The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond
Reviewer/Reader Feedback: "This book was extremely well-written and to the point. It was so helpful to see the same behaviors I had observed documented in the book. The author not only describes verbal abuse but explains the typical perspective of both the abuser and the abused. Having an understanding of these perspectives is invaluable and key to understanding the dynamics of the verbally abusive relationship. Thankfully the author was not content to stop these, but went on to describe responses to the abuser that have been tested in real world situations."
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Date: 8/2/2005 6:25:00 PM
okay how do stop an verbally abusive relationship without ending the relationship
Date: 5/29/2006 1:17:00 AM
i feel like i am losing my mind and i just have such low self esteem from all the verbal abuse that i have dealt with for the pass 24 years i now have gain so much weight and i jst can't face people i guess its all the sceaming and insults that he does to me he has gotten so much worse and now it is like i can't face people and friends everyone says to get out everyone sees how he is destroying me and how i have no self esteem igot to get out but don't know how please someone help me before i die
Date: 3/4/2007 9:13:00 PM
How do you get out of a job when the boss is verbally/emotionally abusive and you haven't even been there for 6 months? Is it possible to explain to a potential employer the "real" reason that you're looking for a new job without making yourself look overly sensitive?
Date: 8/25/2007 12:18:00 AM
To the last comment on 3/4/2007 -- Start looking for another job. But you shouldn't have to explain anything about your previous boss to your new potential employer.
Date: 4/4/2008 3:12:00 AM
To "Anonymous" re verbal abuse and weight gain - I have just escaped from 7 years of this and even after 6 months am just realizing the huge and dangerous risk I was taking remaining in a relationship that was taking apart my spirit, piece by piece. In less than 6 months since I left, I have lost 37 pounds. I am healthy, though had to take antidepressants at first. I am gradually seeing that there is hope for a better life, and I no longer miss him, nor hate him. I just feel the extreme caution one might feel around a poisonous snake - beautiful snake, but stay away from it. With all my heart, I urge you to run, no matter how you have to do it, no matter what you have to do. Once your spirit is completely broken, the rest will follow. Get the hell out of there, and STAY gone for at least 6 months, you will be so happy you saved yourself, because those people that are abusive never, never will save you. They would perch like a vulture on your corpse and finish you off. Trust me, I know exactly what you're going through, and feel your desperation. Run now, deal with details later. Good luck - Suzanne
Date: 4/4/2008 4:10:00 AM
just get out now, figure out what you're going to tell him or what way you'll deal with it or whatever later. right now, just get out of his orbit, if can can.
Date: 7/11/2008 11:47:00 AM
hi this is my 1st time looking at this site. i am abuse verbally i know that but still cant leave cos ilove him so much and cant bare not having him but i cant live with him. he calls me fat and pushes me on very rare occassions. just wanna know how do u get the guts to leave i admire those who do. fair play to ye all. from G in ireland
Date: 8/5/2008 6:56:00 PM
I started dating my husband in 1993 and the verbal abuse started before we married later in 1995. I was young not even quite 20 years old at the time. I always made excuses for him treating me that way. It has now been a little over 15 years that I have been married to the same man. I don't have much self asteem any more. He seems to never be pleased with what I do. I don't ever feel that I do any thing good enough to satisfy or please him.
Date: 9/11/2008 3:31:00 PM
I have been married for 28 years. For the first 8 to 9 years of our marriage he would beat me beyond belief. The night I told him his father had tried to sexually assault me, instead of comforting me, he beat me. He no longer beats me, but he does verbally and emotionally abuse me. I have no self esteem. I feel like I have wasted 28 years of my life. I have never talked to anyone about how I feel. All this pain and hurt is tearing me apart. I feel defeated and feel like maybe it's time to find some peace in my life.
Date: 11/8/2008 10:07:00 PM
I escaped from a verbally and physically abusive relationship over 10 years ago. Please, anonymous - all of you - know that your low self esteem is a result of the relationship and when you get out of it, you will find your esteem - and a life you never thought could be so good! Getting out is much like an addiction - pick a date, stick to it, and take every day after one step at a time. It's the best thing you can do for your life - we only get one life, don't waste it being miserable!!! With supportive thoughts, ~another anon-y-mouse
Date: 12/4/2008 3:14:00 AM
I have been in verbally,physically,emotionally abusive relationship for 6 months.But when i realised that i m losing my self confidence and myself and have become his slave.I decided to tell everything to my friends and their only advice and i myself felt that only way to get out of this hell is to move on in life and forget painful 6 months.
Date: 1/22/2009 2:33:00 PM
I am in a verbal abusive realtionship who is controlling me..Iam very scared
because I am competely alone in the world no job no income and is in a depression,I hate you I am now I feel like a nothing in this world I don't know where to go and how to start again..
Date: 1/22/2009 2:41:00 PM
my depression is controlling me because he laughs at it ... and I spelled i hate who I am in the last posting can some give me advice please
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