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    Boss on a power trip

    Posted by: Random89
    Date: 8/22/2011 4:37:51 AM

    I work as a sales consultant in retail at a phone store, the new manager was a sales consultant who was offered position by the owner....her and the owner have been flirty with each other before so she always got better bonuses and incentives. Im one of the top sales consultants consistently exceeding targets and selling everything they want me to sell yet i get none of these.

    Ive told the owner i have management experience and would happily take on a management role. Yet when the management position came up we were told we would all get interviews. Instead the manager position was taken by the girl that was flirty with the boss an lazy at work. They didnt even give us an interview!!

    As soon as she became manager, shes been given the authority to fire....whenever we do things the smallest bit wrong she mentions that she has the authority to fire us. We get in trouble for using our phones at work when shes always using hers. If by some miracle she actually served a customer and it ended up being something crappy, she just palms it off to us. Shes becom extremly bossy and making us do alot more than before when she does nothing. She even mentioned she liked being manager cause she gets to bludge more and then said "im joking".

    Cant complain to the owner because theyre too close. I dont know what to do to deal with the situation or someone to tell.

    Reply from: goodboss
    Date: 8/23/2011 1:17:00 PM
    Reply: What is this verb to bludge? I've never heard of it before...

    Reply from: Random89
    Date: 8/25/2011 6:22:00 PM
    Reply: To bludge means to not do any work at work, or to avoid doing any work lol sorry aussie slang

    Reply from: deassoc50
    Date: 8/28/2011 6:17:00 PM
    Reply: In these instances, there really isn't too much you can do. It's a small and close work environment and work place romances / flings, although not particularly healthy, leaves you and others kind of the one man / woman out. Frankly, if you can find something else, do it. If not, grit your teeth till you can!

    Reply from: goodboss
    Date: 8/29/2011 8:44:00 AM
    Reply: While there aren't any remedies for this kind of thing in Canada and the US, there may be such remedies in Australia. I recommend you try to find a free legal advice site in Australia and see what they say there.

    Reply from: Fish27
    Date: 11/22/2011 3:06:00 PM
    Reply: I am writing b/c I am angry about a few things that have been happening to me and I have noone to talk to about it. I do not trust my current boss/supervisor. Its frusterating she has called me into the office threatened me about files and I have never been writen up for them. She has treated me like I am stupid and ignorant. She talks about my personal matters to others, rips me on reveiws and then the next review I did the same thing and she doesn't mark it off. ( very inconsistant) I am tired of her crap and plan on leaving b/c the work enviroment is immature and tense. I have been with the company for 3 years. I have reason to believe she has kept me from moving up in the company.

    Reply from: evocateur
    Date: 4/12/2012 6:44:00 PM
    Reply: I have a 3 questions for those experiencing a bad boss. #1 What has you thinking that it's possible to change them? #2 What sense of yourself will you need to tap into in order to leave and find a better job where you're appreciated and valued? #3 What paradigm are you stuck in that has you thinking there aren't better jobs out there or that you can't have one if there were?

    Reply from: LibraRising
    Date: 11/18/2012 6:16:00 PM
    Reply: Yes, but how do we manage where we are until we get that better job? Because we have to pay our bills. For example, I'm in Calif. I waited nearly 2 years before finding another job, Now I have one and I have a boss who is not supportive of her employees, cuts them down, and does not know about the software, when it's all about the software. I've been there just two weeks, and I've clashed with her several times. I work at home as a CSR. Calls come through my computer. The company software is loaded on my computer. I could not get the company software to work one day. This meant I could not process the credit cards. I was panicking. I was pleading for her help. She knew what I was stuggling with. So her comment to me was "We are going to be very busy today. If you don't think you can handle things, Just log out and take the day off." WHAT ?? She did advise me to log off and log back in but this did not resolve the software problems. I had to figure it out on my own that the software needed a different browser. When I told her I had it up and running in Google Chrome, she said this was impossible, that it could only function in IE. So this is what I'm dealing with. I've only been on the job 2 weeks. And I'm already looking for another job. How does this look on my resume??

    Reply from: danbaker
    Date: 11/11/2014 12:30:00 AM
    Reply: Thanks for sharing. The most crucial test of a boss is self-awareness. The best bosses are in tune with how the little things they say and do impact people, and they are adept at adjusting to bolster both performance and dignity. Managing others takes particular facets of personality, presentation and experience to do well. Occasionally, however, it is instructive simply knowing what not to do. Here are a few of the most frequent mistakes managers make, wringing every drop of malaise and agony from what should be a lively, collaborative workplace as well as some suggestions for making things right. Read more

    Reply from: david1235
    Date: 10/7/2015 11:04:00 PM
    Reply: After our boss decided to treat all of us like #$@&, we decided to tell him how we felt while still keeping our jobs. We heard about the idea of submitting a Kudoboard . We logged onto and got our whole office to send our boss an ANONYMOUS Kudoboard expressing how we felt. IT WORKED! No one got fired and the boss acted much better towards everyone. Give it a try.

    Reply from: david1235
    Date: 10/7/2015 11:04:00 PM
    Reply: Try anonymously having your office tell the boss how you feel. Our office did this by creating a Kudoboard. We created an account and made an anonymous Kudoboard where we all got to share our thoughts and send it to our boss.

    Reply from: david1235
    Date: 10/14/2015 12:00:00 AM
    Reply: Try anonymously having your office tell the boss how you feel. Our office did this by creating a Kudoboard. We created an account and made an anonymous Kudoboard where we all got to share our thoughts and send it to our boss.

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