boss is taking the two favorites to training out of town again. no one is ever offered extra training to help with job performance or knowledge. no need to even ask, everyone gets turned down, but then when it is raise time, are the only two that ever get a raise because of all their job knowledge. Complain to human resources, nothing is confidential. One person spoke with upper management with the promise of nothing would be said, two days later, she was called in the bosses office, her comments were repeated to her. yep, she doesn't work there any longer. so each person has a choice to make, do i want to keep my job? if you do, then you just keep your mouth shut and deal with it.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/12/2008 2:57:00 PM

    So many bosses described here sound like mine. Sometimes I think we must be talking about the same one. Especially the bipolar one you told about, Ladybug. Except mine doesn't give birthday baskets. She doesn't allow birthday celebrations. Or 15 minute breaks. And she fires people and then talks about what good employees they were and ask why they quit. Really mixed up around here. But no one outside sees it, they think she is nice. And really, she might be nice one minute here, but you never know when the other side will come out. We will be reprimanded for something small, told what a big thing it is, not allowed to defend ourselves, even if it's something we didn't do, she won't listen to that, she just keeps on and on expressing her disappointment with us. It goes on and on, and the turnover is terrible, so many new people come and go, and I feel so sorry for the new ones when they walk in so cheerfully, know it won't be long till she has killed their spirits. Oh well, TGIF!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/12/2008 2:57:00 PM

    So many bosses described here sound like mine. Sometimes I think we must be talking about the same one. Especially the bipolar one you told about, Ladybug. Except mine doesn't give birthday baskets. She doesn't allow birthday celebrations. Or 15 minute breaks. And she fires people and then talks about what good employees they were and ask why they quit. Really mixed up around here. But no one outside sees it, they think she is nice. And really, she might be nice one minute here, but you never know when the other side will come out. We will be reprimanded for something small, told what a big thing it is, not allowed to defend ourselves, even if it's something we didn't do, she won't listen to that, she just keeps on and on expressing her disappointment with us. It goes on and on, and the turnover is terrible, so many new people come and go, and I feel so sorry for the new ones when they walk in so cheerfully, know it won't be long till she has killed their spirits. Oh well, TGIF!


    User: ladybug
    Date: 9/15/2008 7:31:00 PM

    I think when God made the bad boss mold, he didn't break it. They make us appreciate the good bosses. I had a Great Boss years ago. He actually cared for the people, we would work our buns off to keep the dept running orderly. The company that I worked for got bought out by a larger company and he got reassigned to another dept. The last I heard about him was that He had a back injury and was disabled. too bad, he had so much to offer, he woudl be a great one to teach management skills. We did our jobs, our dept ran smoothly, no dramas or chaos. It's amazing what a good boss can bring to a company.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/20/2008 7:24:00 PM

    Our boss will give us special projects then she will give you a deadline date or time. You stop doing your job duties to get the numbers for her. Then later you looks at you with the deer in the headlights look when you take it to her. I have found the easiest way is to work on it secondary to my job, and just lay it on my desk in case she does ask for it. I have one that has been there for 4-5 months. She does this to every one, all the time. She makes our office unproductive instead of efficent.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/27/2008 10:31:00 AM

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    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/27/2008 1:35:00 PM

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    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/27/2008 4:44:00 PM

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    User: anonymous
    Date: 9/27/2008 7:43:00 PM

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    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/1/2008 5:32:00 PM

    If you notice...most of these horrible bosses are women. Just noticing...


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/1/2008 7:03:00 PM

    Our department met some goals and was asked how we wanted to celebrate. One of the employees suggested closing down the dept (for once) and letting us all go out to a resturant and eat all together. The manager did not want to shut down our area for one hour (we don't take care of customers, we only service other departments) We ended up having to cook and bring in food to eat for our great celebration. To make matters worse, the manager took several of her favorite employees out to eat lunch at a local resturant while the rest of us were not invited and our reward was to run the office while they were gone for almost two hours. Can you feel the love? We weren't even told anything until they came back and not only that, she adjusted their time to only reflect one hour lunch. So they got a nice lunch bought for them, and paid for one hour while they were out for two. The rest of us had to hold down the fort and go home that evening and cook for the celebration dinner to be held the next day. yeah life is good there. Yes, I am a woman, and I hate working for a woman. They are the worse.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/1/2008 8:40:00 PM

    Just wanted to chime back in. I wanted to also state that my previous comment, about noticing that most of the complaints were about women, was not meant to be sexist. I truly believe the sexes compliment each other. Women are great organizers and are every bit as tough and intelligent as men. They just generally happen to not be great leaders (that doesn't mean ALL, just most). I just notice that for one reason or another, women, when given positions of authority, tend to abuse it. This is not to say that there aren't horrible male bosses as well. It just seems that the majority of the "bad" or "micromanager" bosses are women. It's almost as if they have "something to prove", or that they are insecure in their authority and therefore must ensure others know they are in charge by exerting their authority unnecessarily.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/2/2008 7:30:00 PM

    I agree completely, it appears that women managers feel a need to prove themselves more than men. I have found that women managers usually are not understanding when children are sick (unless it is their own) They are harder to work for then men. Most people I know would prefer a male boss over a female boss any day.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/9/2008 10:19:00 AM

    I have a boss who only speaks to me when she have to. She treats me like i dont exist and treat others like her best friend. She never delegates work to me as she prefers to do all the work herself. She should have been an accountant!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/9/2008 10:24:00 AM

    Sometimes evil bosses are that way because they got treated badly when they were just junior staffs. So they do to us the same thinking its fair. Or they are just simply INSECURE WITH THEMSELVE???


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/9/2008 10:25:00 AM

    i got a boss last time that was so afaraid that i would supercede her. As she was a lazy bum.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/9/2008 10:26:00 AM

    this is a great site


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/9/2008 8:17:00 PM

    What is a hostile work envirnoment?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/10/2008 9:20:00 PM

    with the economy being in such sad shape, and very few jobs available. i guess i will have to deal with my boss for the time.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/13/2008 6:52:00 AM

    I haven’t had a decent boss since I left the military in 1992. In the armed forces, poor leaders cannot hide bad performance behind their subordinates. Lying, cheating and tolerating those who do is frowned upon. Small wonder why corporate American is looked upon as a joke throughout the world while the military is so well respected.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/16/2008 7:24:00 PM

    how was bosses day for most people? we all put in money, sent one poor soul to find a present for our wonderful boss who no one or anything can make happy.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/19/2008 8:09:00 PM

    Employees and two managers were have a informal discussion. the conversation turned to a certain dept and one of the upper managers made comment regarding a lady who works in that departments age. I was standing right there when the comment was made that this employee is too old and needs to go home. The other manager hushed the conversation and left the area. I was surprised that this manager made such a stupid and potentinal dangerous remark in the prescence several employees. stupid stupid stupid


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/20/2008 7:45:00 PM

    How many times does the bosses boss have to show up and ask where your boss is? Surely he knows that our manager is a non-functioning alcoholic. It always seems that managment protect each other, but a regular hourly employee would be fired for less. It just isn't fair.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/22/2008 4:29:00 AM

    my boss is hooked on 4 liters of Diet pepsi a day and Alli diet pills....mmmm pretty! The whole company thinks she's on crack but i know better. The situation is worse than crack. she's a lyin, cheatin' stealin' whore and she's goin' down. thank you for letting me vent.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/24/2008 7:37:00 PM

    I am so tired of putting up with my supervisor's two faced comments. She is so nice to other employees/guest to their face then when they are out of the area she talks horrible about them. I really think she is jealous. She always wants what someone else has, only she ups it a bit. If one manager buys a 45,000.00 SUV, she has to buy one that is over 50,000. One of the ladies in the dept next door got a nice diamond ring from her husband for their 25th wedding anniversary, she went and purchased a larger diamond in a platiumn setting for herself. She is a person I would never choose to has as a friend in my life.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/26/2008 11:08:00 PM

    99% of these managers know exactly what they are doing when they wound you in the variety of ways that they do! The reason they treat people like crap is unjustified, but they do it for a variety of reasons. They know that you will try and find ways to make the working relationship better, but they don't want it that way. When managers distract you due to their misdeeds, they zap your energy. It turns you energy to focussing on them. It keeps you from your goal. In my experience, HR was worthless. No matter what, the manager was spared and no matter what contribution made- it was discounted and minimized. The best thing is to walk away and find a better job. Preferrably do this while you are on the job! Btw, my psycho boss is a woman.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/26/2008 11:09:00 PM

    And just to add. I am a woman subordinate that works for her incompetent, narcissistic arse!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 10/26/2008 11:19:00 PM

    And don't get it twisted either, I have worked to idiot male bosses who are duller than an unsharpened nail. The matter is not between men and women, it's between competent and incompetent. It's between treating your peers with respect or crapping on them for no reason except because they like it. Read this post, people who make other people's lives miserable, knows exactly what they are doing. It's their F 'ed up purpose.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/1/2008 5:55:00 PM

    I work for a small company, with only one HR manager. This man makes almost 85k a year and he isn't worth grocery money. He ignores valid employee complaints, then tells tha manager what was said behind closed doors. It doesn't matter that the boss violated employment laws either. He prefers not to be bothered by pee-on employees. He'd rather spend his time going dept to dept finding the womsn with the lowest neckline on her blouse and spend time chatting with her while enjoying the view.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/4/2008 8:22:00 PM

    today was election day, certain employees were allowed to leave and vote on company time, while others had to go vote on their own time (before or after work). just another wonderful day working for a boss who has his favorites and doesn't care how obvious it is. I am beginning to really hate my boss more and more each day.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/4/2008 8:25:00 PM

    added note-----These employees take two hour lunches and leave early whenever they want. They are on the job an average of 5-6 hours but get paid for 8+ hours.


    User: fanmarques
    Date: 11/8/2008 5:05:00 PM

    I have been working in retail for 3 years and abviously know the role of a sales assistant. I have not had any problems anywhere i have worked, they considered me a hard working person. But ever since i joined this company I have been facing problem after problem, we got this new manager, who is so bosy, lazy and incompetent, I don't really like him and I don't think he likes me either because I challenge him. Let me give you an incendence my co-workers are 17-19 years of age and lazy and they are the manager's favourites because they are preety and blond, so they don't get to do anything at all while I slave, making the store look nice because I can't stand and not do nothing, i have to be doing something so they just stand there and do nothing all day they just stand behind the till. When it's time to go home we all have to stay my manager says we all have to stay 20mins after we close the store so i said im not stayin and he has the nerve to say im not a very good team worker when ive been doing all the work myself. tell me am i wrong to want to quit this stupid job plus they underpaid me and will only give me my money in the next pay packet. how wrong is that.please advise me on what to do.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/9/2008 4:25:00 PM

    hello fanmarques, Is there someone in upper management that you can talk to regarding your problem. but be aware that sometimes that doesn't help the problem and will only make your manager become angry at you for going over his/her head. If it is that bad, best advise I can give is try to find and have a new job lined up, go to upper management and explain why you are leaving.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/13/2008 6:50:00 PM

    The CEO of my company was terminated, good guy, but a lousy boss, didn't ever do his job. Now my boss has his eyes set on that position. He is completely stressed out trying to get his hands into all the different depts and telling those dept heads how his ideas of how their depts need to be ran is so much better. Wonder how long they will put up with this? funny thing, the rumor mill has that he isn't even being considered because of his behavior.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/15/2008 6:02:00 PM

    favoritism is killing the morale in our office, our boss has a favorite employee, this employee is such a brown noser (and it has worked) offering to pick up his lunch, run to the post office or bank. They even spend weekend/personal time together. It is so noticable that employees from other depts have questioned the extent of their relationship. I can understand that this can be just a friendship, but the favorite employee receives raises, time off with pay, company paid lunches and other little perks all the time.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/19/2008 6:42:00 PM

    my boss takes credit for everything great that I or my co-worker do. We are graphic artists and we put together a demo-reel and won 1st place at a national awards show. Well guess where that award sits. Right on this turd sacks desk. If anyone asks him about it he claims that its "his award" and "He won it" yet he put nothing into the demo reel. He was the only one allowed to go to the convention to accept the award. Things like this are a constant with this man. He has no creative talent. He steals designs from other companies and things he sees on the internet. The man is scum and needs to be shipped back to India before he gets a green card here. Oh yeah and give the man a tooth brush because his breath smells like a toilet. His armpits smell like 2 day old beef stew. The dude is a pig.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/20/2008 7:01:00 PM

    I am to the point of quiting but with the economy being so bad right now, I have no choice but to stay and try to deal with my crappy boss. I have decided that when I do find another job, I am leaving one day and not coming back. no notice. I can't believe how this boss has changed my attitude about my work. I know even if I work a two week notice, regardless of how well my job performance was, I will not receive a good review from him. He doesn't have a kind word for anyone.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/23/2008 10:46:00 PM

    I don't know how to describe my boss. She's a new hire. I think she doesn't want to do the work anymore, so she came to my company to be a supervisor thinking she can sit on her duff and delegate. When she was hired our interim supervisor warned her about all the "troublemakers.” Now when a "troublemaker" (which I am not btw, but most of them I do like and respect) does something she doesn't like, she's on the phone with HR and the employee is pulled away from her work to for a meeting with HR. Then, everyone else picks up the slack. A new hire, who the supervisor loves, hasn’t started to accrue time off. The new hire came in one day for 20 minutes, said she had a migraine and couldn't work, and my supervisor allowed her to leave. Of course the supervisor had to, but another employee was diagnosed with Bell's palsy (likely brought on by stress) and because she had used all of her time off for the year, my supervisor wasn't going to let her have one day off to rest. She spends her day sending e-mails and calling HR. She’s caught up in the drama and makes it worse with her conduct. She drags another employee with her everywhere she goes (meetings, etc) so she can have someone there who understands what’s going on because she just doesn’t want to learn. On paper I have moved up to a new position, but in actuality I am in limbo because I have a new hire to train and help. I am doing one job while training for another. My schedule is not steady. It changes from my new hours to my old hours day to day as my supervisor sees fit. One “troublemaker” who I didn’t like, but felt sorry for was tortured. This employee was depressed. She had moved from home to live with her new husband and she had a hard time adjusting. This employee had her desk moved around several times (like the guy from Office Space). So she was in a constant state of upheaval. She had a hard time focusing and despite doctor’s notes/recommendations she was preyed upon and forever labeled as “difficult.”


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/23/2008 11:01:00 PM

    My boss is a complete witch. She delibritely tried to get me into trouble, but her boss, thankfully, did not fall for it. She is training me and she is supposed to double check everything I do. Well, she blew it and a huge error made it to our client. She told an upper boss that I had taken the work from her before she had a chance to check it and just passed it on. I know how sensitive our cliental is and I NEVER would have done it. She always checked it and passed it on FOR ME! The upper boss, thankfully, asked me what was going on first. I was shocked when she told me what my supervisor had said and she could see my shock was genuine. So for pay back, I deliberately let a mistake pass through the next day, and she missed it and got into trouble again. Immediately after that, she took me aside and said I was doing a fine job and there was no need to double check my work anymore and I could work on my own. That I did not expect. She didn't want to get into trouble for my mistakes and I got her dumbass OFF MY BACK!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 11/30/2008 8:09:00 PM

    Our boss whines and complains every time he is asked by an employee to take a sick or vacation. It is so bad that out of 18 employees, only two have actually taken a whole week off this year. I only ask for a day or so here and there and it is always a problem. It just isn't worth taking a day off. and when you come back the following day, he puts tacky little notes all over your desk, or request that you pull a bunch of files and when you give them to him, he comes back with them 5 minutes later and says okay, I am done, you can file them back. It isn't like I'm not behind from just one day because we are all overloaded and running half staffed.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/5/2008 7:37:00 PM

    My Boss is up one minute, down the next. You never know from one minute to the next how to approach him with a question or a problem. A co-worker swears that he is bi-polar. I just know this guy has problems and they seem to be getting worse as time goes by.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/10/2008 11:37:00 AM

    In this computer age why do we need bosses? Bosses and teachers and class rooms are obsolete. I have never seen a bigger obstacle to learning than a class room and a moron called the teacher and his/her pets. And have never seen a bigger obstacle to a work well done than another moron called the boss and his girl friends. In this world where we have consumer index for every region to indicating to us we are not spending enough money and always pushing us to work more faster to be able to spend more borrow more so that a selected few can enjoy the authority we give them and the money that goes with it. Implying that it’s going down to hell it’s our fault because we are not spending enough. Then they take our money again and bail out the fat cats and we just watch them. Can’t you see, each one of us maybe only a cog in the machine but we still are. So quite complaining about the boss problem is else where. This is just a symptom. AND YOU ARE PART OF IT, SO WE DESERV WHAT WE GET.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/11/2008 6:16:00 PM

    our boss only includes his favorite employees in meetings, company training programs, and they all attend outside seminars together, not to mention they get the only raises ever given in our dept. The rest of us are considered incapable of basic office functions. But we are the ones running the dept when they are gone. It is really demoralizing to us. But there isn't anyone higher that you can trust to go to. It seems with our company all the managers cover up for each other. We feel there isn't any hope for changes so we are all talking about leaving when jobs start becoming available in our city. Sad thing, we really like our jobs, we like what we do. We are always at work, on time, do our jobs well. The few other depts we come into contact with don't seem to have any complaints about us. I really don't know why the rest of us are disliked so much, other than we are all older and have seniority over them. Which really doesn't mean anything in the corporate world. I have heard him say numerous times, you don't have to fire anyone, you just make it where they want to leave.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/12/2008 7:35:00 PM

    well merry christmas, our company gives employees gift certificates at christmas, usually from a locally owned business. Never a major retailer like Wal-mart, where most employees would prefer it come from. Now the they are saying if they give it to us, it is taxable, so now we will have it added to our W-2 forms and will be reported to the IRS. Okay, then fine, but either put it on our payroll checks or let the employee choose which store. not the store of a buddy of someone in upper management.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/15/2008 6:33:00 AM

    man, i can't believe how much harrasment actually goes on and these people get away with it! reading all these comments sounds just like my insane boss. Im having trouble sleeping, getting really sick and generally afraid of going to work cause my boss contantly puts me down, makes me feel like an idiot and talks behind my back. The question is people how do we stop this and be happy in our workplace, everyone has the right to that!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/16/2008 7:58:00 AM

    To find out how to stop this we have to see how we got here. Our system of moral values is screwed up!!! That is a truth. We are lead at the highest level of our society by hypocrites that belong to secret societies with hidden agendas. They have their network of influence cast upon us and sucking our blood. They have no respect for humanity. They made us programmable and do with us whatever they want to we are taking it. We are brought to a state of pacifism for the wrong reasons and at the wrong time a state of cerebral paralysis. It is very difficult to get out of this situation. But I have news; WE ARE STRONGER!!! AND WE CAN GET RID OF THEM. It’s going to hurt and will require lots of sacrifice. This is not the right place to tell you exactly what and how do go about it. However I can tell you to be awake and conscious when the right time for action comes you’ll know it. COLLECTIVE AWARENESS IS A HUMAN THING AND VERY POWER PHENOMENON!!!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/18/2008 9:02:00 PM

    how come favortism (not sexual)is unethical but not illegal? It is no different than racism. Employees are being held back because they don't kiss up to the boss. Racism holds an employee back because of race, beliefs and such. it is all the same, good employees are being punished. I personally rarely take sick days, I have only taken a few vacation days this entire year. I work hard, complete my assignments and I believe it is better to play will with others. While one personal in our dept. is never at their desk, leaves on company time to run personal errands, at least 10 personal calls a day, but she goes and picks up lunch for the boss and she is the greatest. Go Figure.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/21/2008 4:43:00 AM

    I have a boss that comes to work every morning bitching about something he never cracks a smile or anything God I dont know how people live like that! anyway when I started 6 months ago he asked if it was ok to shorten My name from Melissa to Mel ALTHOUGH THAT SHORT FOR MELANIE NOT MELISSA !!! I said it was fine but the past month he's been calling me Melonoma (the piss ant ) I'm pissed because it's disrespectful and embarrassing any suggestions out there how I should handle this without getting fired ?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/22/2008 11:38:00 AM

    Someone asked about female bosses vs male bosses. I have often thought about that. I'm 9 months pregnant and my boss has been horrible. She told me that she has to talk to someone about my poor attendance--because I called out during a snowstorm. I work for a newspaper and the very same paper I work for had reported that day that police said to stay off the roads, that there had been 3+ accidents along the road I would have had to take to work that day. My coworkers kiss her ass and I don't. I frankly don't have the energy right now. As a result, she likes them, does not like me. I am the top seller in my department (literally over twice as many ads as number 2) and she treats me like crap. Female bosses are worse than male bosses, probably because women have had to work harder to get the positions they get. That's my guess, anyway. If they show too much kindness, they might fear they'll be viewed as pushovers or as weak.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/22/2008 9:50:00 PM

    I have worked for men and for women, I prefer to work for a man. Women are competative by nature, esp. against other women. They compete over who has the highest ranking in the workplace, nicest car, nicer jewelry, bigger house, smarter kids,loving husband, the list goes on and on. If you have something better than your boss, you are the enemy instantly. Because you are lower on the "totum pole" you should have less than she does. Most women who are bosses aren't nice people, just mega b's. I have found that men bosses are far more understanding when it comes to a child being sick and family needs.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/28/2008 10:59:00 PM

    I work for a boss that I worked with on the same level with - as a line staffe a few years back. Once I came to his office it has been sheer and utter hell. When I make a mistake or recieve a minor complaint it gets blown way out of proportion and anything I do well or correctly is not even addressed. Every time there's a problem he talks to me about it the day it happens or close to it and then the next business day he calls me into the office and rakes me over the coals! Also, because I'm journey-level at my job I already have prior training to refer back to but I am told NOT TO DO THAT because "things have changed." Even when I remember how to do something after a brief review or can do something based on prior experience and knowledge I am told that I'm being a whiner and all-knowing. Why is it such a BAD thing to have prior knowledge and to be eager to do the job? In today's economy you would think a company would appreciate being able to save training time and money here and there!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/29/2008 7:56:00 PM

    Well the layoffs have hit our office building. Its amazing that the oldest female, the pregnant female are two of four women that were considered not needed. the oldest female previously did the job of an employee who has been with the company less than two years and the younger employee kept her job.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/2/2009 11:14:00 PM

    The president of my bank makes knee-jerk decisions when he's mad. He tells his VPs to fire people over the smallest things. I made a paperwork mistake that did not cost the bank any money or break any laws, it was simply late. And he has made my life a living hell for days. He fosters an environment of hatred and pettiness. Everyone is scared of him and his inside circle. He behaves like such a child. This guy is a real jerk.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/6/2009 8:08:00 PM

    Our boss is always trying to improve our work flow, every time he makes a change, it is another 2 or 3 steps to do, or another report to maintain that no one ever looks at. He is always bragging out how he is making his dept more efficent than others. we work harder and produce less and are always behind and fighting fires that he started by not ever listening to us. If we suggest something differnt, we are told we are not team players. Oh I am on the team, but not by my choice.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/11/2009 9:51:00 AM

    My boss is such a crappy person. we have a man who does contract labor for our company. He holds his invoices as long as posssible before sending to the accounts payable dept. This man does a good job, but our boss just doesn't like him personally and tries to hurt him by holding back on his payments. He also tries to hurt his reputation by saying unfavorable comments to other managers about him. This is a nice man just trying to make a living like the rest of us.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/12/2009 11:28:00 AM

    My boss is plain stupid. Doesn't listen to a word I say, I literally have conversations 2 or 3 times word for word before it sinks into his head. Worst is the refusal to train. The only training is when mistakes are being pointed out, I asked if I could be trained on the proper procedure so that I could maybe do it properly the first time and was told "no, I don't want to train you" What the fuck is that?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/12/2009 7:39:00 PM

    The employees were I work were told that due to the economy we would not be receiving a cost of living raise. I am thankful to have my job, I understand that money is tight and no raises will be issued. Then I am told that all managers received raises. A nice amount, I would have loved to received a fraction of what they got. I love how upper management tells us they can't afford to give us raises but they give themselves one.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/13/2009 7:29:00 PM

    4 words. I HATE MY BOSS


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/17/2009 3:22:00 PM

    I have a no win situation. My wife and I both work for a policing agency. Our bosses are Lieutenants, Captains, Superintendents of Security. You would expect these people to be far above reproach. No true. One or the other of them will submit a complete and total lie towards an officer and then they will all get together just to get their story ready and then gun down the innocent, truth telling person they have lied about. There is no recovery for the person they have lied about and they then follow up by placing negative letters into your personal file. This is so frustrating that the victim literally finds their career ruined and also suffer a complete loss of morale. Our Dept. stresses our code of ethics, core values etc, and then throw all of these important standards into the garbage. If we so much as suggest that our management is less than perfect, the above team will get together and literally submit a lie about you. I have even challanged them to take a lie detector test along with me; my answer is complete silence. This is the story that the public is not aware of regarding some of our policing careers when behind closed walls. Officer ?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/19/2009 10:18:00 PM

    I have been working in one place for nearly a year. Everything seemed to be fine until I got my performance review. My boss told me I should take the initiative to learn more of the company policies to answer employee's questions. However, after taking on half of her work load, manning the switchboard, and pitching in when one worker was out on disability for 12 weeks, when am I supposed to find the time to "take the initiative"? I mentioned training but she said I am supposed to "pick things up on my own"! Also, she keeps things to herself and doesn't communicate so I learn them after the fact! Now she is starting to nitpick over stupid things! Hope the economy picks up and for sure I will look for another job!


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/21/2009 7:23:00 PM

    It sounds like your boss is insecure, by withholding training and information she thinks she is securing her position with the company.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/22/2009 2:59:00 AM

    Have a supervisor with no experience in medical analyzers machine and hired her friend (buddy)with no experience in troubleshooting skill or basic electronic. My dumb supervisor want me to show my troubleshooting skills to my dumb or stupid coworker. What should I do?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/22/2009 7:19:00 PM

    Do you have a choice?


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/22/2009 7:37:00 PM

    My boss hired two of her buddies, I am the only other one in our dept. They all group in one of their offices and chat for hours while I answer the dept phone calls, visitors and take care of my job. Then they all start whining about how much work they have to do, they can't keep up with the work load.(how about staying at your desk and doing your job, I think thats a good place to start) They get raises, perks taken out to lunch at the company expense while I get nothing but additional work put on me.


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/25/2009 10:53:00 AM

    I have worked at my company for 6 years. I work foro satan. Sheis one of the most hateful cruel people I have ever met. She has worked there for 11 years. She berates me in front of other co-workers. I have been doing the job of another co-worker since she left for maternity leave almost 5 months ago. I myself am 5 months pregnant. I got my performance review and I don't go above and beyond, and I don't try hard enough. I work so hard I barely take a bathroom break. She makes fun of others, starts gossip behind others backs, misses work, she is a compulsive liar. She will tell me one thing, i will follow that, then she will say that's not what she wanted. I'm told that I don't communicat enough with her. she makes me check in at least once a 1/2 every day telling her what I am working on. She tells personal business about others, including reviews, marrital problems, medical issues etc. She butts in the human resource side of the company because she is the office manager as well as the accountant. She tells the owners how busy she is and that she does everything, when she does the least amount of work out of all of us. I think she picks on me the most because I am the youngest on average abot 15 years. She makes fun of your clothes, hair, nails, if you don't have alot of money, or drive the right kind of car. She treats others like they are beneath her. It doesn't matter how hard I try, it's never good enough, and after 6 years, I can't believe that I've made it that long. I don't know how much longer I can take the mental abuse. I have been documenting her for the last year, but I don't think the head boss will care.....


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/25/2009 1:16:00 PM

    I can't understand how favoritism isn't illegal, it isn't fair that you can work harder and take more on more work than the favorite employees and they get the raises because they have taken on additional duties. (what? going to pick up the bosses lunch and dry cleaning on company time)


    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/30/2009 12:19:00 PM

    I was promoted with my supervisor at the same time, however in the chain of command he is a rank higher than me. (Dont Ask!) We were on probation for the first six months together which I made most decisions, and he sat back and made very few to avoid getting in trouble. After probation he decided to "stretch" his wings and take charge. During this time I made a decision that resulted in consulting with his boss about an issue that we agreed in but a subordinate did not. My boss got his feelings hurt and wrote me and the employee up where we were suspended. After the suspension the write ups went up the chain of command and were overturned by the big "boss". Good but, I still have to look at my boss and know that he handles situations (problems) by writing people up. I disagree in this principle and think that communication is the key to success. I have read the article dealing with "Do you have a bad boss", and he meets all the requirements but does not know it. I intend on keeping a journal about his instructions but life will be miserable, more importantly for the subordinats because he does not have a clue how to be a manager, supervisor, or a leader. What I learned, "No matter what, listen to your immediate supervisor". Sounds simple I know!


    User: happier
    Date: 5/19/2009 12:25:00 PM

    I wished I had found this website years ago..maybe I would have quit my job a long time ago. I think of all the years I put up with their abuse and it makes me ill. I now have a heart condition..most likely brought on by all of the stress that I endured all those years of abuse...of course no physical but mental abuse by that man. I am so thankful I no longer work for that controlling ***hole...


    User: tootired
    Date: 7/15/2009 12:10:00 PM

    I'm currently looking for work. My boss is impossible. She makes threats, even in front of customers. It isn't worth it to stay. The hours stink. No one wants to work my shift. When I get a new job, I'm quitting that day. No notice. She can clean up her own d@mn mess.


    User: goth lady
    Date: 10/7/2009 11:46:00 AM

    Face it, most bosses are bullies. In all my years of employment, I've had only 2 supervisors who were good folks who genuinely cared about the workers. I've had boss after boss who were mentally unhinged bullies: the Gestapo-type screamers, the priggish, utlra-conservative types who feel threatened by my "artsy", bohemian demeanor (and YES, I would ALWAYS dress in a business-like style in a corporate setting), the incompetent ones who blame their employees, the bitter types, the flat-out bullies who NEED to harm others in order to feel important - I've worked for them all, and it's NOT worth the physical ailments and emotional pain they put me through. I HATE that stuffy corporate environment, so I now work for myself.


    User: blockbuster09
    Date: 11/26/2009 2:08:00 AM

    I m going through the same situation with my hateful and deranged boss who has a tight nip relationship with another co-worker and they are always buddy buddy. I am in a good ranking position but the same way they (boss and favorite co-worker) talk about me and others, little do they know we do the same thing. The object of the game is to pretend to not be pissed off because they actually will feed of that negative energy. Letting them know I am mad ends the game and they have won. Have you ever teased someone and they just laugh right back at you? That kind of makes you very dumb and could spend time on doing something else. Hope this helps others. Just play the same game and you will win, well in their eyes.


    User: Dudelistico
    Date: 1/29/2010 11:21:00 AM

    My boss complains too much. She thinks I get sick too much when in fact I only took 4 days off work ever. Recently I went in with a cold and she told me that I need to learn to not get sick! I work fulltime as a dishwasher making 10.50 so I think she needs to get a life. I have been there 5 months and worked over 500 hours and no raise. She doesn't praise me though the manager does. My boss is the owner. I just try fluff her off but it's hard. She criticises everything I do.


    User: missy111
    Date: 2/3/2010 7:15:00 PM

    My ex-mega satan manager was a compulsive liar and a ten faced devil. She would portray herself to be this perfect religious woman but she was a NASTY woman and complete hell to work with. She would scream yell talk crap about me, humiliate me,. She was impulsive, impatient, and extremely forgetful and would end up blaming me for things. And most importantly a huge manipulative LIAR!!! A psychopath like her shouldn't work in the Accounting Field. I don't why I put up with her for so long. I should have quit but I actually wanted to learn the work. What I learned from this is when you start seeing early signs of a bad boss....start looking for another job ASAP!!!...no loyalty!! I'm mentally exhausted and I'm glad I'm out!! Part of me wished I was just as nasty with her but I realize I am a civilized human not a street dog (unlike her)!! It's not worth it to stoop down to her level. And why is it most of these bad bosses tend to be women?...where have all the good bosses gone?


    User: miktr
    Date: 3/29/2010 9:03:00 PM

    My boss is the type of guy who sets up rules and waits for you to fail because he changes everything from day to day so you wont know how to play by the rules set forth, you spend more time trying to stay ahead of him not to get into conflicts and loose productive time, he is for ever talking down to people and acts like a freakin know it all all the time. he fails to realize that if it was not for his key players he would not be where he is today.


    User: sweethoney
    Date: 6/2/2010 10:40:00 PM

    My boss is constantly making assumptions about me. He will walk into my office and say things that he thinks are funny and I don't. I just never know if he is serious, or joking. He has absolutely no respect for women and he is constantly saying these backhanded comments that put me down. I just don't know how to handle it at all. I freeze up, or say something stupid. Any advice??


    User: fluid
    Date: 6/15/2010 10:44:00 PM

    Haha! I love this site. So many stories that make you laugh because we've all been there. I have a boss that is extremely intelligent about the job, however she is an extreme tyrant about the job. She's so intense about everything, big or small, that she's essentially bullying all of us. All of my peers work out of total fear that we will be screamed at for any mistakes on our part. It's weird, because at the end of the day the job is done better with her than with out, however we all hate her and our jobs. She promoted me to my current position a year ago (to working directly under her) and I am now semi depressed, unmotivated, and have lost personal relationships due to putting in so many extra hours (as to not get yelled at). I'm looking for other positions in other companies, but wow does this job market suck....


    User: KILL
    Date: 8/23/2010 11:55:00 AM

    My superior is manipulating & tyrant. she will vent her anger out on me when our customer dun give her what she wants. she ever yell at me before because of 1 freaking file that is missing in front of my co-workers. she takes advantage of me & assumes i will do every shit in the office. she's the type who won't ever leave the company unless she dies. so, i will leave. & i sincerely hope that karma will befall her soon.


    User: mail2
    Date: 10/21/2010 7:03:00 AM

    Well guys, the way you are posting your stories, griefs, concerns, queries anonymously - you can also provide ANONYMOUS feedback to your boss anonymously. Just visit www.orcoli.com for providing anonymous feedback to your managers, peers and subordinates.


    User: Lady Badger
    Date: 3/6/2011 11:09:00 PM

    I just posted my story but I got a message to try again! Lost the whole thing. I should know better--always write in Word then copy and paste. Anyway I am glad to have found you all.


    User: Lady Badger
    Date: 3/6/2011 11:15:00 PM

    Basically my boss is like 'fluid's. Rude and bossy. The more she is like that, I have decided I will be all the more professional and kind as I possible can in return. Patience, endurance, and the golden rule wins out in the end, I believe. In the meantime it's great to have a safe place like this to vent.


    User: whosbad
    Date: 4/12/2011 12:37:00 AM

    My boss is the biggest moron. Where do I begin? He can't manage worth crap, sits in the back doing god knows what all shift long besides analyzing the video camera footage, can't remember half of anything, and then when the smallest thing goes wrong watch out it's like the end of the world. The thing is I just give it right back and know how to be the most difficult coworker when having a one on one talk so take that. :) One sign you have pissed your boss off... he'll start to grunt or sniffle and then you'll hear dead silence. Just remember bosses... you get respect by showing respect and those below you just may be smarter than you at your own little game.


    User: the winner
    Date: 1/28/2012 2:14:00 AM

    LIFE IS TO SHORT TO HAVE TO PUT UP WITH ABUSE IN THE WORKPLACE! LEARN TO GIVE IT BACK AND LAUGH IT OFF OR MOVE ON....IT WILL BUY YOU AN EARLY GRAVE IF YOU DON'T. STANDUP FOR YOURSELF.TEAMWORK AND HELPING EACH OTHERS IS WHAT MAKES BUSSINESS WORK !! TELL THAT TO "ANY" PERSON THAT BOTHERS YOU(IN FRONT OF AS MANY CO-WORKERS AS POSSIBLE)


    User: the winner
    Date: 1/28/2012 2:36:00 AM

    KINDNESS GOES A LONG WAY.JOKES AND LAUGHTER FIRST THING IN THE MORNING WORKS GOOD.BROWN NOSEING DOESN'T!!!!


    User: MissDisplaced
    Date: 5/28/2012 2:00:00 PM

    I have a bad bully boss who is also the owner (very small company). No matter what you do, or how hard you try, IT IS NEVER ENOUGH. He accuses staff of all kinds of stuff, but then does the very same thing himself. He also bad mouths former employees and vendors. Everyone is to blame for everything but himself. There is high turnover for such a small company, because the minute someone stands up to him, he fires them. Oh, did I also mention he is banging on the the employees... she is a moron, but other employees are expected to take the blame for her screw ups and horrible writing.



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