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Quit or be Fired?

Posted by: Rachel33
Date: 12/6/2005 7:28:12 PM

I have a question. I took a position in a new career. I was very clear with my employer, as was my resume, that I did not have a background in the career. I am a good employee and have had great reviews with other employers. This was my first time to work in a non-profit organization in an executive position. I knew it would be tough, but thought that with them telling me in this industry that there is a two year learning curve - I could learn from my boss and do well. My boss is awesome at his job. However, he is, how can I say this tactfully, he is single and per my research doing more than is normally expected from the position. I admire him for that, but prefer a life balance and realistic expectations. Don't get me wrong, I have put in many hours without complaint.

My situation is this, when I have been ill and called off sick, he has told me that I am not being a team player, yet when others in the office are sick, he tells them to get well soon. He missed one of my meetings recently because he was sick and needed to go home and rest. Regardless. I missed an evening outdoor event in the rain because I was sick with a bad cold and was chilled. He got very mad and the next day told me how disappointed he was that I gave up so easily. Yet at a meeting two night later a woman at the meeting said "Gawd, Go Home!" because I was coughing so much and so congested. My boss and I had a conversation where he stated that he noticed that I had been sick a lot on Mondays and Fridays. I was sick on a couple of Saturdays through Tuesday or Wednesday and went to the doctor, so I had a slip. i mentioned to him that I was just glad that I had gotten sick on Saturday so that I didn't have to miss as much work. He wrote me up stating that I told him that the job was so stressful that I just needed another day off on the weekend. He has recently made some other accusations, in writing, that I can not dispute because they here verbal conversations. I feel as if he is putting together his paperwork to fire me in the same way that he got rid of the previous full-time female executive. I was sick at work all day because of this lie. I mean, it is my word against his. He wins and I really don't want to battle over this. I would prefer to leave under good terms. I have worked very hard to get where I am and want to succeed but should I quit before I find another position or should I wait for him to fire me so that I can get some unemployment if the process takes too long? I have an MBA and good past employer references (if this will help).

Thank you.

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