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    Key Books

    Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You

    Problem Bosses: Who They Are and How to Deal With Them

    Coping with Toxic Managers, Subordinates ...And Other Difficult People: Using Emotional Intelligence to Survive and Prosper

    Beating a bullying boss

    "There are three ways to deal with office bullies. You can ignore them, confront them or report them to the boss. But what do you do when the bully is your boss? Delicate situation. You like your job. The money's good. The benefits are terrific. If only this creep would cease invading your head space. Odds are that isn't going to happen."

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    User: anonymous
    Date: 5/8/2005 1:24:00 PM

    Very encouraging. I now know that I'm not insane AND there's actions I can take to prove it, maybe even change it!

    User: anonymous
    Date: 2/24/2006 4:34:00 PM

    When something goes well it was her effort, it it goes wrong it was your fault. She belittles employees to their peers, and takes pride in ripping her junior supervisors apart. Sadly, she doesn't follow the policies set up for her own directorate and is causing the organization to become less and less effective. I have discussed the problem with her superiors, but they tend more to pat you on the back and tell you to try to work it out and get along than to provide any help. With only a couple of exceptions, none of the employees in the division can stand her - but she appears to remain clueless.

    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/17/2006 11:27:00 PM

    My boss has built her area up from the ground (and she never misses a moment to drop that little bit of information into a onversation). The Headmaster thinks she's the bees-knees but she's a cow. Having been in the job for many years you'd think she'd know the routine but she drops things on me at the last minute then does this little, "I told you about that weeks ago!" I'm her only subordinate so I have ne peers to share with. Others in the workplace know she's a cow and ask how I can work with her, but the job is do-able, as long as she'd just stay out of my space. She also takes my credit or assigns my work to another person that she prefers when discussing it with her boss. Her tone clearly demonstrates that she thinks little of me. What the heck can I do? Speaking to the Business Manager hasn't helped at all.

    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/5/2006 5:32:00 PM

    I had a bullying boss and reported her to her boss. I did so because there was a history on her, one person left the company because of her and told HR about it, two others found a job in another department of the company, some of her peers and even people above her in another division complained about her yelling at them in meetings. So I went to her boss and asked to change boss. It took a few weeks, but it worked, I now have a new boss, he's not perfect but a much nicer person, no bullying.

    User: anonymous
    Date: 4/14/2006 10:18:00 AM

    I have bosses and supervisors that never take me seriously, until they discriminated where I was from. They are nice to me at times. I have a lawyer and I am considering getting help as they should have been dismissed but were not. They make rude comments to me and are nasty too. What's worse is that I work at a retirement home and they bully the residents also. The owner doesn't even seen to care either, What is this world coming too??

    User: anonymous
    Date: 8/7/2007 6:51:00 PM

    My boss has been the supervisor/manager of another area and 6 months ago acquired our area as well. He loves to intimidate almost everyone, belittiling them, calling them names to their face and to other people. He is supposed to be training us now that he is in charge of our area because no one else "knows sh**" but him. However, the great training we were supposed to get has not happened. He comes over if there is a problem, QUICKLY tells me to do this and this and then turns around and leaves. Then if we dont understand or dont get it done, he comes back over and jumps down our throat. He has also been known to say that he loves when people are intimidated by him "if people think I'm god and they are beneith me, thats the way I like it."

    User: anonymous
    Date: 12/8/2007 8:57:00 PM

    Yup, that's the main problem with our work environments these days. Emotionally immature managment; their only qualification need be that they don't have a life outside their jobs and put in the hours. Fact is, our work environments have become little spinoffs of the ancient feudal system, replete with braggarts and bullies for head honchos. And unfortunately there are no employment police around to stop 'em. It has to be dealt with on an individual basis and even then your only option often is to leave and try your luck elsewhere. People want to work where there is dignity and respect for their efforts. But they usually end up stuck in a primitive caste system. It gets old.

    User: anonymous
    Date: 1/13/2008 3:41:00 PM

    Its so discouraging to hear that hard working people with integrity are being harrassed, belittled, and discredited because of ill witted boss bullies. I started a new job the first of the year, and my new boss literally hates me!! I have no idea why, but its very apparent that I'm on her agenda for the next termination. Its difficult to become acclimated to new work environment when your supposed superior is doing everything possible to discredit your knowledge and work. what to do??

    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/9/2008 6:40:00 AM

    I am intern for a group I helped to build two years ago along side boss, i am older the he. internship was just way to get paid for the job I had done free for year. Now I tried complaining for wrongful dismissal long story but boss singed me up for course to keep me out of meetings schedualled for same dates as course. I had plans already and said I would on next available one take it to comply. I was fired as result of him signing me up and me not going. Complained was told not fired by 4 person board of directors. complaining got me play nice in sand box!

    User: anonymous
    Date: 3/9/2008 6:46:00 AM

    Thats was months ago I since have gotten unfair evaluations from this boss that steals credit, writes theatening emails with deadlines for stuff completed for co partner on internship,tries to control my weekend plans demanding details and even snooping on conferences none work related. 5 person board seems not to know this is bully. co worker sees this wont bring her complaints out, others and yet nothing is getting done I am afraid to complain again and have it appear just office squabbles. TO make matters worse office is small space 3 workers boss doesn t shower and picks his head contstantly where you see dandruff fly around* Its truly sick! I am stressed sick and stubborn. No policies in this group on anything! Federal laws apply only. :o( I hate to leave a group I was there creating from the start!I a sick from this being set up to fail to feeling actually stalked on sick days via email by this man!

    User: survivor
    Date: 11/22/2009 10:53:00 AM

    i was on medical leave for cancer. my husband who was my boss resigned and got another job. one of his employees took his position as manager. when i came back from my leave others began to tell me that the new boss was trying to discredit me. i shook it off as people trying to make trouble for no reason. soon enough i found that he had been talking bad about me, even accusing my husband of theft. i lasted a whole two weeks when i walked out. he targeted me by trying to give me extra work knowing that i already did more than my share. i did what i was told in the two weeks thinking i could deal with it. seeing i didn't crumble he began to tell me things like all he had to do was write someone up without them knowing about it. all he had to do was say they refused to sign it. he would do this several times and then he had a reason to fire them. i knew then i had to leave. i left without giving notice and i know this was wrong but i didn't know what else he would come up with. the adminitrator and he are friends so it was pointless to report it. so now i am on the hunt for a new job.

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