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    Giving my notice tomorrow, and scared...

    Posted by: snarkgirl
    Date: 6/22/2008 11:38:27 PM

    After working for my company for 8 months, I am ready to leave. In the initial interview, I told my boss I would give him a year.

    I work in a small office, with only seven other employees. Once a week, my boss comes in, and -- this not an exageration -- yells at us to work faster, slams doors, kicks things, and tells us we're not doing our jobs well enough.

    He frequently gets angry at employees for not doing things that he says he told them to do, but which no one else can remember him ever mentioning.

    He keeps giving me more and more responsibilities (rewards, he calls them) but doesn't give me more time or more pay to do them.

    Every so often, he seems to come to his senses and call a meeting in which he tells us that things are going to change. For about a week, things do, and then things seem to get worse, if anything.

    A few months ago, he made a deal with myself and another employee concerning deadlines. We made or deadlines, but even that first week he didn't make his. He had an excuse, though, just as he always does.

    I have come to the realization that I do not want, or need, to be in this environment. It's gotten to the point where I can't sleep and am often sick. Today, when I saw his car in the parking lot, I drove around the corner and stayed there until I saw him drive away.

    I'm worried about tomorrow for a few reasons, though.

    1) I don't like confrontation and I KNOW he's going to yell at me.

    2) My boyfriend works in the same office, and I don't want him to be caught in the middle.

    3) My boss bailed me out of an unfortunate -- not work realated -- incident about three months ago, and I think he's going to hold that over my head.

    4) When people have left in the past, he has bad-mouthed them throughout the company.

    5) We share a social group. I don't mean within the company, but also beyond it in the community.

    On researching resignations, all the online stuff tells me not to burn any bridges and make this a positive experience. I'm all for that, but I don't see how.

    Any help?!



    Reply from: matildagsd
    Date: 6/23/2008 4:03:00 PM
    Reply: Snarkgirl, This sounds like a case scenario for Goodboss. Goodboss, if you're out there, we could use your advice this time....:)

    Reply from: goodboss
    Date: 7/3/2008 6:12:00 AM
    Reply: Sorry for not posting for so long...I got fed up with spending all kinds of time researching legal info and typing long detailed responses for people who couldn't be bothered replying to me - don't get me wrong, I'm not looking for gratitude, but an acknowledgement now and then sure would be nice!

    Reply from: goodboss
    Date: 7/3/2008 6:23:00 AM
    Reply: Anyway, snarkgirl, are you giving notice of your resignation, or are you just walking out? I realize you're probably giving notice, and that's a good thing. Even though it would be perfectly legal for your boss to react badly (and count on it, he will!), and for him to treat you like dirt through the notice period (and count on it, he will!), and for him to treat your boyfriend like dirt forever afterwards (and count on it, he will!), and even fire your boyfriend for being the BF of someone who quit (and he might!), and badmouth you around the office (and count on it, he will!), at least you'll have done the right thing. At this point there's nothing much you can do about this guy's bad behaviour (except maybe making a comment about your professionalism in giving him notice, and your understanding that he will behave professionally too) so you're just going to have to be brave and put up with things 'til you're gone. Regarding your boyfriend, he should probably start looking for a new job too. If you're worried about a future bad reference from your boss, talk to a few friends at the office and ask them if they'll be your references too. Then when you're handing your reference list to a prospective employer, explain that your former boss is a wee bit temperamental and you're not sure what he's going to say about you - and that if the prospective employer wants a clearer picture of your history with this company, he/she should call the listed coworkers as well.

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