How To Deal With a Difficult Boss
"Bosses and supervisors aren't from another planet, but sometimes they seem to be. If you deal with the boss from hell you know. Conflict between a difficult boss and an employee can be daunting and intimidating. Here are some tips to help you deal with difficult bosses and supervisors."
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User: anonymous
Date: 10/19/2005 6:58:00 PM
As Covey suggests, seek first to understand, then to be understood.
User: anonymous
Date: 5/19/2006 9:19:00 AM
my boss just accepted a promotion and let me find out about it in an e-mail!!!
User: anonymous
Date: 7/13/2006 10:45:00 PM
My boss sets people up to fail by not communicating proper policies and procedures. Writes people up for things they didn't even know they did wrong..no warning at all. Than fails to help solve the problem. Loves to single people out and nag about things but does not to others that do the same thing. She breaks many rules, being late, long breaks, talks at length on the phone and at work about non-work related topics. Does not set a good expample but expects all employees to abide accept her! Picks on you until you want to quit. Nagging emails about what you did wrong but you have a legit explanation and she argues anyway. Has been over heard talking negatively about other employees or past employees. Vocally voiced that her boss is stupid and incompetant. Manipulates policies to find a way to get you in trouble. Has a "don't mess with me attitude" has admitted to being a good liar. has admitted will argue a point wether correct or not...I could go on...
User: anonymous
Date: 8/11/2006 10:26:00 PM
I used to have a boss like that, and stayed with the job for fourteen years thinking that I would/will not let her get the best of me. Why should I let her have the pleasure of "winning". Well now I have left there and am in another environment. It amazes me how I had that rediculous way of thinking of winning or losing. I lost anyway by staying there and wasting my hard work and extra efforts only to be overlooked because she simply didn't like me, spoke bad of me and refused to acknowledge my good work...but expected high standards from me because she repeatedly got it from metoo. Boy was I dumb...two ulcers too late. I should have left there a long time ago and realized that my work....is my livlihood and should be appreciated and if it isnt than I should go where it will make me feel good about it. Staying there was foolish. While on the other hand....it made me a very percise worker. I learned to follow through with every tiny detail because of little fears of coming back to me. When I finally got the courage to leave there I thanked her in a nice letter telling her that her expectations of me paid off and got me a great promotion at another facility...a job I may not have gotten had she let me slide....the way she let others. She still hates me and still talks about me even when I am not there. Last year I sent her a Christmas card telling her that I had heard she missed me and found it to be quite sweet of her to still be using my old work as an example of what a great boss she is. She never responded of course but I feel that in the end I did win...but...I lost some of my health in return, and some of my opportunities may have gotten by me over those years working there. I guess you have to weigh it all out and decide for yourself what your job is worth. I feel good now, and there isn't a price for that. I wish someone would have told me...
User: anonymous
Date: 9/7/2006 6:23:00 AM
My boss is a priest, but he is pretending that he is a library science major. He is the root of all the disorderliness in our library. Now, my problem is, I am a librarian by profession and I want to deliver a sermon.
User: anonymous
Date: 9/11/2006 1:09:00 AM
my boss is sleeping with her boss which is still my boss so nothing could ever get straight at allied barton
User: anonymous
Date: 9/28/2006 8:09:00 AM
I was given a week off work from the Doctor for a severe chest infection. On the Monday I went into work even though I was sick because i knew she had some work for me to do. My boss told me to go home after 3 hours working, told me to go to the Dr to have it checked out (didnt seem that bad at the time but i went) After the Dr visit i calle dmy boss, told her i probably wouldnt be in on Tues and I had to go back to the Dr on Wed so Id let her know what the Dr said on Wed. After the Dr visit and treatment that had me feeling sick and dizzy so I couldnt drive and had to get a friend to take me) i went straight to the office to hand in the medical papers and explain what the Dr said). When I got to the door she looked me up and down in "disgust" then opened the door and immediately started shouting about how I hadnt called and was disrespectfull,refused to listen to me, took the papers from me and forced the door shut while i still had my hand on the door knob, causing me to stumble back. Please, someone tell me what I did to deserve that treatment and what I should do.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/1/2006 10:31:00 PM
To the one who wrote about the abusive boss at the door: Do you really think you did something to deserve that? What in your heart of hearts do you think you should do? You are a human being. Obviously your boss was upset but truly, it wasn't about you.
Quite a Piece of Work (POW)you work for. I hope you will take care of yourself physically and emotionally. And while you're doing that, beef up your resume, there are plenty of nice people out there who happen to be bosses.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/11/2006 4:38:00 PM
My boss still looking ways to fire me.
Since, I wrote an e mail to the principal complaining about the supervisor and director who came several times to my work site without reason. Since, I complained in 2003, they have been making my life
impossible and hard. I don't know what to do. This supervisor always look details on my job performance. I do a great job but he still complaining.
Please some advise
User: anonymous
Date: 10/13/2006 10:33:00 AM
This sucks
User: anonymous
Date: 10/31/2006 8:12:00 PM
My boss is the CEO of a big corp. While I technically work for the company (my paycheck comes from it), I work directly for him and only him. I have no other supervisor, I have no staff. I am his personal assistant. There are no check and balances in this position, no procedures. He himself is a total non-communicator. He knows exactly what he wants, he just never tells anyone. He only tells you when it's not perfect, and waits for months to do so, until review time. I've never been in such a no win situation before. Money is good, family depends on me. What to do? He is king.
User: anonymous
Date: 11/8/2006 12:03:00 AM
I am working for a boss that in private will compliment on my work habits however in front of her department heads never ever says anything positive about me. I am the administrative assistant who also pulls manager on duty yet am not paid estra for it. I am somewhat involed in marketing and in that sense am eligible for a commission for any move ins that we have. The marketing director pulls in a whooping $600.00 per move in ====I get a measley $25.00. I had my annual evaluation about 6 weeks ago and was told I would receive $50.00 per move in. I looked at my pay check today and I was still at $25.00 per move-in. I asked my boss about this and she said corporate did not approve it and my immediate boss had done everything she could to get it approved. I have worked at this place for 3 1/2 years but never seem to get any extra $ yet others can. It seems to be a title problem...as long as I am the administrative assistant it's okay however when the boss is out of the area I am left in charge. She is very volitile...waht can I do without running the risk of being fired?
User: anonymous
Date: 11/8/2006 12:06:00 AM
It's me again---the one with the volitle boss....sorry about the typos! I am just a bit pissed off this evening!
User: anonymous
Date: 11/15/2006 11:21:00 PM
Yea, I don't know what to do, my boss randomly attacked me yesterday for leaving my job at the time I was scheduled to leave because the phone was ringing, so she began yelling at me the following day her face was beat red and she just basically treated me like shit and made fun of me to my face, I work with her and this other woman and they both sit on their ass and eat while I do all the bitch work, then they talk about me behind my back everytime I leave the room. They also bark orders and tell me to lift heavy boxes all the time when they won't lift a finger or help me out. They don't know what the fuck they're doing. I need outtt hahaa, help should I put up with this shit or what???
User: anonymous
Date: 11/21/2006 1:58:00 AM
My boss is a big fat shit deceitful person. She doesn't know how to shut up her big mouth from lying. She is a bully, a psycho, compulsive, and a pathological darn liar. She is a sick person. She belongs in a psychopath mental retarded facility/institution not in Accounting department.
Anonymous
User: anonymous
Date: 11/21/2006 7:41:00 PM
I work in a small busiess just starting out. my boss, well i use to love her but now eh. I work my butt off everyday and go to the edge of the world and back to try to please her yet i only get minimum wage. she has been cutting my hours instead of the one other employee who just wanted to pick up 10 or 15 hours every pay period (every 2 weeks) and not be on schedule. me on the other hand would like at least 40 per pay period and want to be on a schedule. when the boss isnt there she is telling me all the things she says behind my back. like "what do you think of her" or "do you like her?" me and the other employee fool around all of the time and one time she goes "owww. she hit me" in that little kid way and i started laughing. At the end of my shift when i left she goes "did she really hit you. thats it" these little things are adding up in my head to: does my boss not liking me but has no legit reason to fire me because i havent messed up yet?" "When I do mess up even at a little thing am I gone?"
please answer.
User: anonymous
Date: 11/22/2006 1:26:00 AM
Did you ever have to deal with a psychopath manager? Yes, I do a psycho pathological liar who would lie about you, deceive people with her double personality. She is indeed an expert in manipulating people and the numbers to keep off the records what she doesn't want her boss to know, so far she gets away with it. But I do believe that someday she will answer to these (bad boss, manipulative, and continuously lying). Manipulating not only the people but also the books.
User: anonymous
Date: 11/23/2006 3:17:00 PM
I don't know how some of these "so called " bosses get their positions but I work for a boss who loves to downrate you when you do something wrong but just simply doesn't seem to be capable of praising your accomplishments.
Even when she hear's other's cheering you on she will not say a word. Correction, she will if the praisee is one of her favorites; Otherwise forget it. I've never seen anyone more controlling than this person. I don't know if the homelife is unhappy or what but I sure wish these type of people would do us all a favor and take a job where dealing directly with human beings is not a part of the job description. It would also be nice if more institutions had an anonymous and fair way for employees to report these people without the fear of being terminated. It is absolutely ridiculous that some employees have to endure such behavior. But ultimately I guess a person doesn't . You just have to be willing to take some risk to bring about change.
User: anonymous
Date: 11/24/2006 2:23:00 PM
A manager that is an expert in lying can always get away with her lies. That is in fact one of the characteristics of a psychopath pathological liar. When they are caught lying they will make up another lies to try to cover up their lies. Unfortunately although the management knows about the problem, the management hasn't done the actions to make the pathological liar manager answers to what she causes to the company. Hopefully that the management will realize SOON that one of the managers that they employ is an expert in the field of lying, whatever she says always include lies; of course she is a PATHOLOGICAL LIAR. A PASTYHOLOGICAL liar manager will always be a liar and will keep on spending hours everyday telling lies stories when she is suppose to work. Sad to say, that the company doesn't include screening for liar person before hiring an employee. The management just doesn't realize for example hiring a pathological psychopath manager they are unaccounted for (spending) pay check ($55/hour for manager hourly rate) to employ a COMPULSIVE PATHOLOGICAL LIAR.
User: anonymous
Date: 11/28/2006 1:14:00 AM
I have a bad boss too. She has her favorite who can dress any way she wants. But if one of us wears jeans on a no jean day we all get an email. Her favorite has been wearing jeans every day for weeks now.
My boss will give no one praise unless you are a favored one. She berates me and one other person in front of everyone, even though I do the most work in the department. If I ask a question she will actually shout at me sometimes, saying I should know the answer by now.
She is completely unapologetic in her attitude and has stated that she is the perfect boss. We had to listen to her muse how she must put something down that she could improve about her managerial skills. Nothing, of course.
Ultimately I complained to her boss and things got better for a month or so, but the honeymoon is over and she has started in on me with renewed vigor. Today it was bad enough to get everyone's attention, though I had done nothing wrong. She obviously had something else going on and decided to take it out on me again.
Basically, I hate her and wish she would die. Die bitch die!
I'm too old to think thoughts like that, but I can't help it. I hate her guts.
User: anonymous
Date: 12/1/2006 12:55:00 PM
Jenny..
My boss is kinda good but sometimes, shouted at me from head to toe and it's embarrasing of course not to him but to myself, I feel like I'm standing in the clouds when he shouts. He treats me like a slave do this that, seat here there and here. Watta fucking asshole.
User: anonymous
Date: 12/15/2006 9:37:00 PM
My boss makes jokes about me, We get to evaluate our boss, yet when i do my boss finds with things wrong with me and i get bad evaluations. we also evaluate wach other my boss won't take myevaluations of other seriously. she lies on mine i found out by others.
User: anonymous
Date: 12/26/2006 4:51:00 PM
I have a supervisor that is a 'Lime Light Lover'. Always needs to be in the spotlight. The problem is when she does not fully understand something, it becomes the fault of someone else. Constantly looking for some way to point a finger of blame. Most often, resorting to the "It's your responsibility" statement when something isn't done according to her rules. Favorite buzz term: 'Knowledege transfer'. Favorite thing to do: Nasty gram e-mails sent to you but cc'd to her boss and everyone else that she needs to impress.
User: hadenuff
Date: 12/31/2006 1:34:00 AM
After 1.5 years of mostly unhappiness with regard to my work as well as the PERSON I worked for, I quit. It feels good to say it and hopefully live it. Here's the beginning of what I lacked respect for in terms of the personality of the employer I was with: (a) his self-centeredness (rather than confronting the people he worked for, he talked badly about them behind their back - instead of using his power/role as a manager to provide constructive criticism, as a manager who cares about people, he just vented his rage, upset, disappointments at his employees, and then went about his work. So there was never a relationship with anyone; we were just instruments for the work to get done. Venting was just a mechanism for releasing his feelings and moving on). He wasn't interested in playing the role of a good manager or boss.
User: anonymous
Date: 1/1/2007 4:07:00 PM
I'm 56 years old and I have found that there are going to be some kind of problem at any job you have. If you get along with the boss then you have problems with your co-workers and vice versa. When I first started working in the early 70's it seemed to me that people kept things on a professional level at work. Now you have to be personal friends with everyone and if you're not, you're ostracized. There is very little professional in office jobs anymore and I think it has to do with less job security and the bad job market. People have become paranoid about losing their jobs and spend more time "kissing up" than doing their jobs. It makes it hard for the people who just want to do a good job and go home and not get involved in all the political crap that goes on. Oh well, what can you do? You have to work. Keep your mouth shut and try to stay out of trouble as much as you can is the only advice I can give.
User: anonymous
Date: 1/6/2007 5:45:00 PM
Please someone help me!
i have 3 bosses in my office. the chain of bosses goes like this!
My boss, boss A. her boss BOSS B. her boss BOSS C..
sorry to be complicated!
Ive been working for my company thomas cook now for 6 month. and im starting to feel like my boss hates me!
its the same old stuff . shouts at you for being 1 minute late. shouting at me for things that other employes do. (but they dont get the telling off)
shes recently set a new seating plan for everyone in the office. which was meant to be so things would work more efficent.
how ever on a xmass night out. she tells one of my friends when shes drunk the seating plan was just so that who she likes most was sat near her. me sitting furthest away from me relised she probably did hate me.
often responds with the word "what" when i ask her a question!
but what do i do! she shouts at me for things i do but not anyone else!
im extremly good at my job and she knows i am! but its so de-motivating when shes always talkign to me like rubbish!
i want to complain about her to boss b! (her boss) but there good friends and ive learnt that in the post from other employess that nothing was ever done when they complained about her.
i want to go to boss A (but hes been sleeping with boss B)!
what do i do! i want to work in an envoirment were i feel aprecaited for the efforts i go to! i reach my targets and exceed them more then everyone else! ive got the constant feeling she wants me sacked! but i love my job and dont want her winning!
at times she can be lovely. but most the times shes horrible!
please someone help me!
User: anonymous
Date: 1/11/2007 11:40:00 PM
I have a boss who I am guessing no longer likes me. It's interesting, when I started the job, she was really nice, did all the right things like "go home, you'll be working late soon enough", and other such gestures. However, one day, when I called to let her know I had some concerns about a certain thing she wanted me to do which she had relayed to me via another supervisor who is under her, she just ignored the call and never even responded. When I saw her in the office, she looked at me almost with discust. One day, the supervisor who acted as the messenger came into my office to discuss something. I ended up sharing my feeling of confusion at not knowing what to do now that my supervisor had deliberately ignored my call. This supervisor shared with me that she was in the room when she got my message and she said that she told her how annoyed she was with a look of disgust on her face. Part of the reason I am so disturbed by this is because she tries to paint this picture that she and "her team" are all perfect and how lucky we all are.... but how can she be so fake. My QUESTION IS AS FOLLOWS: I REALLY WOULD LIKE TO CONFRONT HER AND PROCESS THAT EXERIENCE WITH HER. I WOULD LIKE CLEAR THE AIR SO I CAN CONTINUE TO ENJOY THE OTHER ASPECTS OF MY JOB WHICH I SO ENJOY. I just don't know if it's worth the risk. Perhaps it will backfire. Any ideas? Should I just eat my pride and move on?
User: anonymous
Date: 1/24/2007 11:05:00 PM
I hate my boss. I unloaded on her the other day and told her all the stupid stuff she does. I am ambarrassed I lost control, but how can you not get frustrated when your boss is lying to your face and you know it. God I wish she would die.I pray for something to happen to her. What a moron. She is so over her head in this job. She doesn't know anything about being a manager of people. Got i hate her.
User: anonymous
Date: 1/31/2007 7:54:00 PM
I feel your pain, my boss is over her head in her job, she doesn't know her ass from her face half the time, and the other half everyone else is doing the work and she gets the credit. People like her keep getting away with their abusive and condescending behaviour toward others, and it is beyond me why upper management do not see this. As a matter of fact they think she is doing a great job....that shows you how much they are aware of what is going on. They pat her on her back and she gleams like a hollow lightbulb.
User: anonymous
Date: 2/1/2007 10:59:00 AM
Well, I am not surprised anymore about why do they get away with it. The only problem I have is "When should I say enough is enough". I learned from a couple of things I have been reading that if you complain about your boss, 90% of the time you will loose. The first thing he will use against you is your reputation which he will do everything to destroy and the sad thing is that management believes him. How would you guys react to such a situation: leave the firm or just ask for a transfer?
User: anonymous
Date: 2/5/2007 4:59:00 PM
I have a boss that plays people against eachother; like promises me a promotion and tells me not to tell my co-worker and then promises it to her and tells her not to tell me (Yes, we talk) but we don't say anything to him b/c we know how he is. He moved me and said I was promoted (to one of our clients)and then my pay was wrong when I confronted him he got our VP involved and she told me to give my notice if I was unhappy.... That was't the case. Now he has made comments about how he got rid of me and wonders why I call him... it's about work reports. He is a liar and gets people fired b/c he is in love with my co-worker. He can't be trusted or he will go tell and Upper Management and they will always take his side. DEAD END ROAD!!!!!
User: anonymous
Date: 2/8/2007 1:43:00 PM
The way to deal with bad bosses and unresponsive company management is to find a way to destroy that company both economically and it's reputation.
You have to work like a spy and learn the company's weakenesses. Keep your notes at home and be very silent. Find yourself a new job and secretly launch your torpedoes while still working.
How? Read up on espionage and industrial saboertage tactics. Leave no fingerprint to trace back to you.
If you can get by with just getting your boss burned and fired then you have succeeded. If that doesn't work then such companies should be destroyed.
Seriously, it's time to get tough because such bosses are slowly killing us and destroying our lives.
User: anonymous
Date: 2/11/2007 6:45:00 PM
My boss sacked me because i saw him kissing his girlfriend in the office many times and his girlfriend is working with us
User: anonymous
Date: 3/6/2007 9:02:00 PM
my boss is the new owner of the company i work for. she came into this knowing nothing - nothing - at all about this particular business. my co-worker and i can run this business. we know it inside out. she never does anything wrong - yeah right. and she tries to tell the customers what they want, loves to hear herself talk. expects deadlines to be met on time (which we can do) but wants to have hour long conversations about what ever. which this takes time up from getting dealines done. she is completely oblivious to poeple not likeing her. her last place of employment had a secret meeting and got rid of her. now i guess this new (but existing) business is just a token. she wants to be in the limelight. and she is a pain in the butt. i just want to go to work, do my job and not have to hear her voice or see her face.
User: anonymous
Date: 3/6/2007 9:40:00 PM
one of my coworkers had been doing some peculiar, dishonest and potentially illegal things in the work place. Every time I try to talk with my manager about this she gets defensive of the other worker and won't listen to me. This is now effecting my as that the other worker will take a task from me and say they will complete it but then the product and documents somehow disappear and they say they don't remember ever having taken the task. It is now getting me into trouble. We are supposed to share these tasks but when products start going missing the manager blames the last person she saw it with. What do I do to protect myself from this other workers mistakes so that when they finally do something that warrants attention the manager can't turn to me and say "You knew and didn't tell me" when she won't even listen to me? There are only the three of us in our store, its a small show room and if I were to go to a supervisor things could get messy.
User: anonymous
Date: 3/12/2007 2:02:00 AM
A question: As I read the comments on bosses posted here, I noticed the majority of them use the feminine pronoun. I am a female, a librarian in a public library system who has been dealing with problems caused by "she" supervisors/bosses for the past couple of years. I would like to hear from others as to how they would compare "she" bosses to "he" bosses.
User: anonymous
Date: 3/18/2007 8:54:00 PM
my boss a bi sexual who power struggle all the time.i have been a very reliable hard worker.i got sick and called out from work.my boss told the supervisor to change my shift because i called out .we have 4 other people in my same postion that abuse leave all the time .i am the only one that comes to work.she didn't change any of their shifts.please tell me what can i do.
User: anonymous
Date: 3/21/2007 5:12:00 PM
My boss is an arrogant person. He thinks he is better than the administrative staff and we are just "clerks" as he puts it. Yes, he wants people to believe that he is behind us 100 percent, but it is a lie when it comes down to it. He plays favorites with good looking staff women and treats the not so good looking ones like they are not important! Is this fair? It sure isn't! Fed up. Can we do something?
User: anonymous
Date: 3/23/2007 12:48:00 AM
I thought i was alone in having found a bad boss for myself but here i find my band of brothers! I have been with the company 2 weeks and my boss gives partial instructions, other colleagues do not wish to help out hence i err in doing my work....then he shouts, rants and raves! I have decided to leave, better to learn from other peoples experiences than to suffer silently and lose health and peace of mind
User: anonymous
Date: 3/24/2007 8:54:00 PM
I have been working at a place for 7 months. I really had a sour feeling in my gut about this job but I am not a quitter and thought I could make it work. As time went on, I learned that my boss has a very sarcastic personality and she likes to make fun of people. She has made fun of me and thinks I am too sensitive. She also promised things to me before I accepted the job and didn't deliver (Always get things in writing beforehand).
Now, I went to her about 2 well loved managers who have talked very abusively to me. She took their side over mine and has listed me a whiner. She fired the last person at my job and I am afraid she will fire me (Although there is nothing else negative in my file).
I am learning at a young age (35) to keep your mouth shut about everything and dust off your resume, put in your notice and consider it a lesson well learned. I am also learning, that if you have a gut feeling about a place, go with it.
User: anonymous
Date: 3/26/2007 11:06:00 AM
honestly reading this one i feel like i'm looking at my situation.
User: anonymous
Date: 4/13/2007 11:04:00 PM
I have this asshole mexican speaking spanish boss-Male who only belives the people that have been w/him for years that also speak the lingo and now I come in the picture 3 years later and somehow everything that goes wrong I get blamed for ,i am just fed up and ready to tell him he can kiss my hard working ass good-bye and to and grow up,there is one girl in particular who prances around and talks dirty to them rubs there shoulders and gives massages she basicaly is an ass kisser and then talks about her implnats saying how perky they are -soooo annoying and the asshole boss who is always making sexual comments to you as you rise up to check in patients at the desk-for example he would say such things like stay right there in that position or go behind you and act like he want to fuck you-he is a self centered bastard and let it be know MARRIED but has cheated on his wife before-go figure, and to top it off she sits on the other bosses lap as well and he is also MARRIED but just recently complained about it b/c a non employee seen something and her eye balls about BLEW OUT OF HER EYE SOCKETS-LOL, This practice has no organization and is out of control ,too many chiefs and not enough indians-ASSHOLE I CAN STAND HIM ,BUT I NEED THE JOB FOR NOW, I have forced myself now to look for another job and have put in several resumes, my husband says think of it as your a part timer b/c your leaving that dump and they will figure out later that you were a HARD WORKER AND A DAMN GOOD ONE.-
THE ODD BALL
User: anonymous
Date: 4/13/2007 11:08:00 PM
Let this be know to anyone and everyone that there are plenty of jobs out there and WE ARE ALL HUMAND AND DONT NEED TO BE TREATED THIS WAY!!!!!!!!!!!
User: anonymous
Date: 4/28/2007 10:08:00 PM
I have been at my job for 2 yrs. use to love it, then i started seeing the backstabbinbg, tlaking behind others back, the kissing up, etc-i learned about 'office politics', and finally get it. I have a boss who exaggerates EVERYTHING
User: anonymous
Date: 4/28/2007 10:13:00 PM
anyway (my previous message got cut off)....my boss exaggerates everything ..i do-if i show any indication that i am frustrated, or make a comment, she calls a meeting with the other dept heads and me...because she feels i am gonna blow. this person jumped down my throat the other day because she thought i was 'out of control' when in fact i was in a very good mood prior to the incident. If i am out sick, she has a problem with it, because i am then affecting the WHOLE dept, even thought i am the only person in my dept who is doing the work that i do everyday. my work is never piled up, yet if i miss any time, it's a 'blow' to the dept. i am SICK of this! why cant the other dept heads see this?
User: anonymous
Date: 5/3/2007 9:32:00 PM
Everyone has to work ..unless you win the lottery, however you can make it better for yourself. For those who insist in stay in jobs with bosses that abuse you, my advice is simply not to acknowlegde your boss when this is happening. I too have a boss that like to belittle and berate me. I simply don't feed that need. I do not acknowlegde her when she say hello to me. i act if she wasn;t even there. She moves and picks on somelse. Therefore I don't feed the need to be abusive to me. I am in the healthcare industry where peresonnel is in short supply. Therefore I have the power. If you dont and your boss is intenet on making you miserable quit because it doesn't get better and do it before you become invested in the compay. I f your boss wants to fire you you'll get fired.
User: anonymous
Date: 5/27/2007 7:24:00 PM
I need anyone's advice who may read this. I've been working for the company I'm with now for10 years. When I first started the supervisors seemed to be very nice along with the employees. Now I dread sometimes going to work, the work is great its the idot people who work in the office. In my department I have two supervisors I only report to one. Supervisor A is very jealous, two faced and shows favoritism, at times shows insecurity in certain situations she has her picks that she she'll do things for. if my boss is not there and I need something or need to leave I'll send her email, she'll not respond at all I'll have to call her and she'll blow it off like yeh go ahead and go, but if its one of her favorites she'll tell go no problem. Boss b my boss is very messy at times very nprofessional in the workplace if she has any kind of runs with you she'll create this huge problem and take it to her boss. No one in the office likes boss b because people feel like she should'nt be in her position as a supervisor. I'm in enviroment were employees talk about each other, then you have supervisors that are chummy with certain employees. If I have a problem in the office I dont feel like I can trust anyone because there all untrustworthy. Sometimes it causes great stress for me an the end of the day I'm ready to quite but I dont want to negatvity that much credit I do need to know how to handle this. What do I do?
User: anonymous
Date: 6/4/2007 11:11:00 PM
I WORK FOR A HOTEL IN DOWNTOWN CHICAGO FOR THE LAST 7 MONTHS AND IM READY TO LOOK FOR ANOTHER J0B IM SICK OF MY HOMOSEXUAL BOSS HES A COMPLETE IDIOT!!THEN HE HIRES PEOPLE THAT DONT KNOW SHIT ABOUT THE JOB.LIKE THIS GIRL THAT CAME FROM ANOTHER PROPERTY,SHE SO DUMB!! ALL SHE DOES IS WALK AROUND ALL DAY ACTING LIKE A BIGSHOT AND EVERYTIME WE HAVE A PROBLEM AT THE FRONT DESK THE BITCH DOESNT KNOW WHAT TO DO.BUT EVERYTIME WE DO SOMETHING WRONG THE'RE THE FIRST ONES TO POINT PEOPLE OUT.IM SICK OF THOSE TWO IDIOTS!!!
User: anonymous
Date: 6/8/2007 12:25:00 PM
My boss pitts employees against each other by telling them about the others mistakes. Being the only woman there I have been labeled as "emotional" and taking things to personally. Well, when your boss is going to other people and telling them about things that were discussed behind closed doors...I tend to get upset I just want to throttle him.
User: anonymous
Date: 6/16/2007 12:01:00 AM
My boss has disliked me from day 1. I have had several bosses over a short period of time who have been grateful for the knowledge and assistance I have given them. This boss is different, she delegates a lot of her work to me as the "go to" person, then she gets mad at me for handling something on my own. Today I asked for a meeting with her and her boss to verify my job responsibilities which turned out to be far less that what she has unloaded on me over the past 9 months and announces to me that my problem is that I want to run the facility. HUH? I thought I requested the meeting to verify mo job responsibilities. Next big problem is that her husband is in a higher position within the same company and it appears she is chiseled in stone. Any suggestions on how to deal with this person now that the kid gloves are off?
User: anonymous
Date: 6/18/2007 12:03:00 AM
everyone in the world stop working then bosses can do it all themselves!!!!all companies will fall then you open your own!!
User: anonymous
Date: 6/18/2007 10:07:00 AM
It seems from reading these post's that the majority of bad bosses are women. My boss is a ignorant, crack fuelled manager. She schedules me for jobs that I was not hired for. I don't think women should be managers. They rule with emotion rather than facts or professional ethics.
User: anonymous
Date: 6/19/2007 1:10:00 AM
These bosses need to get the same treatment back to them. What goes around comes around. Most of them are unhappy so they feel they need to make you unhappy.
They are all miserable bitches.
User: anonymous
Date: 6/19/2007 7:20:00 PM
My boss is a little leprechaun who has napoleon complex. He is NEVER wrong. Even if the whole world is telling him that he made a mistake, he still refuses to admit he is wrong.
User: anonymous
Date: 6/19/2007 7:33:00 PM
I know who you're talking about! Are we co workers?! Just let him bathe in his bliss. A Chinese proverb explains the more you think you know, the more ignorant you become, yet the more humbly you yield to knowledge and truth, an expanse your horizon becomes. I'd say F em all. Just cover your arse and treat this like a business. Save up a F U fund, we all need one and when we've clearly had enough, plan your F U leave. This should be done meticulously. Load up on all the office work loads, make everyone depend on you to help, especially the bosses, and then file for bereavement leave and turn in your 2 weeks notice. Go travel to Mexico or something. Locals there love vacationers.
User: anonymous
Date: 6/23/2007 10:48:00 PM
PLEASE PEOPLE!!! The title of this at the top says "How to Deal with a Bad Boss", So how do you guys deal with a bad boss.? Answer the question! Thanks. :)
User: pmmistry
Date: 6/24/2007 12:28:00 PM
My boss is very difficilt to handle, If youi do this, he will tell u to do that way and if you do that way he will say no do it this way,gets Very angry at a small time interval. Please tell me How to handle this type of bosses. I am working in a multinational group of companies, He is not sure what he is doing and do not trust himself or others , main problem is , he is so frustrated. If people do some great activity , he doesn't like it and will get angry on them & complement the work was bad.
User: anonymous
Date: 6/29/2007 3:04:00 PM
jan. norway
I have read all youre stories and I have to say I shocked by the the problem of beeing locked up in a corner with no great ideas of getting out.change job should bee a solution but its not allways possible, so wath is the answer. sue them for harasment or outpeform them , maybee you can stress them up with woorkload so they forget you .bosses are not so clever since they have to have people to work for them. smal leaks of sabotasje maybe messages that not get thru . get bussy and search the job marked you will become what you think u are so think of succes . do some gym training and scear them with youre big biceps .go where great firm eats there lunch and listen wath they talk about there is always a way to get past problems . just ask why and how.
User: anonymous
Date: 7/11/2007 8:42:00 AM
Hey, I have read some of these, but not all, and was wonder'n if someone could tell me what's best. To leave a job because of a bad boss and plant manager, or to try to stay and and see if there's a way to have the table to be turn'd on the bad boss. If ther's a way for the table to turn. I'm listen'n. I don't mind the work I do, and don't mind look'n at the same environment, but am get'n sick of the boss. she's one of those bosses that is very proud of herself no matter what she does, and puts on a good front in front of the main boss, but is something different after he's gone. I'm still listen'n. My eyes and ears wide open.
User: anonymous
Date: 7/11/2007 3:41:00 PM
I work for a company with 30 employees and I have FIVE bosses! They ALL tell me what to do on a regular basis, and they ALL disagree with eachother. I'm caught in the middle.
User: anonymous
Date: 7/18/2007 7:32:00 PM
my boss lets the men at work sit around bullshitt shes a woman as so am i do i need a dick to go to work and be treated with respect we have new people who were just hired asking me when im going to lunch screw you buddy mind your own business jerk off i work for allied bARTON and it sucks man there is no toothface sob they be nice to your face back stab you later fuck you alled barton
User: anonymous
Date: 8/11/2007 10:02:00 PM
I don't really know how to deal with a bad boss. That's what I've had most of my working life (20 plus years). I do know that you have to look at your situation--if you are getting sick from work, or you go home and obsess about how horrible your job or boss or coworkers are or you dread going to work, you need to look at your situation and see if anyone higher will listen and help you. If not, then you may need to change jobs. I've been in situations with horrible, abusive screeching bosses, I was heavily in debt with no savings and desperately needed the meager salary I got. Sometimes, I would work a 2nd job on weekends or at night for a few months to help pay some debts so I could change jobs and not be freaked out about money. Other times, I just started looking and would eventually get something else so that I could quit. The hard part is, if you decide to quit, try really hard not to end up in the same kind of situation. I think there are at least 25 bad bosses for every good one, so it's hard to find a good one. And of course, you have to like your co-workers. Sometimes if you have great co-workers who also don't like the boss, that makes it more bearable. Life's too short to be miserable at work.
User: anonymous
Date: 8/26/2007 9:34:00 AM
My boss is always singling out me and always trying to force me into another department that i do not feel comfortable in. She knows i am on medicines for depression and anxiety disorder. And she is hateful towards employees and me right infront of other departments. What should i Do?
User: anonymous
Date: 9/7/2007 9:32:00 PM
I've been at a job for over a year,before my boss was my boss he was a friend of ours.He had issues with his last assisitant and she quit,everyone hates him,he travels alot but when he is in the office he is a miserable p&^%$.He talks really nice to all his "girlfriends" that his wife doesnt know about.He tells me I do a great job but then treats me 99.9% f the time like crap.One of his conquests that works with us also treats me like crap and he allows it.The problem is that the money is good andI loke the job I just hate him
User: anonymous
Date: 9/19/2007 12:35:00 PM
My boss is an arrogant moma's boy who thinks that he is above everyone in the state of Alabama. He is inconsiderate of anyones feelings. Mad that Auburn is on a losing streak, callin all Bama fans ignorant (knowing i am a huge Alabama fan) Also made horrible comments about cats being "dissposible animals" bet our customer ________ Animal Clinic would like that one considering he pays us thousands a year in insurance
User: anonymous
Date: 9/22/2007 10:31:00 PM
my boss is a arrogant loser. i work in a paint store and this a*s has no clue how to run this store correctly. i have far more experience running the warehouse part of this business then he does and he makes my job 10 times harder then necessary. all he does all day is stand behind the counter and take peoples money. he is the laziest person i have ever work with in the last 20 years. when i make a comment about improving responce time or keeping inventory levels up i get bitched at. i do more work in this place than everyone else. after the first year at this job they rewarded me with a wopping 25 cent raise. thanks...after year 2 i got a 20 cent raise. cool.. i cannot wait for the day that i can tell this worthless piece of cr*p off an never go back. thanks for letting me vent.
User: anonymous
Date: 9/25/2007 11:51:00 AM
i just started a new job for a well known mobile phone company.......first day i heard the boss talking about me on the phone to someone being two faced and bitchy, id spoken to her for only 10 minutes at this time and already she had formed an opinion...based on what i have no clue....however as the day progressed i started to realise that she was the sort of person who made vicious comments about everyone and anyone....including customers the second they had walked out of the shop.....i have a very very sour feeling about this job
User: anonymous
Date: 10/1/2007 9:46:00 PM
my piece of shit she-boss is the "controller" of our company, before she-boss, we had another he-boss controller that was wonderful, stuck to his job of controlling financials, not controlling the whole f-cking co. she thinks that anyone with an accounting degree is qualified to work with, not experience or ability, but what you've got hanging on your wall. i honestly loved her when she first started, should have known something wasn't right when was told her hubbie was a preacher. now the bitch thinks she owns the damn company and since acquisitions and bonuses came into play, is ONLY about HER bottom line. she's a total control freak, thinks her shit doesn't stink, and she can do/say whatever she wants, to the she-boss who doesn't like to be called "sweetie"-fuck you sweetness- love your receivables girl, you know the one who gets you your f-cking bonuses, fat cow with a stone cow in her yard, what kinda shit is that?
User: anonymous
Date: 10/9/2007 5:32:00 AM
My boss likes to yell anytime u intends to visit him, he also sleeps during working hours, he’s afraid to communicating to NBI.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/9/2007 9:06:00 PM
I can't figure it out, I have been working for the company for 10 years, this boss 1 year. Why does he hate me so much? I am a high performer, professional and sincerely love my work. He kisses the rear ends of my ignorant co-workers and praises them for doing their job. When did "just doing your job" become exceeding the expectations? I'm having a hard time controlling myself, I just want to scream and tell him off so bad!!
User: anonymous
Date: 10/10/2007 7:32:00 AM
I am cerain my boss has untreated bi polar....one moment she's lovely the next a screaming monster! I am a high performer (who she head hunted) and have always done well at anything I do yet now everything I do is wrong, and I am apparently immature and emotionally deficient...I need to find a new job but I don't think I even have the confidence to submit my resume anywhere..I don't know what to do.....
User: anonymous
Date: 10/10/2007 2:51:00 PM
My boss seems to be depressed.upset with his life. He carries it out on us at work..now I have been there for 2 yrs now and he has said and written profane items abotu us and butters u up only to got ell the next person howhorrible ur..How am I sopped toa dress ti when no one listens and as well he tells the other that he hadnt said that?
User: anonymous
Date: 10/10/2007 2:54:00 PM
sorry about the typos up there lol
User: anonymous
Date: 10/12/2007 4:04:00 AM
My boss is a real pain in the a@@ he's always lying to our customers and does not inform the operations team about the commitments that he has gone and made. He's the most disorganized person you would get and would want his work to be prioritized over the day to day activities.. This not only pressurizes the workforce to work extra without getting paid a single dough. they have to go redo their schedules everytime he comes up with a new request. We are fed up of him and want the management to know about this irritating individual. Please suggest best alternatives.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/13/2007 5:20:00 AM
My boss lies about everything but what bothers me the most is he lies when employers call to find out about our ex-employees. Recently we had an employed who tested positive for drugs and was fired. My boss told the employee he could list him as a reference and they would say it was a mutual agreement (instead of firing) that employment was terminated. Also, he agrees to lie to companies stating people have been employed much longer than they actually have been so the employee can get mortgages,etc. HELP!
User: anonymous
Date: 10/14/2007 6:26:00 AM
my boss brakes each and every rule is in our code of conducts and basic employment act and expect not to be questioned. she drinks on duty,taking petty cash for her own personal use,she is a racist and she does not treat here black staff equally and she does not have a back bone when ever she is being told something she does not confron us.i just got a warning for questioning about hours we work. i wish i could do something but i know if i open my mouth to board she will get fired.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/21/2007 3:14:00 PM
I came to this page for some insight but am not finding that at all - I have two comments to make. The first thing is that some of the people complaining appear to be mean, judgemental, small minded people and I think some of you better take a long look in the mirror. The second thing I would like to say is why on earth would you let anyone yell and scream at you? If someone yells at you, you stop the conversation and tell them that it can continue when they are calm enough to speak to you rationally, and walk out of the his/her office. No adult deserves to be screamed and hollered at.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/22/2007 1:05:00 AM
I work in a very unorganized and stressful work place. This is in a professional setting with profesional staff, In the last seven months since a new superior was employed she has pushed me once, and yelled at me to shut up on three seperate occassions. I need my job and can't seem to get past this last episode, but am afraid to go to the CEO with the issue. This is a very small company with eight employees and we all work within feet of each other.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/22/2007 3:50:00 PM
very disrespective in any way imaginable
User: anonymous
Date: 10/22/2007 8:36:00 PM
Ok, I was one of the ones who complained on this forum last winter. I am still at the same place with the same boss but things are better. Here is what I have done. I have been very professional with her after she was abusive to me. I stay on work related topics and nothing else. I do my job as perfectly as I know how with a smile. I have won other managers over as well as coworkers and acted like she is not as significant. She has taken notice that my coworkers like working with me, that I get the job done and that I am respected by other managers. She has turned around a lot. Now she tries to be friendly with me and tries to make small talk. I do not bite. I give her one word answers and walk away. I still don't want to work there for very long, but things have gotten better.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/23/2007 6:48:00 AM
Anyone have a suggestion on what to do with a boss that lies all the time about present or past employees as far as job references? A person will get fired but the boss will tell future employers that it was a mutual separation or state how wonderful the employee was (I guess so he will be liked....) I want to shout "I CAN'T TAKE ANY MORE OF YOUR LIES!".
User: anonymous
Date: 10/23/2007 7:58:00 PM
My boss randomly decides that something is wrong. Even though we have worked together for 9 years, today she emailed me formally (Ms. "Smith") instead of my first name to tell me that she was upset with something that happened over a month ago. We have had several meetings between the incident (that really was basically not locking the door when I left for lunch to the office that other people were in) and she never mentioned it. So -- she is friendly when she wants a friend and bitchy when she wants a victim. Weird. We'll see. I need a job, so I guess I'll put up with it. I work in a highly specialized field so it would be hard for me to find another job quickly.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/24/2007 8:52:00 AM
I used to get upset with my evil boss and coworkers, but then one day I heard that one of them was grumpy because "so and so (me) still works here."
Yes! Yes I do still work here! And I realized that the best way to piss them off was to show up every day with a chipper smile and a happy attitude! I ask loads of questions, I write everything down, I confront them on inaccuracies in what they've said... Just doing my job in the best way possible. And it irritates the f*ck out of them!!
Unhappy people are usually unhappy with their lives, and you can't change that. Just be your happy self and it will make them bonkers.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/25/2007 8:44:00 PM
Thats good. If it were me and I found out that people were gossiping about me and didn't want me there, I would really turn on the charm. I would bring in candy and offer it to them, compliment them on their outfit etc... They will get the hint.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/25/2007 8:47:00 PM
After reading some of these stories, I do think that the best way to deal with difficult coworkers/bosses is to be super kind to them. Also, provide exceptional service to the customer. Most of the time, your boss will realize that you are the greatest asset she/he has. It will be hard for a boss to fire a person who is doing their job, is positive and who services the customer above and beyond. Most of the time, they will change their attitude towards you.
If they don't change, it has been a couple of years and you don't like what you do, it is DEFINITELY time to move on.
User: anonymous
Date: 10/30/2007 8:44:00 AM
Hello everyone I will take this time to let so much anger and unhappiness out of my chest. My boss is an old lady around 63 years old. Who retired from another college, and decided to come back to work. She is the director of the library. She is a very smart woman but her attitude is the worst. These are some of the crazy things she does:
Who comes to work late
Speak aloud and right in front of your face while spit
Her mouth stinks so badly, because she only eats letters and drink coffee
She comes late to work
Speak over the phone for a long period of hours with family and friends
Speak about my co-worker with me and speak to him about me
She yells, screams and if she is upset because her boss scream at her she takes out on me
She told me one time that I should takes pills and vitamins to increase my immune system because I had an allergy
Sometimes she tells me to do a project and she comes and yells and tells me to do it her way. After I am done with this project she will just delete everything and said do it this way, it is better.
I am a single mother, supporting my son and my mother and it is very hard just to leave the job. I am looking for another job but it is very hard to get one nowadays. I cry many times in the bathroom at my job because of the creams and the bad comments she made. Sometimes she said she is sorry after screaming and tells me “I am having a bad day, I am sorry.” I feel depressed, sometimes I just want to walk away but my son needs me to work. It has been very hard for me, because this woman can makes anybody feel miserable in a second. She yells at my co-worker but because this is his first job fulltime he will take anything from this woman. Sometimes she comes yells at us and the next day, she brings us a present which I am not happy to take, most of the time I leave at work, can someone advise me please, I am desperate.
User: anonymous
Date: 11/1/2007 8:33:00 AM
My boss is wishy washy about everything, disorganized to the point where she creates more stress on everyone, has no respect from anyone and basically is a "slug" doing what she has to do without any vision of improving things. What do you think?
I asked for an evaluation after 6 months and she handed me a pile of evaluation forms from students ( I am a teacher in a private school) and said we are very happy. I am very disappointed.
User: anonymous
Date: 11/5/2007 1:29:00 AM
To anonymous on 10/30 and to everyone else, too. Hang in there. In just looking through these writings, it's plain to see that many of us feel that we have a bad boss - I've had so many, it is hard to keep count. PLEASE read this book, it's called "NASTY PEOPLE: How to stop being hurt by them without stooping to their level" by Jay Carter. A few people who are providing comments here have written that it's best to NOT let people get to you, and although it's difficult to do, it really truly is the best thing you can do... DO NOT let others control your reactions, emotions, behaviors...when you do that, they win, and you lose. Some want to make you miserable...others are just so stinking stupid and self-centered that they don't know what they're doing. You can complain to your boss' boss, and to HR... you MUST document everything in writing (names, dates, events, and FACTUAL details...not just emotions and feelings and beliefs)...you can look for another job and hopefully get one...it's sad that ONE person can screw us up...and that we have to go somewhere else while others get to stay...but life is short and we need to TRY to make ourselves happy, especially since we spend 1/3 or more of our lives making an income. When one door closes, another one opens, BUT ONLY if we take action and open it ourselves.
User: anonymous
Date: 11/18/2007 4:44:00 PM
MY BOSS IS THE VILEST BITCH I HAVE EVER MET!!! SHE LIES,PLAYS PEOPLE AND IS ROLLING WITH HER CLICK,SHE IS DISGUSTING AND I PRAY(I NO LONGER CARE ABOUT CARMA)THAT SHE ENDS IN THE WORST WAY POSSIBLE,SHE GIVES ME DIRTY LOOKS AND TALKS TO ME LIKE IM A FUCKING STUPID CHILD,SHE'S A FUCKING FAT JELOUS HUNCHED GOOFY @£$%^&*!!! AAARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!
User: anonymous
Date: 11/18/2007 4:47:00 PM
Why is it female bosses that make the worst??????...coz they are evil and love playing people of each other...thank god im gay!!!!
User: anonymous
Date: 11/19/2007 5:02:00 AM
snort. You cant talk to my boss. She is a manipulator and gossip.
User: anonymous
Date: 11/19/2007 5:19:00 AM
On top of being a manipulative back stabbing inadequate she-boss, my boss is harrassing me at home and at work. I tried to call human relations but she beat me to the punch sending out a message that I was a disgruntled employee.
She informed me she already has someone lined up for my job and she put me in a position I can't physically handle. She is using that against me because I miss work because I get sick from the job.
I would love nothing better than to get out of here but I want her to fire me for the sickness. I might be naive, but I could at least draw unemployment given I'm under 2 doctors care and that everything is listed as 'work related stress'
User: anonymous
Date: 11/29/2007 11:21:00 PM
This is so lame all you qualified individuals out there "FIND ANOTHER JOB"...GIVE your two weeks notice.show some class/balls and walk away
User: anonymous
Date: 11/30/2007 1:14:00 AM
My boss is a middle school vice principal. He is a mexican with a doctorate degree who believes he now can solve all problems from the African drought to the poverty in the inner cities. He will always find something wrong that you do but never anything right. While his job is supposed to be to help teachers, he really is there to stick up for the kids. If a kid curses at a teacher, it's okay because they are the kids and they have hardships to deal with at home! So, that gives them the right to take it out on the adults at the school. This is what you get when you over educate minorities.
User: anonymous
Date: 12/5/2007 12:41:00 AM
I thought about posting but after reading this, I am not alone. I got a supervisor who is a liar sack of crap. His nick name is "car salesman", boy and i have meet a few salesmen and none like that. Outright lies thru the skin of his teeth. Will tell anyone what he thinks they want to hear, and then bust you. Damned if i do damned if i don't. My .02 Worth. lets we forget...
User: anonymous
Date: 12/18/2007 9:50:00 AM
One of my bosses is the owners son that got arrested for drugs right in front of everyone at work. He is cocky, degrades women, and goes to the bathroom every 5 min to get high. I work in nice elegant resturant and the only reason he isn't a street junkie is because of his parents. He expects you to do and know everything from day one. In return of your mistakes he screams and makes you dirt in front of customers. I guess we all put up with some shit if the money is right.
User: anonymous
Date: 12/27/2007 4:32:00 PM
Does anyone work in an office/place of employment where you get paid about the same as 1 or 2 others and you do WAY MORE work than anyone else. When you are swamped with work, the boss does nothing to ask the other 2 co-workers to help you and while you are drowning in paperwork, they are surfing the internet, text messaging and talking on their cell phone. I must have the word "Stupid" written on my head because I am still there.
Where is the manager's responsibility to assign a more fair workload to all employees???????
User: anonymous
Date: 12/28/2007 12:56:00 PM
Sheila says, Any thoughts out there on this scenario where an owner of commercial property, while within legal rights to have security cameras installed, had done thusly without informing a particular worker - at least not until a month later, and only by word of another (employee) from the "inner circle". Would you feel violated?
User: anonymous
Date: 1/6/2008 11:10:00 AM
i think just about everyone has issues with their jobs...bad managers and bad employees are everywhere. if you don't want to deal with them, start your own business and be your own boss
User: anonymous
Date: 1/6/2008 11:16:00 AM
i used to like my job, but as time went on, i've realized that it's sucking the life out of me. i work with people who don't deserve to have the positions they do. people getting paid WAY MORE than they are worth. whining, bitching, backstabbing pains in the ass. i'm gonna take what i can out of this job, and when the time is right, i'm going to stick my ass out the window and wave bye bye to it all.
User: anonymous
Date: 1/12/2008 1:51:00 AM
I searched the Dr. Phil show for this situation/topic. It doesn't exist.
"My married Boss,with children, but 51%Homosexual." Yes! I have been put through this employment filth three times. All three of my immediate superiors have come onto me. Each telling me, "Boy, you need to learn the game." All three, each in their early forties, carry an aggenda. I failed to submit. I refused to submit! I lost my job each time. Why, they "outed" themselves to me, I failed to "submit" and within six months, I was gone. Each man with a wife, children and living in the best part of town. For them, that was not enough. Sociopaths!
User: anonymous
Date: 1/21/2008 11:43:00 PM
My husbands boss takes the cake. He grabbed his head and pushed it towards his crotch as a joke. He denies this happened when my husband called him out on it. What a jerk
User: anonymous
Date: 1/27/2008 12:32:00 AM
I work with a control freak. The amazing thing is that her boss's allow her to act like this? She talks bad about everyone in the office. Why must we spend our lives working with such negativity? Has anyone notice that most of the above comments are women? For the comment above, ever heard of sexual harrassment?
User: anonymous
Date: 1/28/2008 7:47:00 PM
My boss is a snotty b-yach and stupid.Oh yah its a guy not a gal. He's disrespects peoples position and has caused several to quit. He's arrogant and just doesn't get it.
He's only been with us a year. Hope he goes soon!
User: anonymous
Date: 1/30/2008 6:11:00 PM
My boss nitpicks everything I do and insists that everything be done her way. 2 other people have left the department (1 even quit) because of her. I feel that she needs to respect the fact that people do things differently. As long as it is getting done correctly in the end, the tiny, miniscule things shouldn't matter.
User: anonymous
Date: 2/12/2008 10:14:00 AM
I work for a psych pathological liar! My first experience of this and it's all shocking. Constant nit-picking and twisting things around. I think he's afraid that I can do the job better and is constantly looking for ways to get me out.
I feel sorry for the organisation though...
User: anonymous
Date: 2/19/2008 5:33:00 PM
I've been in the same job for 16 years and it never gets any better. Same old same old...you know. The bosses/managers have meetings constantly to discuss what their next meeting will be about. Honestly. And they love love love to point the finger. We call them Pete and re-Pete plus a few choice adjectives here and there. I love the job...hate the management - also could do without the few martyrs who are always crying about how much they hate their job but don't do anything about moving on. I say...well honey...your feet aren't nailed to the floor so..? We have a saying at work. "Have a nice day." I am really telling them (in my mind) to go pound sand. I say it to most of our customers and all of the bosses and most of the staff I can't stand. Only I know what I really mean. Sounds childish..but any little thing to brighten my day.
User: anonymous
Date: 2/21/2008 12:48:00 PM
I started the company I am at 10 months ago. I love it here, I can't stand my supervisor. One day she is ok nice, the next she might bite your head off. She and another supervisor play games with me and another co-workers. One of which is under the other supervisor. It gets old. I am in my late 30's my co-work 40's. We are treated as if we are fresh out of high school with no experience. I have over 15 years of experience as an admin. assistant. I think I know what I am doing. I think the "hags" are jealous of us! We are nice looking, vibrant and cheerful people while they are non-social and never come out of their offices. My supervisor lashes out at me for no reason, overly - and I mean overly - exaggerates every little bitty situation. I have spoken with her supervisor which is mine in a way and his response is well she has never really supervised anyone...my thought is then why the heck is she doing it now. She seriously can not manager her own projects and now her great idea is to help me manage mine because the position I am in is her old position. I want to tell her...I can do my job and probably better than you ever did....but I am not like that. I don't talk back...no yet anyway! I want a good annual review, then we will see what happens! :0) I also work for the president of the company and he is impressed by the organizational trates and how unstressed I am. My supervisor told me this job was stressful. I haven't been stressed except by her in 10 months. It could be worse I know but...it doesn't have to be this way either!
User: anonymous
Date: 2/26/2008 6:46:00 PM
How do you deal with a boss that is jelouse of you and the things you do to better the company(I'm just doing my job. She's nice to everyone else and gives them under the table paid time off. Some day's she's nice, then the next she's a crazy perason. She's such a bitch, what do I do?
User: anonymous
Date: 3/2/2008 2:09:00 PM
The ugly honest truth is that you can't do anything. Most people are who they are by the age of 30; only a small percentage of us can change for the better. As most bosses are 40 and over at this point, odds are they are going to remain the small-minded and self-righteous individuals they always have been.
My advice - use your boss as much as they use you. Whether it be for experience, salary, perks, or even contacts for that next job. You are in charge of your life. Not THEM!
User: anonymous
Date: 3/3/2008 10:04:00 AM
Well said, and with much forethought. Yes, the solution is usually the more obvious, but many get caught up in the drama and politics, oftentimes seeking to fulfill the need to prove they're right, when it is simply a matter of maintaining a healthy work environment so that we may focus on the task at hand. If personal agendas become the priority, then it is time to cut ties and move on with life. Anything less is toxic and a dead end. If anyone is interested in making positive and real changes pertaining to workplace bullying, which simply put is an overt abuse of power and authority, then please channel your energies in a platform that promises to hold individuals and/or businesses accountable. Rally for the Healthy Workplace Bill. workplacebullyinglaw.org
User: anonymous
Date: 3/3/2008 8:35:00 PM
My boss is a nutjob. But how do i deal with her? I take her abuse as a driving force for me to do better . I have tolerated her nonsense for five years since i was a freshman in college i have a year to get my masters so i can leave her with her job.Lol!!! Sometimes we have to take the abuse as a challenge for you to do something better for yourself
User: anonymous
Date: 3/9/2008 8:06:00 PM
How do you deal with an idiot boss and who is a liar and engages in politics at work?
User: chew
Date: 3/10/2008 1:02:00 PM
Although targets of workplace bullying suffer the same post-traumatic disorders as POW's, it is the POW who is prisoner in the truest sense and should be acknowledged accordingly for what is endured in the name of freedom. Initially, as a target, it is ok and perhaps commendable to sway tactfully and judiciously these bullies, in the hopes to one day reign victorious in the good cause of truth and justice. Unfortunately, the reality is as such, that the right to work with one's dignity intact is dearly lacking in many a workplace. There is no glory in staying with an employer after all reasonable avenues have been exhausted and, yet, the assaults continue. When the people in authority turn a deaf ear to one of their own, a crossroads has been reached and a decision must be made. Shall a spouse return to an abuser? A dog to his own vomit? Fight the good fight, and rally for the Healthy Workplace Bill, so that all bullies will be held accountable.
User: chew
Date: 3/10/2008 1:08:00 PM
To anonymous who works with a liar and "politician":), go to ebosswatch.com and rate their performance. Job seekers will thank you.
User: badhairday
Date: 3/11/2008 3:34:00 PM
my boss makes me cry, makes me feel like a useless bitch, and i dread seeing her everyday but i need to work becuase i need the money
User: anonymous
Date: 3/25/2008 6:05:00 AM
I work for a micro manager who monologues practically every topic in meetings and makes them go 2x, 3x as long as they should because she goes into so much unnecessary detail. When I attend meetings with her, I have literally no speaking role; and when I do say something, she typically cuts me off, interrupts and/or dismisses as unimportant. She praises my work in private, but nitpicks and criticizes me to others. She keeps the whole staff uninformed, never gets to the point, gossips with certain subordinates, has favorites who she lets take off work whenever that jeorpardizes others' work and operations. She clearly has some issues with self esteem and confidence--namely that a couple subordinates have more education than her and are physically more attractive.
User: anonymous
Date: 4/1/2008 11:40:00 AM
My ultimate boss is using the writings of some US guru and using edge to cover the fact that he does not like a senior manger and is trying to get rid of her. He was promoted to Head of dept and within 2 weeks told her that he thought she was an under performer (despite the previous head being delighted with her work) he is an absolute nightmare, not well liked he has survived the integration of his previous company and has a bad reputation anyway. He has already got rid of one senior woman and is working on a third, looks like sexual descrimination to me.
User: anonymous
Date: 4/3/2008 1:20:00 AM
my boss leads a progressive nonprofit. He is a condescending asshole, who runs the organization more like a cult (minus the inspiration) then a professional NGO. You can never work hard enough, long enough or good enough. There is always more work to do and more personal sacrifice that can be made. When mistakes happen he inspires guilt and shame rather than find opportunities for growth and improvement. He once shared that he manages the organization like a salad spinner. He pulls the cord and see who can hold on the tightest. He is stripping me of my dignity and self respect. I think I am going to quit tomorrow.
User: anonymous
Date: 4/11/2008 10:16:00 PM
my boss only knows drama and manipulation and has the guts to ask me my age? SWEETY im younger and hotter than you for sure, all you should be managing is a herd of sheep, o not even that they might take you as their own and wouldnt be able to distinguish you as the leader. -- Dont be fooled by the smile I can read you like a book-there are thousands like you out there but theres only 1 of me
User: anonymous
Date: 4/19/2008 11:02:00 AM
Has anyone dealt with favoritism on the job? My boss has her favorites that she likes. When ever they have a complaint it's "your fault" but whenever I have a complaint it's ME that's at fault. They get special treatment for extra things they do. If you are not part of her group you get overtime. If they do extra things they get overtime PLUS something else. It is impossible to prove as far as discrimination goes. I makes me so furious. She is very smug and snobby. I do a good job and get good reviews but her attitude is driving me crazy. It is making me very hateful toward her. I have been there 11 yrs. and am thinking of quitting. Any suggestions?
User: anonymous
Date: 5/2/2008 8:23:00 PM
I've posted on here several times. Usually it's after my boss runs someone off or fires them. It happens again and again, (and just has once more) and I'm so tired of the turnover. All have been good people, great employees, but she's never satisfied. She uses people then ruins their lives. Yes, SHE, does seem to be a lot of bad female bosses. I've noticed several were in libraries, too. Guess the incentric (or crazy) librarian has an excuse to act really crazy huh? Well, I'm hate seeing people hurt but I'm staying, have passed the test myself (I guess), she didn't get rid of me. So I'll hang in there, do my job, and count the days till retirement--either mine or hers.
User: anonymous
Date: 5/2/2008 9:08:00 PM
Me again, same one that posted just above.
Why stay in my job? For the money, I can't do better in that area.
And it's hard to find library jobs.
Which is why SHE is ruining lives.
People who work in libraries usually want to stay in libraries. But SHE fires them, they can't get jobs again, she ruins their lives.
I sit by and watch? Why? Because I need my job. Those who are vocal usually lose their jobs.
I hope this doesn't mean I'm just as bad as her.
I do care about people, she doesn't.
And I think someday it will come back to haunt her, somehow, someway, she will get her payback.
User: anonymous
Date: 5/11/2008 9:47:00 AM
Most people think my boss is great. He is the boss of a reputable nonprofit. He has the Board wrapped around his little finger. I have worked for him for eight years. I have just discovered that he is a liar and manipulator. We think he is having an affair with the bookkeeper who we think may be embezzling but we are afraid to approach the Board because he insinuates to the Board that we are jealous of the bookkeeper. The climate at work is one of fear for your job and employees no longer trust each other. I feel that the boss is targeting me to get rid of me and he is changing the employee handbook to say that there is no recourse to the Board if we can't work things out with him. Besides being afraid for my job I am concerned about the organization in the long run. Several people have left because of him and he has said they were trouble makers and the place is better off without them or he gives other reasons for them leaving. I just want someone somewhere to know that people aren't what they say they are because they do seem to just get away with it all and not care what kind of wreckage they leave behind. They just care about themselves while saying they care about everyone. I am a single mother supporting three children and my job is in jeopardy because my boss is protecting "his".
User: anonymous
Date: 5/12/2008 3:50:00 PM
My "she" boss is a control freak jealous bitch. I can't stand her. But the only consolation I have is she is like that to EVERYONE.... She is a horrible manager.
User: anonymous
Date: 5/13/2008 8:57:00 PM
Sounds like you and I might have the same "she" boss.
And my she boss is much like the "he" boss above too, messing up everyone's lives, firing people, letting them go, then they can't get a job again, I don't know how they are making it. So much turnover, it's so stressful, I guess my job is safe unlike others because I've been there longer, but sometimes I think she's killing me, high blood pressure that I can't get under control, I wake up sweating with my heart racing at night...
Just wish she realized what she's doing. Or perhaps she does, and just doesn't care.
User: anonymous
Date: 5/23/2008 10:32:00 PM
Last night I dreamed I was working somewhere so wonderful, same kind of place, and we were all so busy, but there was so much cooperation, so much respect for each other, and no fear, just respect and cooperation. I said to someone "I love working here" and they said, "We know, we all do". There was no bad boss, and it was so wonderful! Now I just need to know where to find this job!
User: anonymous
Date: 6/1/2008 12:22:00 PM
My boss has a favorite who always gets her way no matter what. This favorite is bitchy and back-stabbing and several people have left because of her. My boss doesn't know how much respect he has lost among his staff and volunteers who work at this well-respected nonprofit. He thinks he can do anything he wants to because people think he's great. The Board doesn't appear to care and why should they? They only come to a few meetings each month and don't really do that much. They do whatever he tells them to do. I have seen him lie and put people's jobs in jeopardy for his own ends. He threatened to fire a young woman who is a single mother with two toddlers and a mortgage and a health problem that she needs to have insurance for because she saw him "touching" his favorite and he saw her see him. My wife says I should quit but we do good work there and I like the job. I feel like a hypocrite sometimes because I won't say anything because I want to keep my job.
User: anonymous
Date: 6/29/2008 10:24:00 AM
My boss has her favorite in the office and never, EVER looks at me, but, always looks at her even when I am right there in the discussion mode. I have worked for her for 5 years and it was only when this new girl came on board 2 years ago, that everthing changed. I am pushed aside and this girl is her pride and joy. I cannot quit, I live in a town where jobs are scarce. She pays me well for the area, but, I get so depressed and unhappy. I feel that I do a good job for her and I know that if I did leave she would miss me in more ways than one. But, why does she ignore me..my work suffers because of the way she treats me, but, I struggle on and try to make-out that everything is o.k. I have gotten to the point now, where I are obnoxious because of this situation. I don't mean to be, but, I have this attitude where I just don't care anymore about her or her business. Is there a solution, without leaving the job?
User: anonymous
Date: 7/4/2008 2:38:00 AM
I am currently in the same situation. I work for a small company, 22 employees, with 3 owners. I am the administrative assistant for 14 years and am 36 yrs old. The President is such an arrogant a-hole along with his two-faced partner. The President walks around the place with so much to say about people and customers behind there backs. I see and hear so much because I am the first person to answer the phone and to be seen at the front desk. The arrogants has rubbed off so much onto the rest of the employees as well. I am at the point to tell the s.o.b.'s off.
User: anonymous
Date: 7/5/2008 11:05:00 AM
Thank you for replying to my moans and groans and I am so sorry for your problems. I did approach my boss because I was getting so depressed with life and she told me that she is sorry for making my life miserable and that she will try to be better towards me. Now, I have another problem. I approached the "other one" my boss's "pride and joy" and had a few words with her and I did it in anger..now she won't talk to me and says that she is "done with me" and that I am non-exsistant in her life.
I feel terrible because I have to work with her in close quarters and it is very difficult not to say something during the day as it is my job to tell her things. I really blew it this time and I am not the kind of person to hold a grudge...but, she is and will be nasty towards me. Is there a solution to this one?? I do get myself in a pickle at times..Please understand that I am not the type of person to go around and holler at people for no reason...I did tell her that she was part of my boss's problem towards me and that she was a big infuence in the way that she treated me. Wrong, wrong, wrong. I have now learned..don't open your mouth and say stuff you will regret later.
User: anonymous
Date: 7/11/2008 12:03:00 AM
I worked for a arrogant Napolean complex lazy lower management foreman for a MAJOR oil vcompany the last 5 years of my 26 year oil career, what the dumb shit didn't realize is i was multi- talented outside the oil company I turned him in to himan resources before i left and he has never been the same since.he had to appologize to me in person. I won that one!!!!!!
User: anonymous
Date: 7/11/2008 12:12:00 AM
A continuation of the Napolean complex ass kisser, he was not given a raise the following year and a co- worker told him he was going to turn him in for sopmething that he and anoter employee saw him do and he started to shake and tremble, I wish I could have witnessed this " work of art, but I was to busy pulling in 75>oo/ per hour on the tennis court!!!!!
User: anonymous
Date: 7/11/2008 12:23:00 AM
A last thought on Napolean boss,He is in hock up his ass for credit cards and his home he can't afford and his wifes boob job, When he appologized to me, I told him I would hate to have his job the money was nothing and he had no power of decision becuse the major oil companies will ultmatly make the final call, so when I threatened to turn this all over to My LEGAL TEAM the weasel practically kissed my ass right there. End of story employee WINNS THIS ONE!!!!!!!
User: anonymous
Date: 7/17/2008 9:59:00 AM
My boss is a lying five-faced bitch. Never keep her words, will manipulate people to be in her traps and finally dump them after she gets what she needs. I wish the company fire her and just find another person to replace her. I've been totally wrong about her. I was dumb enough to believe that she was nice to me and sincere but shit; she just suddenly change and go against me. I hate her. I am very disappointed and I wish I've never known her.
User: anonymous
Date: 7/18/2008 9:58:00 PM
Again another favoritism complaint, my boss has two favorites in our small office. No good to complain, the last employee who did, doesn't work with us any longer. She even complained to upper management, but that was ignored by the bosses boss. Unless it affects his personal life he doesn't consider it a problem. Our boss takes them out to lunch, they know what is going on all the time and rub it in tour faces. They go shopping and to each others parties and cook outs. The boss has gone 3 days without speaking to the rest of us this week. You know what is really sad, the two favorites laugh about how they lie to the boss. but the boss is a person who would rather hear what they want to hear then the actual truth. That is why she doesn't like us. If the numbers aren't good, we just tell her the truth. I feel that we are not given raises and promotions because we don't stand around and chat with her for hours on end. We are at our desk, doing our jobs (we all have deadlines we all have to meet) I have never been felt so unappreciated and had low self esteem as I do now. Oh the icing on the cake...this boss loves her presciption pain pills. She hardly ever shows up to work before 10 or 11 each day. I just wish they would do a random drug screen on the employees in our building.
User: anonymous
Date: 7/20/2008 5:42:00 PM
I have a real shithead when it comes to a boss. He looks as though he has not bathed in a couple of weeks, or changed the oil in his hair in a month or so. I say fuck em all, we should be like Bruce Willis in The Last Boy Scout, and walk up to our boss and say "Head or Gut?"
User: anonymous
Date: 7/22/2008 6:55:00 PM
i really wish upper management would see how favoritism in the workplace by middle management makes good productive employees get to a point of they don't care. We (not the favorites) are to the point of just doing our jobs well enough not to get in trouble but we aren't working to our full capabilties. why bother, it will not be acknowledged or appreciated. and don't even think it will help you get a raise later. I am to the point of this will have to do until I find another job.
User: ladybug
Date: 7/24/2008 7:45:00 PM
you know what I hate, I have a horrible boss, treats most of the employees like crap. Laughs and calls other dept employees stupid because they have reasonable questions regarding changes she has made. I am sure she calls us names behind doors too. but what is so bad, a lot of employees from other departments thinks she is nice and have mentioned how good she is to us because she gives us small gift baskets at the holidays, birthdays and work anniversary. She is a "master of deception" Most people don't know the real person she is. they only see what she wants them to see. I really think she has mental issues that should to be addressed
User: anonymous
Date: 7/25/2008 11:22:00 AM
My boss is a complete two faced bag of douche. He speaks ill of employees behind their backs yet still within earshot of other employees, he repremands other managers in front of subordinates, and he makes suspicious, even racist comments about people all the time. He is suffering from severe emotional inconclusion, he is nice one minute, then ten minutes later he becomes a complete ASS ( usually when there are people around) he undermines my intelligence constantly and ugh, did i already say he was an ASS wow that feels good.
User: anonymous
Date: 7/25/2008 11:23:00 AM
My boss is a complete two faced bag of douche. He speaks ill of employees behind their backs yet still within earshot of other employees, he repremands other managers in front of subordinates, and he makes suspicious, even racist comments about people all the time. He is suffering from severe emotional inconclusion, he is nice one minute, then ten minutes later he becomes a complete ASS ( usually when there are people around) he undermines my intelligence constantly and ugh, did i already say he was an ASS wow that feels good.
User: anonymous
Date: 7/25/2008 11:24:00 AM
My boss is a complete two faced bag of douche. He speaks ill of employees behind their backs yet still within earshot of other employees, he repremands other managers in front of subordinates, and he makes suspicious, even racist comments about people all the time. He is suffering from severe emotional inconclusion, he is nice one minute, then ten minutes later he becomes a complete ASS ( usually when there are people around) he undermines my intelligence constantly and ugh, did i already say he was an ASS wow that feels good.
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